If you’re in a marriage that you want to save but your husband is ready to call it
quits, you aren’t alone.
Hi there, my name is Brad Browning, and today I want to speak to the ladies and share with
you five tips on how to prevent your husband from leaving you.
As you may already know, I’m a relationship coach and marriage expert…
You may also be familiar with my YouTube videos, or perhaps you’ve heard about my best-selling
Mend the Marriage program.
If this isn’t your first time with me, welcome back, and if it is, thanks for watching, I
hope you enjoy this video.
Now let’s get started.
Just before a couple separates, one partner usually reaches the point of being completely
fed up.
They don’t want to talk about things or try to work it out.
For them, it’s over.
For you though, your world is falling apart and you don’t even know how to begin handling
your emotions.
This is when the trouble begins.
As you fight to salvage the pieces of your marriage and convince your husband to stay,
you’re actually often doing more harm than good.
It’s human nature to pursue what you need and want, but sometimes, when emotions are
running high, you really need to do the opposite of what your instincts are telling you in
order to get what you need.
It’s important to realize that it took time for your marriage to break down, and that
your husband is feeling hopeless and exhausted about the relationship right now.
Something has pushed him over the edge, and that’s why he has decided that your marriage
is over.
This is where my five tips for divorce prevention come into play.
Now, there are no guarantees, and you can’t completely control your husband’s decisions,
but I have seen amazing things happen when one person in the marriage begins making the
changes I’m about to talk about.
But before I jump into these, I’d like to quickly say that if you want to learn more
about saving your marriage, watch the free video presentation on my website, www.MarriageGuy.com.
That’s www.MarriageGuy.com.
So, without further adieu...
Number One: To best explain, let’s describe the worst
thing you can do in your situation, and that’s to beg your husband to stay.
As tempting or genuine as it may be, crying and pleading for your husband to give your
marriage another chance will not change his mind.
That’s because he’s already past the point of believing change is even possible.
Instead, your desperation will have no impact on him, but it will make you appear pathetic
and needy.
Neither of those are appealing traits, and they aren’t likely to work in your favour.
If you’ve already done this, don’t worry - we can still make things better as long
as you don’t continue acting this way.
Number Two: You need to keep things as simple as possible.
Don’t prod for motives or you’ll lose his respect, and pressuring him to reconsider
his decision will only make him more determined to end things with you.
Instead, let your husband know that you want to work on the marriage and that you’re
willing to do what you can to make it more satisfying.
You won’t get him back right away, but it will help him become more trusting and maybe
even get him to start talking with you again.
The key is that he has to enjoy talking with you to want to be with you, and he has to
enjoy being with you before we will consider trying to make your relationship work.
You can begin by talking about things not related to the divorce, and find small things
to agree on.
If you have kids, they could be a good topic to start with, but there any many others.
Keep in mind that at this stage you’re not trying to get him to reconsider the divorce,
you’re just trying to have some pleasant, positive contact.
The initial connecting can be the most difficult part, but hang in there.
Number Three: Don’t do things or act in a way that is
going to make the situation worse.
This sounds simple, but what I mean by this is much more complicated.
Basically, you have to understand the role you play in the problems your marriage is
facing.
For example, if you’ve been complaining a lot, stop.
If you’ve been moody, stop.
If you’ve been lying to your husband or hiding things from him, stop.
If you want to save your marriage it’s important that you focus only on how you contributed
to the decline - now is no time for the blame game.
While your partner may be done with trying to work on your marriage, now is your chance
to start fixing your flaws that pushed him away to begin with.
Your spouse needs hope and evidence that your marriage can change for the better.
Ask yourself: what has my husband been asking for from me?
Start doing some of those things without pointing it out that you are making the effort to change.
Overall, a good attitude is essential.
If you’re confused about a particular aspect of your marriage and need personalized guidance,
then I’m here to help!
Just head over to MarriageGuy.com/coaching and sign up for my email coaching service.
On that page, you’ll learn more about how you can hire me as your personal marriage
coach.
Again, the URL is MarriageGuy.com/coaching.
Number Four: Don’t suffocate your spouse with affectionate
texts, phone calls, or emails.
Instead, try showing that you care by being more considerate.
Listen to him and learn to communicate in a healthier way.
You can show this by using active listening skills, such as learning to paraphrase what
he says.
By doing this you’ll not only be sending the message that you hear what he is saying
and you’re taking it into consideration, but also that you’re interested in his thoughts
and opinions.
Take this time to lean on friends and family members, their support will give you an outlet
to rant, and it will help you avoid directing any bottled up emotions all towards your husband.
Number Five: Give your husband time to heal.
If you have gotten to this point in your marriage, chances are that it’s been rocky for some
time now.
Your husband needs to see that you are determined to change and that the changes will be permanent.
Trying to fix things quickly will postpone repairing your marriage.
It will take time to convince him that there is hope for your relationship, but if you
work hard and are committed to saving your marriage, it is possible.
Patience is definitely a necessary attribute in your current position.
That about does it for this video… hopefully you’ve found it helpful.
If you have any questions or want to find out more about about how to save your marriage,
visit my website www.marriageguy.com and watch the free video presentation.
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