Hey. What's going on? Today's video is all
about masculinity explained.
And I'm going to tell you exactly what is a
masculine frame and how you can get one.
My name is Mossab Alsadig.
I'm a dating relationships coach.
I've been with hundreds of women now.
I'm happily married to an awesome wife, and
I'd like to help you do the exact same
thing. So by the end of this video, you're
going to know exactly what masculinity and a
masculine frame is and why it's important,
and how you can actually achieve a strong
masculine frame that will make you a lot
better with women.
All right. Let's jump in.
So first of all, you need to understand what
the essence of masculinity is for you to
understand what a masculine frame is.
Now, masculinity is the ordering force of the
universe. Men and women can be masculine,
more masculine, and men can be feminine.
But masculinity as an energy, as a concept,
is the ordering force, which means you can
think about it from an actual physical
standpoint. We back in the day had to go out
in the world men and conquer the territory
and make it safe for women to come into for
the future generations, for offspring to
come into. So we are think of it as the
ordering force, the ones that go out there,
conquer things, make things more tame in
order to be safer for the future
generations. So if you're not the type of
guy that's able to do that, you really need
to figure out how you can do that.
And there's a bunch of things that come along
with that. But at the base you can think of
it as the ordering force, whereas nature and
nature is feminine. So feminine is the more
chaotic force, but it's also the force that
comes into that conquered territory and
makes it a home. Right. That's why women
have a more feminine touch when it comes to
a home. They can make it more hospitable.
But men are the ones that set up the home,
conquer a place buy a home, whatever the
case may be, and set it up for the women to
occupy. And there's a bunch of things that
go with this in order to make that possible.
And a masculine frame is one of those need
to have a masculine frame in order to have a
high degree of masculinity, in order to
conquer things and make them hospitable.
So what exactly is a masculine frame?
Masculine frame is that rock solid state of
mind that you need to have in order to be a
conqueror, in order to be a warrior, in
order to be somebody who is formidable and
is aggressive and is able to tame things in
order to make them work for you and your
family, your offspring, and your in, your
partners, your women.
So that's very, very important.
Now, how do you actually build a masculine
frame? How do you have that rock solid
mentality? That's what I'm going to tell you
in this video. I want to share with you a
few ways that you can use that you can have
in order to build a masculine frame.
And the first of these the first major
component of a masculine frame is courage
and risk taking. So if you're not
courageous, you need to build your courage
up over time.
You need to be courageous because warriors
must be courageous. And you can think of
yourself most masculine when you are most
like a warrior. So you need to learn things
like stoicism, but you need to learn courage
and risk taking.
So ways to build courage are when you think
of something as dangerous, when you think
you're scared of something, courage is going
in to battle into that thing you're scared
of, regardless of it being scary for you,
right? It's not like when you're a warrior
or when you're masculine that things aren't
scary, they are scary.
But you need to learn to build that muscle
to go into them, regardless of if they're
story or not. So the way to do this is to
start small, right? Think of something as
simple as approaching. For a lot of guys.
Approaching is scary, right?
They think of getting rejected. They think
of women talking bad about them.
They think of women thinking of them as
creepy. And so men are scared just of a
simple thing like approaching women.
And so one of the things that makes them
makes them more courageous is learning game
and learning that going up and approaching
isn't that big a deal. So you start small,
right? You start by simply walking up and
saying hi and you don't put any
expectations, you don't do anything.
And you do this over time where you start
adding little bits. So maybe the first
couple of times you just say hi, and after
that you say hi and you try to keep the
conversation going. You say, What's your
name? And then there are better openers to
use, but you just start with a little
exposure and it's called exposure therapy,
right? You start exposing yourself to the
thing you're scared of just a little bit at
a time. So they do this with somebody who's,
for example, agoraphobic or somebody who's
scared of spiders or scared of heights.
You introduce them to that thing a little
bit at a time. So maybe you show them a
picture of a spider and then you show them a
spider in a glass jar far away from them.
And then you bring the door closer and then
you just open the jar, and then you build
them up to this slowly, little by little.
And you can do this for every single thing
that you are afraid of so that you don't
become afraid anymore. And you build that
muscle of courage and you think things are
not as big as they are, right?
You don't try to make the world smaller.
You try to make yourself as big as possible
by overcoming these fears and these worries
that you have. So, for example, for me, I
was scared of heights, so I had to learn to
be more comfortable with heights.
And I did things like roller coasters,
right? Like going on cliffs, like bungee
jumping, like zip lining and all these
things that are high up in the air.
And I got accustomed to it over time such
that I'm not afraid of that thing anymore.
And building that muscle of courage helped
me do that. And I actually learned this
through game, through going out and talking
to women, first of all, because I was scared
of talking to women and I had to learn over
time that if you go up and talk to them,
nothing bad is going to happen.
Right. The worst thing that can happen is
she calls you a creep. Maybe somebody throws
water in your face or says, Get away from
me. You don't die, right?
You don't get physically hurt.
Maybe you take a little blow emotionally,
but it's not the end of the world, right?
Just like when you're scared of heights and
you go up there, maybe you feel a little
anxiety, you feel a little bit negative
emotion, but at the end of the day,
everything's fine. And that's what you need
to realize for yourself. If you want to
build a strong, masculine frame, anything
that you're worried about, you start
approaching it a little bit at a time.
Figure out how you can break it into a small
chunk and attack that small chunk.
Over time, you add to the chunks until the
whole thing becomes not so worrisome.
Right. Heights for me and I worry
approaching women are definitely not a
worry. So you need to build that into your
life. Whatever you're scared of, whatever
you're worried about, become more exposed to
that. For example, if drugs scare you, if
they worry you, start learning about them,
start exposing yourself to them.
You don't even have to do them, but you need
to learn more about them to neutralize that
fear. Right? There's a big fear of fentanyl,
but if you understand what fentanyl is,
learn about it and become more aware of what
it is. Then it stops worrying you.
Right? Same with anything else.
If there's something that you're afraid of,
finances, whatever the case may be, you need
to become more in tune and.
Aware of that thing.
The other thing is risk taking.
You need to take risks. This has to do with
the courage as well. But you need to
actually do stuff in your life that is
risky, that might fail, but you still try it
and you see what comes out at the other end.
A lot of times high risk things have high
payoff, and you take it. If you take enough
risks, all you need is one successful risk
taking adventure to have a big payoff in
your life. This is especially true with
business. This is especially true with
women. Take the risk of approaching it and
just see what happens. And over time, all
you need to do is do a bunch of approaches
and one of them will be become your
girlfriend. Right? But you have to put in
that risk over time, little by little, until
one becomes has a payoff.
So business has to do with that career work.
Any hobbies that you have, you should take
risks in these endeavors to see what pays
off. If you're a talented artist, are you
taking risks by putting your work out there?
Are you putting yourself out there?
Are you doing stuff that will actually get
you noticed? Because that is a risk, but it
also has a very high payoff.
So that's something you need to do. And the
more that you do this, the more your own
frame will be realized, your masculine frame
will be realized. Now another big thing has
to do with unwaiverability and having
principles. Before I get to that, though, I
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So let's talk about unwavierability and
having principles, right? So if you are the
type of guy who doesn't know how to draw
boundaries, who doesn't have principles in
his mind for what you want out of life, what
you want out of the people in your life, and
what you want for yourself, then you're
going to be pushed around really easily.
You're going to be like a leaf in the wind.
It first starts out by having these
principles in your mind. Think about what
you want out of life. Think about what
things you're not going to compromise on,
and then draw lines in the sand so that when
people cross them, you can tell them, Hey,
this is not cool, this is not going to work.
And with those principles come mental power,
personal self esteem, and that masculine
frame once again. And you do not waver in
these principles. So, for example,
disrespect, not tolerating disrespect is a
key principle of having a masculine frame,
not letting people walk all over you.
It's very, very powerful to have these
principles about what you need out of life
and how to get those things.
So when somebody, for example, walks all
over, you know, how to be firm and say, this
is not going to work, right? You know how to
cut out people that are negative in your
life. You know how to cut out negativity in
general, for example, from the news, from
social media, whatever the case may be, you
know how to stand firm with your principles.
If it violates if something violates that,
then you know how to kick it out, you know,
to kick it out, and then you do that, right?
So it's first having those principles
ingrained in your mind and then taking
actions on those whenever something goes
against those principles. So it's very, very
powerful. A man who is principled is
respected by other men, and that's very
powerful for attraction and for women and
just life in general, right?
So masculinity is less about women
specifically, but it's more about life.
And you'll find with all my content and with
dating in general, the better you are at
life, the women will simply follow.
So women, you can think of them as a lagging
indicator on your success in life.
If you're able to do well in life, for
example, by cultivating this masculine frame
and a masculine personality and be a
successful risk taker, life will do you
favors and then women will like that as well
and go with you wherever you want to go.
Now, the other core part of having a
masculine freedom is adaptability, agility
and strength. So adaptability means that
when things are changing, women pick guys
who are most adaptable to different
environments, right? Because evolution is
constantly changing us.
We are constantly changing our environments,
constantly changing societies, constantly
changing and need to be the kind of guy that
if things take a sharp turn, you know how to
pivot and move in a different direction.
So having that ability, that quickness about
you, that quickness in thought and that
quickness in action will make you more
masculine. It'll help that masculine frame
as well. So try to think lighter on your
feet, right? Become a kind of guy who is
more decisive in his actions and in his
speech and in his decisions.
So the more decisive you can be, the more
attractive you're going to be, and again,
the better you're going to do in life.
If you're the type of guy that needs to
think a lot about his decisions or you don't
even know how to make a decision that's
very, very unattractive, and you need to
learn that over time. And the best way to do
that is to simply make decisions, put
yourself out there and think, okay, for
example, if you don't know how to make a
decision between or B, simply pick one, and
if you messed up, you will learn from that
iteration. But if you can't even make the
decision in the first place, that's very,
very unattractive. And you are not getting
anywhere with life or with women.
So that quick adaptability, that quick
decision making, that agility in life about
knowing how to bob and weave when something
is thrown at you will make you more
attractive and will help you out for your
own mental clarity and sanity.
Now, the last way to have that masculine
frame and to really foster it and make it
grow is to be on your path and purpose.
Now want to make more videos about how to
know what your purpose is in your path is
and how to how to get on it.
But just know that if you are not on a path
that has a certain goal or certain outcome
in life, maybe you want to be a
philanthropist, maybe you want to be an
entrepreneur, maybe you want to have an
awesome family. If you don't constantly
iterate and improve and go towards on that
path, then your frame will suffer, right?
You will think of yourself as somebody who
doesn't get things done or isn't getting
somewhere in life. And for men that's very,
very important. It's less so for women
because they have their path and their
purpose already lined out for them through
their biology. Right. They bear the they
bear the children and they take care of the
children. Oftentimes, women know exactly
what they're going to do and they know how
to get there. And it's the men that have to
choose what their path is. We have a lot
more directions to take again, because our
environments are changing. We can always
pursue different avenues, but you need to
know what that avenue is and need to
actually be on it and taking steps in that
direction. If you're not, then again your
frame is going to falter and you're going to
be in a worse state because of it.
So if you'd like help with having a more
masculine frame, if you'd like help with
becoming more masculine yourself and getting
better with women, then I encourage you to
check the links and description.
See if you can book a time with me and my
team. There's a link for a a booking where
you can talk with me on the phone.
It's going to be a consultation where I
figure out what your dating problems are.
What your masculinity problems are, whatever
the case may be, and see how we can get you
from A to your goals, from where you are to
where your goals are. Through my proven
method for attracting women, for getting
them in bed with you, for improving your
masculinity and all that.
So I hope to see you on that call.
There's also additional links for case
studies and trainings, if you'd like in the
description as well. So check those out.
I appreciate you watching this video and I
will see you in the next one.