IYANLA VANZANT (VOICEOVER): Before meeting
with the village, I've decided to check in on Mr. Kevrick
to see how he's holding up in this emotional process.
I'm glad they got you some tea.
Is that warm? - Yeah, it is.
Is that good?
MAN: Yeah, it's good.
Good.
How you doing?
I'm concerned about you.
MAN: Hanging in there.
I don't want you hanging.
You know, sometimes you can work, and work, and work,
and work, and you just gotta bring everything to a halt.
And I think that's what you all are doing right now.
But I'm really concerned about you.
Been grieving a long time.
What happened first, you lost your wife or your son?
My wife.
IYANLA VANZANT: And then how soon after that
did you lose your son?
Three years later.
[SNIFFLES, SWALLOWS HARD]
And when she died, it was just like [SNIFFLES] [SOBS QUIETLY]
my world was completely rocked.
Rocked, shattered, destroyed.
But through all of that, my daughter was born.
And where is she now?
MAN: Now she's at home with my wife right now.
And how old is she?
She's eight.
And being consumed with all of that,
dealing with the challenges of Carla, I just couldn't.
I was tired.
Weary.
Weariness, that's the emotional state.
Not physically tired but emotionally weary.
Yeah.
I don't know what to do.
Like how-- I've done all that I know.
Give yourself permission to acknowledge, first
of all, that you didn't want to raise a child at 22 years old.
It ain't personal to Carla.
[CHUCKLES] You didn't want no kids.
Would that be accurate?
[CHUCKLES] Yeah.
Yeah.
And you had to.
And I acknowledge and applaud that you did it.
But I also want you to get--
she's 24?
Does she have any children?
MAN: No.
Ain't got a needle up her arm?
She ain't on a pole or on a corner.
You've done a good job.
But somebody's just needs to acknowledge
that this isn't all her.
I understand that.
Yeah.
So now you've got two daughters, one 24 and one 8.
What's the relationship like between Miss Carla and--
Iyana.
IYANLA VANZANT: Do they have a good relationship?
Yeah.
IYANLA VANZANT: They're connected, at least.
Yeah, yeah, she--
Iyani looks up to her.
IYANLA VANZANT: OK.
She really isn't as bad as you all have made her out to be.
She's just broke and wounded.
I said to her she has a black hole in her heart.
And then that hole is of anger, fury, really--
fury and abandonment, and loneliness.
What's in the hole in your heart?
I don't know.
Sit with that for a while, and get in touch with that.
Yeah.
I guess the pain, the pain from Tiff and my son passing.
Take it back further.
I would venture to guess that 75% of what you're experiencing
don't have nothing to do with little Carla.
That's your stuff--
Momma's stuff, Daddy's stuff.
Your mother was a drug dealer.
Yeah.
That's in the hole, too, you know.
Yeah.
Yeah, that broke your heart.
My son don't even want to know that I
was overweight, [CHUCKLES] much less
that I was selling some drugs and smoking happy flowers.
[CHUCKLES]
Get in your hole.
Figure out what that is.
[DOOR CLOSES]