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I love Cuba
this is Damon Cart from NLP Gym how NLP can help you if you haven't already
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videos on a regular basis you haven't guessed by now I am in Cuba it's a
lovely country the people are awesome music in the culture are amazing if you
want to see more of my travels here you can go to my other YouTube channel
Midlife Man where I go more in depth with the travels here I'll share a
little bit of my personal story about NLP and the practices that I had
previous to this which was I was really into setting goals personal development
self-improvement which a lot of people are into and it's
how they find their way to NLP I got really into non-duality
and it was a way for me to sort of work on my suffering my inner suffering and
non-duality is a wonderful study it's a wonderful it's hard to say that it's not
much of a practice it's more of an understanding but it didn't give me
applications it didn't give me real techniques to use
so it wasn't something I could put into
place to solve problems but it was a very good
mindset to come from I just didn't find it very practical to solve the problems
that I was facing in my life at the time now I never really got into the secret
and the law of attraction but it has a lot of Appeal and it has it had a lot of
Appeal for me and it has a lot of appeal for a lot of people but again the
unfortunate thing about that is there's some truth to those ideas those concepts
but again they don't you don't really get the the real-life exercises and
applications and practice to put it into your life and make it really work for
you NLP is what gave me that when I go through some practices of what NLP
implements that can really help you really change your life help you achieve
the goals that you want help you overall get what you want out of life
the first thing is clarity about what you want if you don't know what you want
it's gonna be very hard for you to get it it's sort of like getting into a cab
in New York and saying I don't want to go to Times Square and the cab driver is
like well where do you want to go oh my god I don't want to go to Penn Station
laughter where do you want to go I don't want to go to Central Park okay so you
get the idea you don't know where you're going if you don't have a target if you
don't have a vision or goal you're not going to know how to get there
so the first thing is the well for now coming in on PD super important helps
you focus on what you want takes it even further so that you understand the value
of what it is you're trying to experience this is so important to
values is what you live for your values are what your every decision is based on
now unfortunately we get these confused a lot of times with outside values what
other people think is important or other people find important for us and what
society and your culture what all these other values are we get confused between
our values and those values those values are never really going to fulfill you so
you really want to get in touch with what your own values are there's nothing
wrong with fulfilling values outside of yourself is nothing wrong with pleasing
your parents and doing the things that your culture and society think you
should do as long as you know the difference between your values and those
outside values and that those outside values are never going to fully fulfill
you so knowing your values when you behave and align your behavior and what
you do in your life to your values they're going to be happy you're going
to have high self esteem you're going to be confident so well-formed outcome
values elicitation those two things right there will change your life I
assure you and then we have so many other NOP processes now where NLP
techniques come from is basically having modeled others successful people over
time and NLP is not so much about the techniques and the processes in fact
Richard Bandler one of the founders of NLP said it himself
NLP is more of a mindset and an attitude and through that mindset in attitude and
the technology of modeling modeling success that is where the techniques
come from they stumbled across processes and techniques that are seem to be
somewhat universe out of that modeling out of understanding human patterning
and behavioral patterns they elicited certain techniques and processes that
work really effectively like the swish pattern like anchoring like mapping
across you have been successful at some things in your life you know even if you
feel like you're not successful and anything you've ever done it's not true
you have been successful at many things you gotta count the small stuff
especially count the small stuff because you're not gonna count yourself as
successful unless you're being extraordinary all the time and nobody's
that way all the time so the small successes count big time so
think about where you've been successful in your life and you can model yourself
you can model your own success you can model
what your state was like when you were being successful you could tap into what
were those strategies and those patterns that you were using to be successful
most of the time they're completely unconscious and people will succeed at
something and they're not even sure how they did it or maybe they think they
know but in what they think has nothing to do with it ask a genius how they
became a genius and they will tell you well I did this or I did that they don't
know if that's what made them a genius so because you'd have to model that
create a pattern around it and then test it and then see if you could transfer
that to someone else and see if they could be successful that way most people
don't know how they became successful or how they succeeded at something again
they can tell you what they think it was but they don't really know so you could
start by modeling yourself a time when you were successful and then mapping
that across and there's many different patterns and techniques I'm not going to
go into right here but you can look this up on the internet you can look up
well-formed outcomes you can look up values elicitation you can look up
mapping across and modeling I've done videos on most of these things so you
can check in my own channel for some of the videos that I've done or you it's
just as easy information you can find on the Internet
a map thing across works really really well when it's you've been successful at
something and you want to be successful at something else similar to it for
example maybe you're really successful golfer but you want to be more
successful in soccer your soccer game is terrible your golf game is really good
well that's close enough to map across because they're both physical activities
what if you want to be successful at something in your life and you can't
find something similar in your life that you've been successful at what do you do
then then you can model someone else that's a little more involved it's a
little more than what I what I can cover in this video but there's plenty of
information out there once again on NLP modeling and how
model other people so you find someone who is successful in the way that you
want to be successful and you use NLP to model that person how they became
successful and you're very specific to how they became successful in that
specific area you don't want to model everything you don't want to model their
entire life believe me no matter how successful someone is they have areas of
their life where they're not successful you want to make sure and be careful not
to pick up those other parts up you've probably seen time again I've seen it
many times there's a successful person and people around them imitate
everything that they do they have to take their behavior they imitate their
bad habits they just do everything they try to talk like them that's not NLP
modeling that's not true modeling unless you're an actor and you need to portray
that person in a movie don't do that find a specific context that they're
successful in and stick to that specific context don't model their bad behaviors
and it happens a lot I've seen it happen a lot you know from mental peers and not
in oh here's NLP can help anyone because for the most part you're just tapping
into your inner resources and taking how you've been you've already been
successful in life and recreating that success in other areas
you're also discovering what your values are you're getting clear about what you
want that helps you focus on it more that helps you get there NLP can help
everyone and opie can help you too
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