- Heya playa.
Chances are if you're watching this video,
you're struggling to make friends in college
or you're afraid when you get to college,
you're not gonna know how to do it
and I know, I've been there before.
Making friends in college might seem like a daunting task.
The idea of approaching people and talking to them
when you don't really know them is scary,
but today I'm gonna walk you through how to do it.
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I remember back when I was in college,
there were so many opportunities for me to make friends
with people, but I was too scared to do it.
I found some reason to hold myself back,
whether it was something I told myself
or I just kind of looked for reasons out there in the world.
I convinced myself of things like it wasn't the right time
to approach that person at the end of class
because they were probably busy
and they were going to their next class
and I didn't wanna hold them up
or that if I did start talking to them,
I wouldn't have anything interesting to say.
I would just freeze up and just look stupid
and that was the scariest thing.
I didn't wanna look stupid
in front of these random strangers.
I'm gonna put up a poll right over here.
I wanna know, have you guys ever convinced yourself not
to talk to someone because you were afraid
it just wasn't gonna work out?
Answer in that poll, but I do understand
where you guys are coming from if you've been there before
because I've been there before.
So that's why I wanna break down the main reason,
the main thing that's holding you back
from really talking to that person,
but before I do that, let's really just look
at the opportunities you have when you're in college
to start a conversation with someone
and to become friends with them.
Whether they're someone that's in your class,
you see them in the hallway or on campus.
Whether you're working on a group project with them
or they live in your dorm, there are lots of different ways
that you can start conversations with people,
but that little thing keeps holding you back from doing it.
So what is it?
What's holding you back from making friends
and flourishing in this perfect landscape
where you should be excelling?
It is simply accepting yourself.
That's the number one thing that people struggle with.
Especially in college.
Think about it like this.
For most people, college is a transformative experience.
You're going into this new environment
and you're discovering things about yourself.
You're independent.
You're flourishing.
You're in control of your destin, right?
That's what separates college from high school
and all the other grades, that you're here
and you get to choose your path of learning
and that can be kind of scary.
You don't really know who you are
or what you wanna do just yet
so the idea of putting yourself out there
and showing yourself to people can be intimidating
because if you don't really know who you are,
how can they begin to know who you are?
So that fundamental question is always there
in every interaction you have with someone.
Who are you?
Who do you bring to the table?
Because if you don't really know what the answer to that is,
then it's gonna be hard for you to think
about people accepting you for who you are.
So what does that mean?
You just don't make friends in college
until you know who you are?
Isn't that the ultimate excuse
to hold yourself back from making friends?
Actually, I think it's the key to getting over that fear
and a lot of people just don't see that.
Think about it like this.
You're in college to learn and grow,
to discover who you are.
Well, guess what?
Everyone else is there for that exact same purpose
and chances are, they're in the same boat that you are.
They're trying out different things,
they're seeing what they like and what they don't like,
they're learning more about themselves
and that is the ultimate thing to talk to a person about.
Themselves.
I wish I knew that simply walking up to someone in class
and asking them what their major is
or what they're passionate about was an easy way
to start a conversation with a person
who is in the same process that I was,
learning all about themselves and chances are,
striking up a conversation with someone in your class
about why they're taking that class
or how it's helping towards their major, is an opener
that they're gonna feel comfortable talking about
because they are trying to figure that out too
and knowing that there's someone there
that cares about them, that wants to offer input,
and wants to hear what they have to say,
is gonna make them feel a connection with you.
But I am curious to know what your friend situation is like.
So leave a comment down below letting me know.
Do you have a small, close-knit group of friends?
Are you more of a loner
and making more friends is something you wanna do?
Or is just making more friends and just putting yourself
out there something you aspire to do in the next year?
Leave a comment down below letting me know
and check out the video over here
where I break down more of my college experiences.
I talk all about how I dealt with grades and friends
and living on campus and all that kinda crazy stuff.
My college life was a roller coaster, guys
and I love sharing with you.
So, check out the video over here
and I'll catch ya guys next time.
As always, love and peace.