Renee: Okay so she's just not that into you which kind of sucks and no matter how
hard you force it you can't make it happen! So now I'm going to be brutally
honest with you... you are the common denominator in your life and the sooner
that you realize the truth is the sooner that you can turn this around.
Women don't say no for no reason and if you are constantly being rejected then
we need to look at the why but also the what with what you're doing wrong in
order to be able to fix this. Welcome back i'm Renee Slansky for The
Attractive Man team and in this video I'm going to reveal to you the five
possible reasons why women are rejecting you and how you can turn it all around
so that you become the one they desire and chase. I spent years coaching women
so I literally have all the secrets of the women's insights mind of what it is
that they need and desire in order to be able to say yes to a guy and feel
attracted to a guy, and what I want to do is give you all of this advice for
free, so if you haven't already subscribed make sure you do so now, turn
on your notifications and give us a big thumbs up. Rejection hurts because it
makes us feel inadequate as a person or also gives us a sense of displacement
and maybe makes us feel that we don't have the potential for the type of
relationship that we really want, in essence it knots about our self-esteem
and our confidence and overall pretty much makes us feel like crap. But let's
be honest we're not going to be everyone's cup of tea and there's always
going to be some sort of rejection in life and in love and that's okay but
what we want to do is we want to make sure that we are minimizing that
rejection so that we're not constantly getting the same sort of battle over and
over again, so here are the five common reasons why women reject men and I'm
also going to give you some solutions on what to do every single time so that you
can minimize that rejection. Plus if you stay to the end I've got a cool little
bonus for you as well so let's start! Number one, you're coming across either
too strong or not strong enough now it's kind of like a bit of an oxymoron but
there is a fine line and being able to project the right sort of energy that
makes a woman feel that you are a man with a plan a man
with direction and confidence but at the same time you're not overbearing or
trying to control us and you're giving us some options to be able to move as
well we as women really crave seeing new men step into that masculine leader
mentality or that masculine energy as such we want to know that you are
decisive and that you are confident in your decisions, because what it does is
it actually triggers our femininity within us and draws us closer to you if
you're coming across as a man that doesn't have any sort of direction where
you can't make plans about the date or you can't make a decision about whether
or not you do want to date us then we're going to assume that if you can't
control just something as simple as that then you're not going to be able to
control other areas in your life which are important when we're thinking about
the future because as women we're always jumping the gun in our heads at the same
time if you come across as overbearing or egotistical or all you want to do is
control because you're trying to impress us too much we're going to see it as
really a big turn-off because it's going to make us feel either unsafe or
undervalue and so it's really important to try and find that balance as coming
across as a masculine confident man but not overly aggressive so what is the
solution the solution is basically use her indication as a guide for your next
step for instance if you find that she's pulling back then maybe you need to up
the ante a little bit more and take a little bit more control say that you
already picked out the restaurant say that you've already picked out the ideal
date show her that you are a man with a plan
or if her reaction is kind of something scared or something where she's putting
up a wall because she feels that you are coming on too strong then you need to
scale it back a little bit and then ask her questions because when you ask women
questions it automatically triggers within us that you actually care about
what it is that we feel and want number two you are friend-zoning
yourself now there's nothing worse than being in the friend zone because really
you don't want to be that you want to be someone more you want to beast the
person who she actually goes crazy about and desires just because she's decided
that she's going to friendzone you doesn't mean that you
change her mind women just need a little bit of convincing sometimes because what
you need to do is trigger a feminine instinct within her which actually makes
her see you in a different light you see you're coming across as too nice or too
safe or too boring then automatically she's going to put you in the basket of
he's just a nice guy I'm just gonna stay friends with him and it's going to be
platonic it is harder once you're deep in the friendzone to be able to get out
of it and trying to force yourself on her or just grab her and kiss her
probably isn't going to have the sort of reaction that you want so what you need
to do is you need to identify straight away if she is starting to friends on
you and the way that you will know this is that she will refer to more as a
friend rather than a boyfriend that she will brush off any sort of flirting
there won't be any sort of sexual tension between you two and she'll
actually start to talk about dating other guys around you that's when you
know you're deep in the friend zone so in order to be able to get out of the
friendzone this is what you need to do the first thing you need to do is not be
so available because if you're available you're basically turning into a bit of a
yes-man you're being turning into the man that
she can always rely on because you're always going to be there she wants to
know that she can rely on you but that should actually come later on down the
track in the meantime you almost have to keep her on her toes a little in order
to be able to get her intrigued and excited by you because what you're doing
is you're offering her this tempting sort of mystery about yourself don't
always say yes to whatever it is that she wants don't always be there when she
needs you to make sure you've got that gap because what that gap does it
creates room for her to be able to chase you the herd to be intrigued by you if
you're always there by her side if you're always just hanging around and
doing whatever it is that she wants then really she's not going to see any sort
of potential of a romantic relationship with you because you're going to come
across too safe and too easy the third thing that is holding you back from
having these women say yes to you is your lack of confidence guys we know
that you love a confident woman you know what we're exactly the same
we really look for confident men and you know what confidence for us and being
attracted to a confident man doesn't even necessarily have anything to do
about how he looks that's why I know so many women out there who are more likely
to date someone who maybe isn't typically as good-looking but has more
confidence than someone who is good-looking and has no confidence at
all because confidence to ask represents a fact that you feel that you can take
control and we like that we as women want to be led we want to know that we
can really see you as a man who can lead us who can love us and you can also give
us a sense of direction it gives us almost this sense of being this damsel
in distress which we have is this romantic notion attached to dating and
finding love if you're someone who really lacks in confidence whether it is
the confidence or knowing what to say to her the right sort of word or maybe just
your body language or maybe the confidence to even ask her out in the
first place and it's actually going to come across stronger than you think and
is not going to be a turn-on for us so the solution of course is then about
increasing your confidence now increasing your confidence isn't
something that happens overnight it's something that happens gradually because
what you do is when you start to put certain strategies in place whether it
is becoming educated becoming prepared having a plan because that gives you a
sense of control which in turn gives you a sense of confidence also adjust in
your body language lowering your voice all those little things help build
confidence then what you'll do is you'll have a positive reaction and a positive
reaction again affirms what you're doing and affirms who you are and in time that
will actually increase your confidence number four you're not putting in enough
effort now I did a poll recently with our thousands of women and I asked them
what is one of the major things that really turns women off or what is one of
the things that they really kind of wish men did and the answer was that they
wish that men put in more effort now don't confuse effort with money okay
don't assume that you have to go and spend lots of money on her or have all
these fancy sort of stuff in order to be able to impress her girls care more
about the thought behind the action than the action itself women will say no to
you if she feels that you invested into her and the best way to
show that you are invested in getting to know her and valuing her is by putting
in effort effort in the way that you communicate with her effort in the way
that you treat her and ever into planning the dates as well the solution
to this then is really simple all you need to do is make sure that you're
paying attention to the details what is it that she likes maybe there's a
certainty maybe there's a certain dream maybe she
mentioned something in a comment and by you listening to what it is that she
said and then doing some sort of action centered around what it is that she said
she's actually going to feel incredibly valued and prioritized and she's
actually going to see you put effort into action then lastly number five you
trying too hard it's almost like you need to put in effort like point number
four but at the same time if you trying too hard that is actually a major
turnoff which is ridiculous right because we're always saying we want him
to put in effort and we want him to chase us and then as soon as he does
really know it's too much he's too clingy you guys don't want someone
clingy we don't want someone clingy we want to know that you're putting in
this effort but at the same time we also crave a little bit of a chase because
otherwise you're too available to us and you're too easy to us and you're not
giving us that sense of danger and excitement and adventure which is what
we really crave as well it's not to say that you have to pull back and play
games because I personally don't believe that playing games is going to be able
to give you the foundation to make the right decisions in order to be able to
build a healthy relationship but at the same time understand that a little bit
of chase a little bit of mystery of not going to full-on but actually biding
your time to woo her and setting a nice sort of pace in order to be able to
create mystery and create intrigue and create excitement about you is going to
get her thinking about you all the time it's going to get her craving you
because she's going to want more giving her a little bit at a time is almost
like winning her appetite if you're constantly always just being a puppy dog
around her if you're being really clingy if you're messaging her every single
second then we're basically going to think that you're just like truthful on
and that you want too much especially if we don't really know you it's one thing
to act like you're in a committed relationship when you're at
in a committed relationship and it's another thing to act like you're in a
committed relationship when you're only just getting to know the person for the
very first time the solution of course is pacing yourself by not being
available all the time and understanding that having a little bit of time a
little bit of mystery and giving her a bit at a time in order to be able to
create that Chase is actually going to do you a massive favor. Matt: Let's go get
coffee, but only for ten minutes, then I have to go. Renee: Tease her with who you are
and the potential you have to offer now laughter guys I will say this we're not
going to be everyone's cup of tea and as I said rejection is kind of a part of
life, try not to see it so much as rejection
but as redirection to someone better who is actually going to value you for you,
it's important not to get stuck in that moment of defeat and rejection and start
getting in your own brain about it try to just learn what you can from it and
then move on and realize that you can use whatever knowledge you have from
that last situation to your advantage to actually make sure that it doesn't
happen again. Now if you are someone who struggles
with confidence and being able to approach beautiful women or stressful
situations when it comes to really knowing what to do as being able to come
across as that masculine leader and that confident man and then I really
recommend that you do something about it right now and you download Matt's
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comments down below on what area is that you struggle with rejection or if you
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