- I promise you, whatever type of overeater you are,
whatever issue you have with food,
you were not born with it.
Babies leave food easily, they leave it
without a second thought.
You can reactivate, regenerate
and re-manifest that really, really easily,
and for the rest of your life. I know it,
because I did that for myself.
Do you know there are six different types of overeaters?
And that always fascinated me.
When I would work with clients,
I began to see these six different types
present themselves over and over again.
Let me tell you what they are,
because you can probably decide which one you are,
maybe which one your mom or your sister or your partner is.
Because if you have a different overeating type to
the people you live with and hang out with,
it can be much harder to try and change your eating.
So the first overeater type is what I call
an "addictive overeater."
Now, addictive overeaters are not born,
they're made. No one is born addicted to coffee
or cappuccino or ice cream or chocolate.
There are many foods that are highly, highly addictive.
Sugar is now classed as addictive as cocaine.
Potato chips are now called "the new cigarettes,"
because once you have one, you want another.
Food companies put so many, many chemicals into food
to make it addictive.
Things like Pringles
even have the nerve to put on the container,
"Once you pop, you can't stop.
"Bet you can't have just one."
Imagine putting that on a pack of beer
or a pack of cigarettes,
"Bet you can't have just one.
"Once you start, you can't stop."
Because that's a challenge you will never win.
And many, many foods are highly addictive.
I've never met a client in 30 years
who said, "I'm addicted to apples.
"I'm addicted to pears.
I'm addicted to vegetables."
It's always the same, "I'm addicted to cheese.
"I'm addicted to milkshakes.
"I'm addicted to chocolate, to ice cream,
"to jelly sweets, to candy."
They are made addictive.
An addictive eater can only get better when
they keep the addictive food out of their life.
And I speak as someone who was absolutely
addicted to chocolate,
with a capital "A." I couldn't leave it,
I ate all my kid's candy several times.
I couldn't have it in the house, and now I can
and I do, and I'm completely indifferent to it.
I can have a little bit and stop,
but I don't really eat it anymore.
And once upon a time, I could never, ever say that.
It was my huge downfall.
So we have addictive eaters,
and then we have an interesting category,
not a very big group, but interesting, angry eaters.
Angry eaters love crunchy food.
They love crunchy bread, they love chewy steaks,
they love potato chips and popcorn
and apples, because we have stress receptors here.
So when we eat really crunchy food
and do what's called hard mastication,
it actually lowers tension, and many angry eaters
love to chomp and chew; makes them feel better.
Here's a big group of overeaters,
emotional overeaters. They are what I call "mood food eaters,"
they eat to push their feelings down,
"I'm sad; let's push that feeling down with cake.
"I'm unhappy; let's push that feeling down
"with a burger and fries.
"I'm angry; let's eat that feeling.
"I'm lonely; let me order a big takeout."
So emotional overeaters use food to feel better,
and it works for 10 minutes, but then they're back,
"I was sad; I've just eaten a whole pizza
"and a dessert, and now I'm full,
"I'm stuffed, but actually, I'm still sad.
"I was angry; I've just had a massive dinner.
"Now I'm still angry;
"I'm angry with myself because I ate too much.
"I'm lonely,
"so I've just ordered a big takeout,
"I've eaten it all. Now I've got all the empty containers,
"but that's not my friend.
"It's not really keeping me company."
So we've got the first three categories;
we've got addictive, angry, emotional.
Now we have a big category;
the destructive eaters.
These are people who are actually scared of being slim,
scared of being attractive.
They've usually had a time in their life
when maybe a stepdad looked at their body a bit weird,
or they were kind of lusted after
when they were far too young to handle that.
And why should you have to handle that?
And they became scared of having an attractive body,
and every time they get to their almost perfect weight,
they eat and get bigger.
I worked with a lovely girl who said,
"You know, every time I lose weight,
"I go mad and eat so much and gain it back.
"And it's like I'm scared of being slim,
"but that's all I've ever wanted."
When I heard her story, it all made sense.
She was telling me that her father used to hit the mother,
and she would run at her father
and he would, like, toss her to one side
like she was made of paper and go after the mother.
And she always wanted to be big,
she'd think, "If I was big, I could protect Mom.
"If I was big, I could hit my dad.
"If I was big..." Because, to her, big meant safe
and small meant vulnerable.
Destructive overeaters want, on a logical level,
to be lean and slim, maybe even small, "I want to fit
"into small size jeans,"
but their emotional mind is very scared of being small.
And I worked with somebody, a long time ago, that was huge,
and when he talked about his life, he kept saying,
"But I feel insignificant."
And I said, "Oh, so glad you said that word,
"because you've made yourself so big
"that everyone sees you, that's not what you want."
So destructive overeaters are a fascinating group.
And then here's another group, ignorant overeaters.
Now, they are not ignorant,
I would never call somebody ignorant,
but they have, what I call, this "brainwashed thinking,"
"Pizza is very healthy,
"because the base is a carb and the cheese is a protein,
"the tomato is a vegetable."
Actually tomato's a fruit, it's not even a vegetable;
that's what they think,
"You know, this is good for you.
"Fries or potatoes are full of vitamin C,
"hotdogs are classified by the government as healthy,
"surely roll-up fruit is one of your five-a day. Cereal,
"that's such a healthy, full of vitamins." Cereal
is nothing more than candy.
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You might as well take a bunch of cookies
and break them up and put milk in them.
And by the way, milk is not a healthy food either.
So ignorant eaters will think, "Salad is healthy,
"coleslaw is healthy."
We know that some salads with a dressing,
which is full of sugar,
have more calories than a burger and fries.
But ignorant eaters have been brainwashed
and sold a myth, and they just don't understand.
My grandmother was one of those,
she would eat a massive tub of coleslaw
and hummus and carrots and think that was super healthy,
but it was actually full of calories.
And here's the last group;
habitual overeaters. And they are fascinating,
they, too, are made not born.
An habitual overeater goes,
"It's morning, I need breakfast.
"It's midday, I need lunch.
"It's evening, I need dinner."
They eat just because it's a time of day.
If you put a coffee down with three cookies,
they'll eat the cookies without even thinking.
They eat whatever is on their plate,
they eat habitually, they finish everything
on their plate, because they were made to do that.
They had parents who said, "You've got to eat,
"you've got to have breakfast,
"the most important meal of the day.
"You must have lunch or you won't be able to concentrate.
"Everyone needs dinner."
And we are lied to all the time.
An interesting company just wrote to us and said,
"Would you like to promote these little cookies we've made?
"They give your body something to eat while you sleep."
I went, "No, I would not, because your body does
"not need to eat while you're sleeping."
It's the worst thing you can do.
Your body starts to repair cells,
unless you have food,
undigested food, in your stomach,
because the same enzymes that repair cells,
break down undigested food, and they break down food first,
repair cells second.
Because our primitive brain never ate when it was dark,
we went to bed when it was dark, woke up when it was early,
we didn't give ourselves a snack at midnight.
Your body doesn't need to eat while you're sleeping.
And we are brainwashed, all the time, to eat stuff
that is terrible for us
and to believe it's good for us.
And so, habitual eaters have just been trained to
eat anything that they're given.
Often they've had parents who will not allow them
to leave food. And there are some subcategories;
they're what I call "constant cravers,"
who are always hungry,
and "feasters," who have to have so much food,
so much variety, who over order.
So it's fascinating, isn't it?
Because if you're an addictive eater
living with an emotional eater,
it's hard for you to have your addictive foods
out of the house when the emotional eater needs
these comfort foods.
If you're a habitual eater, living with someone who says,
"Well, I don't eat breakfast.
"I don't need lunch,"
or, "I hate having dinner at 10 o'clock at night."
For me, I dated a French man once,
that was a disaster, he wanted to go out for dinner
at 10 o'clock and have so many courses,
and all I wanted to do is to go home and go to bed.
I was a single parent at the time,
he could not eat at 6pm,
and I could not go out to dinner at 10pm,
so it was a bit of a disaster, it didn't matter.
But for many of us, we have it much worse than that,
"I am addicted to food
"and my partner keeps the food I'm addicted to in the house.
"I'm a constant craver and my partner isn't.
"I eat destructively and my partner doesn't understand me."
You know, Princess Diana had an eating problem.
Prince Charles could not understand it,
couldn't relate, couldn't understand,
couldn't get bulimia, and you need someone
who really understands where you're coming from.