INFJs are constantly underestimated by those around them.
This is probably because they are considered a paradox.
Whether at work, in the family, friendships, or in their relationships, the INFJs capability
is highly underestimated.
However, don’t let their quiet and calm demeanor deceive you, INFJs are not weak.
This personality type is more capable than you can imagine.
INFJs are one of the most intelligent of all the personality types.
They are highly intuitive and although introverts, they can assimilate to their surroundings
so their actually closer to ambiverts.
You should also not confuse their love for peace as an inability to fight for themselves.
INFJs may not be aggressive by nature but they can be, especially when defending themselves
or those they love.
So let’s look at, 9 reasons you should never test an INFJ.
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Cruel and Cold
INFJs tend to avoid confrontation wherever possible.
Their first instinct, when faced with conflict, is to choose to shut you out.
They are loners by nature; and so, they have a preference for solitude.
To them, their peace and quiet is much more important than any person or anything else.
When their boundaries are crossed and they make a decision to cut someone off, it doesn’t
matter how close they are to that person, they are able to detach from them completely
and move on with their lives like they never existed.
It can feel jarring coming from a personality known for their kindness, but an INFJs heart
can be the most cruel and cold when pushed too far.
Door Slam
INFJs are commonly known for door slamming.
They will tolerate those who test them for a while but when they reach their limit, that
is it for that person.
They will block their emotions and treat them as if they don’t exist.
It might be quite hard to escape those people they interact with on a daily basis like family
members or colleagues altogether.
However, they may still speak with them but not in a vulnerable and intimate way as they
used to.
This is called the INFJ emotional door slam.
If you ever reach this point with an INFJ you probably asked for it because INFJs are
not drastic.
If you keep testing them and they don’t see the need to prove themselves, they will
not hesitate to slam the door
Lash Out
INFJs are peaceful, but this doesn’t mean that they are weak.
They can also get angry when provoked like any other human being.
Two most common ways INFJs react when provoked are either lashing out or giving you the silent
treatment.
However, INFJs who lash out are not discussed as much, since many people stereotype INFJs
as meek individuals.
However, underestimating an INFJs ability to lash out will be at your own peril.
Although they see it as a defensive measure, they are capable of being the aggressor when
confronting people.
Also when provoked, INFJs can be incredibly cruel and callous with their words.
Highly Intelligent
INFJs as quiet as they are, are perfectionists and incredibly capable.
Majority of them are great achievers in life who set extremely high goals for themselves
and follow through with actions.
Their perfectionist nature also helps them since they stop at nothing unless they achieve
their set goals.
Majority of them are very intelligent and knowledgeable about diverse topics such as
science, politic as well as arts.
Being introverts, their capabilities are rarely recognized, and they don’t do a great job
at letting it be known.
However, INFJs tend to have the right answers most of the time and see patterns and little
things that most people miss.
It can be particularly embarrassing for someone to underestimate their intelligence.
Expose your Weakness
INFJs value deep emotional connections with people.
They have an extraordinary ability to feel people’s moods, both emotionally and physically.
They can generally sense people's fear, sorrows, and insecurities.
Someone with all that information can prove to be quite dangerous.
The INFJs will often use exposing someone's weakness as a last resort, however, when pushed
they will do it.
The INFJ often knows a lot of things about those around them, even though they themselves
are very private.
Whether they use their highly accurate intuition to pick up on the unsaid things about people,
or the direct things said to them, they are quick to realize people’s fears, as well
as their weaknesses and flaws.
The INFJ will never use this information against someone unless pushed over the edge.
Incredible Apathete
INFJs know what they bring to the world in fact making the world a better place is a
core purpose for them.
That’s why they are always out to give everyone who needs them a chance.
From their empathy, compassion, care, or giving people a listening ear.
To their creative decision-making based on their intuition.
But if you keep testing the INFJ, they are capable of incredible apathy towards people
and causes.
For example, an INFJ may stop contributing their brilliant ideas to their company if
they feel continuously undervalued.
Step over you
INFJs have introverted intuitions.
They’re great planners and tend to have long-range goals for the future.
As a result, they are very invested in these goals and can put everything on the line to
make sure they are executed.
They may even take drastic steps to achieve their aspirations, believing that the overall
benefit is worth more than the short-term detriments.
People should be very careful when underestimating how important an INFJs dreams are to them.
INFJs are capable of ignoring their famously good moral compass in order to stay “on
task” or achieve their plan.
If this means stepping over someone who won’t get out of their way, they will do it.
Manipulative
INFJs show great respect for others.
As a result, they a generally shown the same respect.
That is one of the reasons it is easy for them to manipulate others.
People trust them, they see them as reasonable and attentive and someone who wants the best
for everybody.
People are usually right about this assumption.
When INFJs manipulate someone, they don’t generally tend to have bad intentions.
They just want to turn around what is wrong in a subtle way, quietly and efficiently.
This comes naturally to them.
They are very socially observant, so they know what to do to change things.
INFJs are capable of manipulating just about anyone to think a certain way.
They can be very skilled at imposing their ideas on others.
It is therefore ill-advised to try to win them over with an argument they are not for.
You just might be on their side before you know it.
Take great risks
When an INFJ is pushed too hard they can become extremely stressed.
When this happens, they can fall into their inferior sensing side; becoming atypically
irresponsible, thoughtless, and short-sighted.
Grip stress can affect an INFJ in multiple ways.
Some are relatively harmless like obsessive cleaning or excessive exercising – to channel
out the uncomfortable energy.
However, some can be very unhealthy and even dangerous.
INFJs under grip stress can become risk magnets.
They make compulsive decisions without their usual thorough thought processes.
Some even seek out hazardous adventures like; bungee jumping from immense heights, over
drinking and eating, or even taking off in their car with no real destination or plan
of returning.
An INFJ put under too much pressure can therefore be dangerous for not only themselves but also
the people around them.
Physiologically they have an increased level of adrenaline.
This can make them become less compassionate or have any concern for the long-term impacts
of what they are doing.
INFJs may look agreeable to almost all sorts of treatment.
However, you don’t want to test them because they will put you exactly where you ought
to be, that is outside their life.
If you test the INFJ too much, they can door slam you, lash out or embarrass you.
The INFJ might be silent but not stupid.
They could be caring and compassionate but not weak.
These are definitely not the people to test.
INFJs are equally capable and strong-willed like any other personality type, their introverted
nature is what makes them less noticed.
The INFJ might not talk much about their achievements or strengths, but they are very capable.
They are very strong and understanding people but don’t ever test them.