Hey Dan here and in this video you're going to learn how to set goals or new year's resolutions
as an ENFP or INFP and I need to tell you as you probably have gathered at this point in your life
we need to do things a little bit differently if we follow the traditional goal setting approaches
things like smart goals laid out usually by ESTJ type people we usually end up feeling frustrated
disliking ourselves we end up developing insecurities or confidence issues because we
never reach our goals so we stop setting goals and then we feel really bad about ourselves and then
you know next thing you know you're hanging outside a bus station just trying to earn
enough money for coffee and I do not want you to go through that in 2022 now if you're new here my
name is Dan Johnston this is dreams around the world and my mission here is to help you become
the best version of yourself all while creating the most awesome life possible for you and those
you love so let's jump into the very first one so you need to make it an absolute have you ever met
someone who says they're trying to quit smoking or trying to eat healthier how often do they end up
quitting smoking while they're using that kind of language not very often now I know we have
this thing where if we're not sure we're going to do something we don't want to say we're going to
do it because then you risk seeming like a lie or letting people down right but saying I'm going to
try to quit smoking is like just committing to smoking for the rest of your life right
you need to use the right language and the right emotional state so if you're going to do something
commit to it say I don't smoke anymore I'm not a smoker I've quit smoking for example right this
video right now I'm actually filming it the day you will be watching it and that is not usually
how we do things at Dreams Around The World but came to my attention last night that we were
out of videos and the one that would have been published today was not really that good not that
interesting it's a bit of an older one I'd filmed it was like the backup backup video just in case
and not really related to new year so that didn't seem fair for you guys wanting to
watch this right and the thing is a little while back I committed to publishing new
videos every week specifically on Mondays and Thursdays and that was an absolute for me no
ways around it so here I am Monday morning filming this for you we'll make sure the edits are done
we'll have it up and you will be watching it live thankful that I made that commitment an absolute
not just something that I was trying to do that gives us a pretty smooth path to
the next thing now whether you're calling these goals or resolutions or intentions
you know I know goals can be sort of a dirty word for ENFPs and INFPs sometimes because
in the past maybe we haven't followed through as much so when you're committed to doing something
one thing that you must not do is leave yourself any sort of wiggle room or constant decisions
to be made right this is why a lot of diets or productivity kind of planning things like this
don't end up working very well for ENFPs or INFPs because they require you to make decisions all
the time and decisions can be very draining and guess what the same mental energy we use to have
discipline to say hey I'm not going to eat that cake or I'm not going to do this whatever
is the same energy that we waste making constant decisions so a diet where you say like I'm gonna
make healthy choices or like calorie counting where there's a certain amount of calories to the
day and you constantly have to think like should I eat this should I not is this adding up whatever
that's going to drain so much of your energy and open up all kinds of wiggle room like well
is this a healthy choice you know in some cultures they would consider KFC I mean
in Alabama this is this is a healthy dinner so I'm going to eat my bucket of chicken
right so you don't want to give yourself any wiggle room you want to have very clear goals
intentions resolutions whatever they are now they should be simple as well so something like I do
not check my phone before 10 a.m no matter what is awesome something like I don't check my phone
before 10 a.m unless there's something important I need to do or like something comes up and I need
to get in touch with someone and you see how the wiggle room kind of opens up with that right so
what's really important with this is not just the fact that you might use wiggle room as an
excuse it's actually more about wasting your mental energy on decisions if you always have
to think and think and think you won't stick to things it's much better to have something that's
really clear there's a line in the sand and you will know if you're following it or not
following it I'm actually going to be hosting a training for members of my ENFP Unleashed Program
on wednesday and one of the things we'll get into more detail is my don't touch the peanuts approach
to sticking with things and this is something that's really really helped me and it ties in
with this no wiggle room it's like do it or do not I'll give you a little more information on that
training at the end of this video too if you are interested now these next four all sort of flow
together the first is don't be boring you're an ENFP or INFP you like newness and excitement and
interesting things if you set some resolution like I'm going to save 4.2 percent of my income
every month so that I can retire at 63 instead of 66. do you really think you're gonna follow
through on that for the whole year come on now I have interviewed an ENFP anna on my channel who
was very good at managing finance and staying on track and everything else so I'm not saying you
can't do some of these things but if you're not excited about it if there's not a strong
emotion attached the odds of taking big action and sticking to it are a lot lower so you want
something that's going to actually be exciting for you because guess what maybe you haven't
hit most of your goals in the past but what if you do hit these next goals do you want them to be
really boring ones you don't really care about or do you want it to be something awesome that you're
going to be very glad you worked for it should be something that you can really feel or see or hear
like you need to have an experience with it where you actually can think about what you're trying
to do why you're trying to do it and get your emotions going and once you have that emotion once
you're attached to the outcome one of the things I really recommend doing is to take immediate action
do something right away that is going to put you on track to follow through if you're committed to
eating healthy why do you still have chips and crackers in your closet friends might come over
to you can buy some new chips if friends come over right if you're committed to going for a
run every day well maybe you should start by going for a run right don't say I'm gonna run every day
starting tomorrow right that's not really sending yourself a good message
now this next thing you need to do though is one of the most important
things to actually staying on track through the year because if you're an ENFP especially
thinking of something that's exciting you want to do attaching emotion to it taking some action
you're probably nodding along that's not very hard for you in fact you've probably done that
many times in the past right that's one of the things we do very well we think of a project and
we just start doing it great but then it kind of trickles out or it doesn't continue and this is
where this next part is really important you need to be honest with yourself and take some time to
reflect a bit on the past and into the future and basically check is this aligned with me
and my life so let's say you say I'm gonna go to bed every day at 10 pm sit back and think well
is that really going to hold for the whole year like do I like partying do my friends tend to go
out late is my favorite show on somehow still on normal tv that only plays at one time at 11 p.m
you know think through the reality of what your day to day will look like you need to ensure that
things are congruent and that it's going to be easy for you to follow through so for example
I'm living here in Prague now and Prague can be a wonderful city to go running in but it has some
downsides mostly all cobblestone can be quite cold and it's very hilly I don't mind the cold coming
from Vancouver I actually kind of love running in the rain but the cobblestones and hills means I
can't run every morning or I'm going to have some serious knee problems by I don't know some age at
some point right so one of my commitments this year is to do 15 minutes of cardio
at least every morning and I need to actually have different options for that if I just commit
to that and then I wake up and I'm like okay I shouldn't run my knees are hurting what can I do
then it's not gonna work out right so I thought this through and I thought through okay three
different activities I could do I wrote them down and then in the morning I can just choose which of
the ones I'm going to do or even better choose the day before and then take action on those so
whatever it is think through the practical parts of following through on it and kind of plan that
out a little bit as well and that's going to help you stick to it a lot more and changing
your environment to align with your goals is very very important so like I said if you want to eat
healthy get rid of the junk food at home if you want to be exercising more live somewhere where
there's maybe an easier outside place to exercise or buy some equipment for home or commit with a
friend to do it like change your environment to help you stay on track because as ENFPs
when we start something we have all this energy right we're really fired up about it and then we
tend to lose some of that energy as things go on that's totally normal nothing to feel bad about
but using that energy early on to change our environment will make it way easier to stay
on track and what that does is later on when you don't have as much energy and enthusiasm for goal
your environment will reinforce it and make it easier to stay on track so you can't expect
to have that same enthusiasm the whole way through you need to use that enthusiasm to
adjust your environment to make it easy to stay on track later now I have one more big don't I
want to share but before I do I just want to remind you if you are an ENFP unleash member
we have this live training on wednesday it's going to be about 90 minutes going really deep
into this stuff and then we'll do some breakout rooms you'll get to hang out with other members
as well as I'll be doing at least five more live trainings these are all free if you remember
through the first quarter of this year if you are not in ENFP Unleashed I'll include a link to check
it out and one of the things I'm doing not for all the trainings but just this one is if you're not
a member you can attend just this training for 29 bucks check it out get your year set up right and
uh and see what the community is all about as well get a chance to meet some members so I'll include
links for all that as well which leads me to the last don't don't be someone you're not
so think about the resolution you're setting the goal you're setting and think is this really me
is this what I want is this someone in my you know is this a family member speaking to me saying you
should be saving for retirement or you shouldn't be eating this way or something or is it what you
really want because as you know on this channel we do things differently and if you're setting
goals based on what other people expect from you or what you think other people expect from you
you're kind of setting yourself up for failure because even if you achieve it you're probably
not going to be very happy about the whole thing right you're going to be like yes I made this life
that my uncle wanted me to have oh god this isn't the life I want at all so be sure when
you're thinking about what you want if you come to the event on Wednesday and are really going
deep into these things think about what you really want and what's important in your life
and then create the goals or resolutions around that and then design your environment to help you
stick to them in the long term that really is the ENFP secret sauce here thank you for watching if
you are new to the channel as I mentioned earlier I publish new videos every Monday and Thursday so
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