Long Island Medium star Theresa Caputo filed for divorce from her husband of 28 years,
Larry Caputo, in April 2018.
The pair, who were together for a total of 32 years, were once a beloved staple of TLC's
reality TV roster, but they just couldn't make their marriage work anymore.
What happened?
Fame hurt their marriage
According to Larry Caputo, the success of Long Island Medium is ultimately what led
to the failure of his marriage to Theresa.
Larry told Radar Online that he had "no idea" what fame would entail when Theresa landed
her reality television deal with TLC, lamenting that the experience was "exciting and fun
in the beginning,” but began to affect the couple’s private life the longer the show
went on.
Larry also claimed that the reality aspect of the show added even more strain to his
union with Theresa, saying,
“A trained actor knows what they're getting themselves into.
A reality person doesn't realize what they're getting themselves into until they're in it,
and it's a learning process."
Trying to make it work
Despite Larry's issues with fame's influence on his marriage, he reportedly wanted to iron
out his issues with Theresa before they ultimately threw in the towel.
Larry's father, Jack Caputo, told Radar Online that Larry was "probably more upset" than
Theresa was about the separation and divorce, and said that he himself had only found out
about the split from watching TV.
The Long Island Medium’s former father-in-law continued, saying,
"I talked to [Larry] after [the news of the breakup aired], and he was upset, but he didn't
want to say too much.
I know she said they were splitting, but my son was saying, 'Dad, we are working it out,'
so I'm praying they get back together.
My son really loves her.”
Long distance blues
In the case of the Caputos, distance didn't make the heart grow fonder.
Larry and Theresa lived on opposite coasts, which likely made any chance of a reconciliation
slim to none.
Theresa told Extra in April 2018 that Larry was living in Los Angeles while she was living
in New York, adding that living on her own was "an adjustment" but that she was "doing
okay."
According to an interview with Radar Online, Larry’s time in California was a much needed
escape that provided the reality star time to reflect.
Larry told the website:
“It made me realize a lot of things I didn’t notice before because of the business in our
lives....I don’t have the stresses...and the things exposed to me that were upsetting
to me are not there any longer.”
Larry continued, claiming that Theresa’s schedule was a bit too hectic during their
marriage, making it so they hardly ever saw one another:
“What Theresa does is very demanding, and it was consuming most of her time, which takes
away from personal time.”
They grew apart
Physical distance wasn’t the only problem the Caputos faced during their marriage, emotional
distance was an issue, as well.
On an episode of Long Island Medium, Theresa explained,
"We've been there for each other...through thick and thin, you know, good times, and
right now are not such great times.
I don't understand it."
Sharing that she'd lay awake at night wondering how they'd let their relationship become so
strained, Caputo continued:
"I sometimes interpret it as growing apart.
I've changed and he has changed.
We're both not happy and, you know, it's hard to try to work through that."
In another episode of Long Island Medium, Larry confessed:
"I think a lot of the frustration has to do with us not spending the time together anymore.
Along with that comes the lack of communication so it's like losing your best friend.
It's hard."
Her anxiety was an issue
Theresa revealed in her book Good Grief: Heal Your Soul, Honor Your Loved Ones, and Learn
To Live Again that she suffered from anxiety for 25 years.
Caputo wrote,
"I personally know a lot about fear and how it can roll into full-blown panic and inertia,
because it dominated a good chunk of my life for 25 years....Thinking about future events
made me feel anxious and interfered with my ability to function."
She explained that her crippling anxiety made her never want to leave the house or go out
with her friends, and that she had a tough time even identifying triggers for her anxiety,
which, in a bitter cycle, made her even more anxious.
This put a heavy burden on Larry, who told Radar Online that he felt as if he had been
her backbone.
However, he admitted that Theresa had made significant progress, saying:
“Her dependence on me became less because she was able to overcome a lot of the issues
and fears that she had."
Larry’s new lady
In July 2018, TMZ reported that Larry was seeing a woman by the name of Connie, who
he reportedly met online when she reached out in hopes of scoring a reading from the
Long Island Medium herself.
Larry alluded to the romance to Radar Online in June 2018, telling the site:
"I just want to be in a great relationship with the person I'm with now.
I just want to enjoy the latter part of my life: traveling, doing things.
What else can anybody ask for?"
Hopefully, Larry and Theresa are finally on the same page.
“We both deserve to be happy.”