learn the secret to always getting what you want stay tuned this is Damon from
NLP Gym neuro-linguistic programming is the technology of creating the life that
you desire and for the past several years I've been learning and mastering
NLP in order to create the life that I desire and now to help you create the
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to people who tell me I always get what I want from time to time I run into
these people and they say exactly that I always get what I want and right then I
want to tell them I don't usually tell them but sometimes I do tell them that
they're not challenging themselves enough if they always get what they want
I know what you're thinking you're thinking wait a minute I thought you
were going to tell me how to always get what I want
yes and no what I will tell you in the literal sense of always getting what you
want that's never gonna happen and if it does that I'm telling you
you're not challenging yourself enough the point is not to always get what you
want the point here is to challenge yourself
to fail not because you want to fail but fail because you pushed yourself so much
so hard and in an attempt to fulfill your potential whatever that may be if
you think about it how do you how does a how does anyone get stronger how do they
build their muscles now this is kind of what NLP GM is really I don't say kind
of this is what NLP Jim is about it's about taking the approach of working out
but taking it with your brain with using NLP you get stronger by bringing your
muscles to failure sure you can build muscle and you can build strength
without bringing your muscles to failure but if you want to build strength and
muscle the most efficient way you bring that muscle to failure as fast as
possible and then you give it plenty of time to rest and then that's
when it actually grows but if you do just a little bit wayde's maybe 70% of
what you can do it's not gonna build that much strength you'll you'll hit a
certain point and then you'll Plateau very quickly if you're one of those
people who always gets what they want or claims to always get what they want you
probably have a sense of how empty that is or that it hasn't really made you
happy the people who say this to me that they always get what they want one thing
I've noticed about all of them is they're they tend to be arrogant they
tend to be rather unhappy though they portray this persona as if they're very
happy that they don't have any problems that they have everything that they want
but they don't seem like it they don't they don't seem use with themselves it
seems like they're always trying to project and portray something that
they're not I'll be the first to tell you I don't always get what I want and
the truth is I don't want to always give what I want I want to often get what I
didn't know that I wanted and that comes from being challenged I like to
challenge myself and I welcome challenges in my life when things happen
that I don't expect and that I don't necessarily like but I find a way to
work around them to overcome them this is what I really learned something about
myself and I'm sure you've had the same experiences you might not have liked it
but you can reframe that when something challenging happens
ask yourself how can you learn from this how can you get what you want out of it
even though the situation may have started out as something that you did
not want how do you then get what you want out of this that's a great that's a
wonderful question it totally reframes a negative situation or a situation that
you may not have wanted but then you can find a way to get what it is that you
want out of it and this is when this is where this whole thing is going here so
you can live a life of fulfillment and I think that's what we ultimately want we
want to be fulfilled so when we see something out there a new car a new
career more money we say well that's what I want but how many times have you
gotten those things and then you were fulfilled for the rest of your life
you got them and you're happy and you don't need anything
else never like that doesn't happen for anyone anytime we get one of those
things the external objects are it could be an accomplishment it could be even
running a marathon or something like that and again I don't have anything
against these things it's just that they don't make us happy temporarily maybe
but what you're really looking for is some sort of satisfaction in fulfillment
not that you can actually have anytime you want in order to do that you need to
be in touch with your values what is it that you value and when you know what
those are and you know what your criteria is for those values then you
can behave in a way that is aligned with those values and the result will be
greater self-esteem greater confidence more happiness and more fulfilment
greater sense of purpose and life sense of more meaning in your life so these
are the things that we want and you're never going to get that from material
objects you're never going to get that from even accomplishments they they will
temporarily feel good and it's nice and again I don't have anything against
these things but they're never going to give you lasting fulfillment and
happiness lasting fulfillment and happiness will come from understanding
what it is you value and then fulfilling that value by behaving accordingly by
framing your life that way by acting out of those values and engaging those
values that's what will make you happy and in that sense you can always have
what you want which is being fulfilled and being satisfied and of course there
will be those times where you get knocked off track you may lose sight of
what your true value is in a situation and then for that moment you recognize
what's happening and then you get back on track so when you think about getting
what it is you want I challenge you to move that idea from something that's
outside of yourself to something that is in side of yourself what you want is
already within you it's just a matter of allowing yourself to connect to that and
then gauging and acting accordingly the
wonderful thing about this is that when you do that this is where you're tapping
into your abundance to your potential and when you do that and you become a
more whole more fulfilled person it's a lot easier to go out there and
accomplish these things and acquire money and acquire whatever the objects
are that you want the reason for this is that you're no longer in a state of
scarcity and also you're not putting so much emphasis on the object ever notice
how when you don't want something as much it seems to come to you easier or
if you maybe you wanted something so bad at one point in your life and then at
some point you gave up on it and then like a year later suddenly it appears in
your life at a time where you had almost forgotten about it or it didn't mean as
much this is how this happens if you put too much emphasis on something that I
must have it you tend to push it away but if you feel like a whole human being
and like you would like it but you don't need it it's a lot easier to get and
it's that I must have it all right I've got to have I need it
that puts you in a state of scarcity which pushes what it is that you want
away so an NLP we call this connecting with your resources so connect with your
resources get in touch with what those things are get in touch with what you
believe that outside thing will give you or would state it will put you in once
you understand that you'll realize and you can put yourself in that state at
any time so you just put yourself in that state you feel good about yourself
you realize you don't really need anything except for the essentials and
when you're in that place you're coming from a place of wholeness fulfillment
abundance and then at that point it's like okay yeah sure I'd love to have
that whatever it is and I'm willing to work for it and I'm willing to pursue it
but if I don't get it I'm still fine like I am I I will be okay I will not be
less of a person so give that a try and move what you want or what you think you
want from external to internal find where that is connect with it and then
of course feel free to pursue whatever it is you want externally to
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