DM threatens to un-alive herself because no one wants to send nudes to her
So this story happened when I was around high school and still getting into the world of
TTRPGs.
There was a particular system I loved based around pokemon (referred to as PTU) that had
a pretty small but passionate community.
On a blog site for PTU, there was a post in the LFG thread about an LGBTQ+ game that was
recruiting players.
Fantasy themed adventurers of all sort of sexual orientations gathering to fight big
dungeon baddies with their pokemon sidekicks seemed very appealing for a closeted gay kid
like me, so I was very happy to have been accepted.
There were 6 players all together.
Four guys and two girls specifically.
We created our characters, and were eager to begin.
Our DM was a very upbeat and seemingly a fun individual at first.
She was very sociable, and supportive of our character builds, backgrounds, and let us
get as creative as we wanted with it.
For the first session, there seemed to be no signs of bad stuff happening.
We started the campaign pretty mundanely.
All of us pokemon mercenaries were called together at a tavern to meet one another and
set off on an adventure to stop a big scary dragon type of mysterious description from
terrorizing the town.
There were a number of NPCs in the tavern as well, and if anyone were to begin talking
to them, the NPCs would start flirting almost immediately.
Not too inappropriate mind you.
It said LGBTQ+ friendly in the description, so it was expected that there'd be some dating
sim elements in it.
What did start concerning us was when one of the male characters was groped by a female
NPC just for talking to her.
Things kind of escalated from there.
The DM pushed for everyone to be paired up with someone else, and heavily pushed for
very descriptive and explicit scenes to occur as much as possible.
The tavern was quickly turned into a brothel within the first hour of the first session.
Now, to be clear, I am not trying to imply that kinky/sexual games are something to be
frowned upon.
If it's something you and your party agree to ahead of time, and you're all into it,
there's absolutely nothing wrong with it at all.
I was just surprised by it because there was no mention of such explicit gameplay in the
initial post, or in the session 0.
It was safe to assume the game wouldn't be explicitly sexual, as the PTU site we all
used was a 13+ age appropriate site with clear rules about not posting for sexual games,
so since we never discussed it, it was reasonable to not be expecting the sexual content.
And since the game didn't say 18+ only or anything, she risked having a minor in the
campaign, and this whole thing would have turned criminal very fast.
Luckily all the people who joined happened to be 18 or older (I had just turned 18 a
couple months earlier, and I think I was the youngest of the group) so she was safe, but
it was still a very dangerous game she was playing.
While the players were all surprised with this, none of them were specifically opposed
to it.
Though we did ask for the descriptions to be toned down a bit, which our DM reluctantly
agreed to.
I wasn't too keen on the super kinky gameplay, but we had plenty of actual core game elements
in the campaign, and I really liked the build I had made, so I figured it wasn't a big deal
and I could roll with it.
Probably worth mentioning I was a virgin at the time, so trying to describe what my poor
gay character did with an NPC was really stressful and embarrassing.
How would I know what my character would do if I don't even know how to kiss someone properly
yet?
Well with that hurdle overcome, we started getting into way worse territory.
I don't know if this is a common experience for people, but from my own experience, when
a DM or player tries to trick people into playing sexual content with them, it's usually
reflective of the lack of sex they're getting in their own lives.
And boy was that the case with our DM.
In our out of game chats, she did nothing but try to flirt and demand all sorts of stuff
you should never ask a player for a 13+ pokemon post board.
She routinely asked for pictures of everyone so she could see how hot we all were, and
anyone stupid enough to actually send her something would get non stop attention from
her.
I was one of those guys.
Keep in mind, I was very romantically naive at the time, and didn't think there was anything
wrong with showing pictures of yourself online (the photo I sent was a perfectly safe clothed
picture.
The kind you'd frame and send to grandma for christmas).
In general, no one needs to know what you look like online, so I discourage any players
ever sending stuff like this to anyone asking for it.
They might not be able to do anything with a standard facebook appropriate photo, but
it's still like a green light for the requesting party to keep pressuring you to send more
inappropriate photos later on, which is what happened to me.
The DM continued to insist in PMs and in the group chat for pictures of me in inappropriate
poses and states of dress, which I had no problem turning down quickly.
Of course, she requested this of everyone else as well, and thank goodness no one in
the chat was so shy or insecure to just do anything they didn't want to.
We were all pretty unified in making it clear to her that while there was nothing wrong
with pursuing a romantic interest if the feelings we reciprocated, none of us in the party were
really any interested in trying something like that.
Again, we came here from a PTU forum for teens and young adults looking to play a game, not
a dating blog.
Also, just something that really bothered with this, her post for this campaign was
tagged with "LGBTQ+".
So why was she surprised that the 4 guys in her party were gay?
Sure, one of the girls was lesbian, but she wasn't really interested in any of the advances,
and the other girl was Ace, so she was ESPECIALLY not interested in any of the advances.
Like, just putting LGBTQ+ in your game doesn't mean that everyone's going to want to sleep
together.
Sometimes we just want to have an environment where we can be safely ourselves without fear
of harassment.
My line with her came when she asked me to be her-(I am so sorry for this, it makes me
cringe just typing it out)- "Master".
She didn't mean this just in the standard BDSM context.
She was african american, and had a very prominent raceplay kink which she made us all painfully
aware of routinely, and being a coldplay levels of white guy myself, I was horribly uncomfortable.
I set my foot down then and there.
She knew I was gay, she knew I wasn't interested in any sort of relationship like that, and
I told her I was going to leave if she ever tried that shit again.
I should've just left, but she started getting into a sob story about how depressed she was
and that she was drunk, and begged us all to just give her another chance.
Reluctantly, we agreed, but we definitely should've just left.
Soon after that incident she started having very dark episodes publicly.
She'd routinely say that everyone hated her, she was ugly, and when we told her that wasn't
true, she'd lash out at us for not being interested in her, and kink shaming her.
Again, 5 of us weren't sexually into women at all, and the one person who was happened
to be in a very happy relationship (side note, the lesbian player later married her girlfriend
and now they live a happy life in the forest telecommuting for work and I am very happy
for them and how awesome they're lives turned out.)
She had these episodes about 3 times, each time threatening to kill herself right then
and there, and it became the entire group's responsibility to try and calm her down.
She kept trying to imply she would be happy if one of us would just date her, and when
we made it clear again and again that it just simply wasn't going to happen, she'd go right
back to threatening suicide.
I had finally had enough around the third time, and said "I don't appreciate being emotionally
manipulated into doing stuff that makes me uncomfortable and being told if I don't, you'll
kill yourself."
This did not go over well with her, as you can probably expect.
She just went off about how we were all sexist homos, racist pricks, and kink shamers. 3
players were not taking any of that, and just left right then and there.
I was very prone to arguing with people, so I simply stayed just to contest her points,
but in retrospect, that was a huge waste of my time.
As you could probably expect, the game ended right then and there.
I ended up meeting up with two other players afterwards, and we started a way more fun
sci-fi pokemon space adventure campaign after that, so we at least got something positive.
But it was still a very early lesson in my TTRPG career to start recognizing red flags
early and to not let yourself feel guilty for drawing a line early.
Remember, if it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, and makes unwanted advances like a
duck, it's okay to call it a duck.
Wow…Ironically if the DM actually posted games that would be interested in her type
of…roleplaying she wouldn’t need to potentially commit crimes with minors.
DND isn’t therapy or dating.
It’s a fun game…Go to the right or wrong places of the internet to fulfill the other
things in your life.
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