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HOME WITH
HOME WITH NOBODY TO TALK TO BUT OURSELVES. APPARENTLY SELF ISOLATION IS A GREAT TIME FOR
ONLINE DATING. SOME SUPER
EXCITED TO HAVE A DATING EXPERT
HERE. THIS IS MATCH DOT COMS
BRITISH EXPERT HERE RACHEL AUTO
TO TELL HOW TO APPROPRIATELY
ONLINE DATE. RACHEL, WELCOME.
GREAT TO BE HERE. FROM OUR
HOMES IS THIS KIND OF AN ONLINE
DATE WOULD GO HERE JUST SITTING
IN FRONT OF OUR COMPUTERS?
YEAH. I DON'T KNOW IF I BRING
THEM INTO MY OFFICE, RIGHT?
YEAH, ABSOLUTELY. THIS IS
VIRTUAL DATING ESSENTIALLY. SO
IT'S NICE TO CONNECT WITH YOU.
SO WALK ME THROUGH WHAT THAT'S
ACTUALLY GOOD POINT BECAUSE YOU
WOULDN'T BRING SOMEONE INTO
YOUR OFFICE ON A FIRST DATE.
YOU PROBABLY WOULDN'T BRING
THEM INTO YOUR BEDROOM EITHER
FOR A FIRST DATE. WALK US
THROUGH THE RIGHT SETUP FOR
VIRTUAL DATING. SO YOU A GOOD
BACKGROUND. YOU WANT SOMETHING
THAT IS NEUTRAL BUT YOU ALSO
DON'T WANT TO DON'T WANT TO BE
IN THE BEDROOM. DON'T WANT TO
HAVE A MESS BEHIND YOU. SO IF
YOU HAVE A LAUNDRY PILE THAT IS
BACKGROUND THAT YOU'RE LOOKING
FOR. I WAS JOKING AROUND ABOUT
ZOOM NOW HAS THE VIRTUAL
BACKGROUND SO YOU GOT TO BE
GOOD TO HAVE A SPACE LIVING
ROOM BEHIND YOU. YOU DON'T FEEL
LIKE CLEANING BUT JUST ANYTHING
MUTUAL THAT YOU CAN FOCUS ON
EACH OTHER AND YOU'RE NOT LIKE
LOOKING BEHIND THEM SAYING WHAT
THE HECK IS OVER THERE? SO YOUR
BACKGROUND IS PERFECT. YOU GO
OUT OF YOUR WAY. IF WE BRING UP
MY BACKGROUND I'VE
APPROPRIATELY PLACED LIKE
CERTAIN AWARDS. THEY'RE LIKE
SOMETHING IF I CASUALLY RACHEL
I CASUALLY LEAN OVER THEY'LL
SEE THE LIKE OH SHE'S FANCY
SHE'S GOOD AT HER JOB. YOU KNOW
PERSONALLY I WOULD LIKE TO SEE
SOMEONE'S MESS BECAUSE YOU KIND
OF WANT TO SEE THE REALISTIC
VERSION BUT YOU'RE SAYING NO,
PUT YOUR BEST FOOT FORWARD NOT
ON THE FIRST DATE JUST LIKE YOU
WOULD ON KNOW IN A REGULAR
DATING ENVIRONMENT. ALTHOUGH
BRITAIN ARE VERY NORMAL RIGHT
NOW BUT IN A NORMAL DATING
ENVIRONMENT WE PUT OUR BEST
FOOT FORWARD IN THE BEGINNING.
OBVIOUSLY EVERYTHING IS BRIGHT
AND SHINY. ROSE COLORED GLASSES
ROD AND THEN WITH TIME WE LET
THEM KNOW THAT MAYBE WE'RE A
SLOB OR DON'T EAT HEALTHY. WE
DON'T NEED TO SEE THAT RIGHT
AWAY. SO A RELATIONSHIP FIRST.
YOU AND I ARE ON ZOOM RIGHT NOW
AND ZOOM HAS THAT LIKE
BEAUTIFYING FILTER. SO YOU'RE
SAYING MAYBE LIKE AFTER DATE
THREE WE TAKE OFF THE FILTERS
I'M NOT TAKING OFF THE ZOOM
BEAUTIFYING FILTER EVER. OK. SO
WE'RE GOING TO HAVE TO REALIZE
THAT WHEN HE WAKES UP IN
THE MORNING HE'S GOING TO HAVE
TO IMAGINE THAT YOU SHOULD
JUST, YOU KNOW, PUT LIKE A FAKE
FILTER OVER YOU. BUT I'M HERE'S
MY QUESTION WHERE ARE PEOPLE
DOING THIS VIRTUAL ONLINE
DATING? ARE THEY DOING IT ON
MATCH.COM OR ARE THEY JUST
GOING ZOOM? HOW ARE THEY
FINDING DATES? THEY'RE USING
APPS. SO I THINK THAT APPS ARE
REALLY THE WAY TO MEET PEOPLE
RIGHT NOW BECAUSE NO ONE IS
GOING TO SHOW UP AT YOUR HOUSE
AND IF THEY DO. DON'T LET THEM
IN. THEY'RE NOT ALLOWED AND WE
CAN'T GO OUT. SO HOW ELSE ARE
WE GOING TO MEET PEOPLE UNLESS
WE'RE ON APPS OR WE'RE ON
SOCIAL NETWORKING SITES? SO WE
WANT TO MAKE SURE THAT WE'RE
LOOKING FOR PEOPLE. WE'RE ALSO
LOOKING FOR LOVE AND SINCE
SLIDING INTO THE MS. AND THAT'S
WHERE I THINK THAT'S REALLY DO
FEEL A NEED RIGHT NOW. BECAUSE
IT'S AN OPPORTUNITY FOR PEOPLE
WHO ARE LOOKING FOR A
RELATIONSHIP TO REALLY FOCUS ON
THAT AND TO PAY ATTENTION TO
GETTING TO KNOW SOMEONE VERSUS
RUSHING THROUGH INTO A PHYSICAL
RELATIONSHIP. NOW IT COULD BE A
LITTLE BIT AWKWARD. FIRST OF
ALL, MEETING SOMEONE FOR
THE FIRST TIME BUT JUST GOING
ON A FIRST DATE VIA
TELECONFERENCING OR WHATEVER
YOU WANT TO CALL IT HOW HOW
DOES ONE START THIS
CONVERSATION? WHAT DO YOU DO?
SHOULD YOU ALREADY BE SEATED?
SHOULD YOU WALK UP TO THE TO
THE DATE LIKE CRY? CAN I HAVE A
GLASS OF WINE? YOU CAN DO THOSE
THINGS. I THINK THAT DON'T
OVERTHINK IT BUT ALSO DON'T
IGNORE THE ELEPHANT IN
THE ROOM. THE FACT IS IS THIS
IS ODD. THIS IS THAT THIS HAS
BECOME HOW WE'RE HAVING A FIRST
DATE A SECOND DATE, EVEN A
SECOND DATE. SO RECOGNIZING
THAT HAVING A LAUGH OVER IT BUT
THEN MOVING ON FROM FOCUSING ON
HOW WEIRD THINGS ARE IF YOU'RE
JUST TALKING ABOUT HOW WEIRD IT
IS THE WHOLE TIME THAT THAT'S
NOT A CONNECTION. BUT I THINK
SITTING DOWN IF YOU WANT TO
GRAB I GOT MY COPY I GOT A
GLASS OF WINE LATER. SO HAVING
THAT YOU KNOW, WITH YOU DURING
THE CONVERSATION MAKES IT FEEL
MORE NATURAL WHATEVER YOU HAVE
TO DO TO MAKE IT FEEL AS
NATURAL AS POSSIBLE BUT ALSO
RECOGNIZING DIFFERENT. SO I
HAVE TO ASK BECAUSE ONE OF A
REALLY POPULAR SHOW THAT'S ON
NETFLIX THESE DAYS THAT I THINK
A LOT OF PEOPLE WATCH LOVE IS
BLIND. NOW YOU'VE WORKED ON
OTHER SHOWS LIKE MARRIED AT
FIRST SIGHT. IT'S KIND OF A
SIMILAR, YOU KNOW, PREMISE
WHERE PEOPLE DIDN'T SEE EACH
OTHER. THEY WERE JUST TALKING
TO ONE ANOTHER. WHAT DO YOU
THINK ABOUT THAT SHOW? IT'S
AMAZING BECAUSE IT SHOWS
ESPECIALLY WHAT A BETTER KIND
OF SETUP FOR WHAT WE'RE DOING
RIGHT NOW THAN SHOWING THAT YOU
CAN FALL IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE
WITHOUT EVER SEEING THEM. SO IF
WE'RE TALKING ABOUT VIDEO
DATES, THAT'S A STEP UP FROM
WHAT THEY WERE DOING IN PODS
AND THEY REALLY DID FIND REAL
RELATIONSHIPS. SO FOR PEOPLE
THAT SAY OH MY GOSH, I HAVE TO
MEET THEM IN PERSON. I THINK
THE PROOF SAYS THAT YOU DON'T.
AND LISTEN, I DON'T NEED TO
MEET MATT DAMON IN PERSON TO BE
INTERACTIVE. MEET HIM ON A
SCREEN. NOT TO REALIZE IF YOU
EVER DECIDE TO LEAVE HIS WIFE
AND I LEAVE MY BOYFRIEND. IT'S
GOING TO WORK OUT. I JUST
REALIZED YOU CAN GET A LOT OF
INFORMATION FROM VIDEO. OK.
I'LL HAVE TO BE AS AWKWARD AS
MAYBE. YEAH. I MEAN WHEN WE GET
TO LAUGH AT THE SITUATION,
LAUGH AT OURSELVES MAKE IT LESS
AWKWARD. ANY LAST PARTING WORDS
FOR THOSE WHO ARE SINGLE AND
ARE GOING TO TRY VIRTUAL DATING
RACHEL, STAY POSITIVE. I THINK
THE BIGGEST THING RIGHT NOW IS
YES, THERE'S A LOT TO TALK
ABOUT IN TERMS OF THE KIND OF
IRAS AND WHAT WE'RE GOING
THROUGH BUT AT THE END OF
THE DAY WE'RE STILL FORMING NEW
CONNECTIONS AND WE WANT IT AS
POSITIVE AS POSSIBLE AND FOCUS
ON GETTING TO KNOW THEM AND NOT
MAKING IT KIND OF OFFENSIVE
POSSESSION WHICH I HEARD
HAPPENING SEVERAL TIMES THIS
WEEK. SO I GET IT. YOU HAVE
THINGS TO SAY BUT THAT'S WHAT
YOUR FRIENDS ARE FOR. YEAH.
VENTING YOUR MOMMA NOT ON
THE FIRST DAY AND ALSO STAY
POSITIVE PANTS OPTIONAL SINCE
REALLY WE'RE ONLY CONFERENCING
FROM HERE ON UP SO IT DON'T
MATTER WHAT'S GOING ON DOWN
HERE. RACHEL, THANK YOU SO
MUCH. WHERE CAN PEOPLE GO FOR
MORE INFORMATION ON YOU? RACHEL
DEE ALSO DOT COM AND I'M
REACHING EVERYWHERE