i remember the first time someone commented in my appearance i was 12 years old and i came to school
one day in a ponytail my friend said oh you look like an old bald man and i didn't wear my hair
in a ponytail again for years i remember that same year a girl said to me men don't like skinny girls
i was 12. and so i worked out every single day for years in order to build muscle
then as i finally had some carbs a boy told me i was built like a man and it was kind of weird
i wanted to talk about body positivity today as i feel like it's something that's taken
my whole life to master and if i can even make one person realize
the problems in society with body image then it will be a job well done
when we talk about societal body standards it's kind of a weird topic because what is a
body standard for some people may not be the same for others depending on maybe the generation you
grew up in or what area of the world you come from it's true that there is no one perfect
body type according to society and so it's kind of funny that we spend our whole lives trying to have
that body and be that girl when it's different all over the world depending on who you ask
even throughout my 21 years which yes it's not a lot of time on earth i have encountered so many
changes on beauty standards from thick eyebrows to thin eyebrows lots of makeup to no makeup
blonde hair to brown hair skinny to curves big bum small bum it's just always changing
for example when i was living in the uk i feel like the ideal body type is really about
big curves and a thin waist and so like i said before i trained at the gym for so long to get
that body type and then i came to france and i felt fat because curves were not the body type
that everyone wanted everyone wanted to be straight they want to be as skinny as possible
and so even by crossing the ocean on a two-hour plane i suddenly was not the ideal body type and
i felt insecure once again and now i'm over here in spain where everyone wants to
be super tan with perfect olive skin and i am absolutely pasty white and the funny thing is
as much as i'm not the ideal body type here i feel great and that's because i know that
it doesn't matter how much i try and change the way i look i am who i am and what matters most
is what's inside which everyone says but it's true i can go on a trip to one country and be
the dream and go to another and look disgusting according to the body type so i'm not going to
get fussed up over something that is so ever-changing and constantly evolving
so it's not just about being happy with the way you look but making sure that you're treating your
body the way that it should be treated that's to say nourishing it eating enough every single day
trying to exercise a bit and not damaging your body on a daily basis
my body might look healthy in one way but if another body type was to try and eat the way i
do an exercise that we do it could completely not work for them and they could be 10 pounds
heavier 10 pounds lighter they could be unhealthy or super healthy for example how can you expect a
four foot 11 person to have the same desired healthy weight as someone who's six foot one
even the difference in height means the need to eat different amounts
maybe even eat completely different things it just depends on your own body so when you go on
tick-tock and you're following a nutritionist or a personal trainer and they're telling you
you need to eat this this and this and you need to work out this this and this remember that
body is not a one-size-fits-all you don't go into a clothing store and find a top that fits
everybody perfectly and that's the same when it comes to advice if you're looking for advice you
should definitely reach out to a professional but make sure that the advice is tailored to
you personally not on a tick tock app where it's being viewed by millions and millions of different
genders heights ages body types because some nutritional advice is not suitable for everyone
i feel like that was a good segue into the problem with social media and body positivity
when i used to go and take talk i noticed that the platform had so many problems with
toxic body standards and body positivity as they would call it you know i would see all of these
videos from women of certain body types shaming another body type for the way that they look
and that's just not body positivity and that's making someone else feel worse in order for
yourself to feel better is never the way to do things and when i used to see this kind of content
it just made me so mad that there's probably some susceptible people on the other end then
feeling horrible about the way they look because of a tick tock they saw another crazy trend that
has come around on tick tock is romanticizing having plastic surgery i romanticizing going
through dangerous operations in order to fit this year's body type which is probably not going to be
the ideal potty type in five years and things like the egg girl who under eats she wakes up
super early and runs 10 kilometers a day and is super productive but really is not nourishing
her body in the proper way but everyone on social media said that's the person that we want to be
it's a person we want to admire you know you can't have a single slice of pizza if you want to be fit
and healthy and you want to look like a supermodel there's just so much misinformation with regards
to what it means to be healthy another thing that i've seen a lot of women particularly struggle
with is the way that your body changes throughout your life for example i look completely different
to what i look like at 15 and that's okay with me my body has been through so much more in the past
six years that i would be more worried if i did look like what i look like as a 15 year old i've
seen a lot of hate in journalism when celebrities have a baby and they go on their first day out
to the beach and their swimsuit looks a little different on them and journalists will label them
as fat or they've lost it or they've been eating too much pizza and it's just the most brutal thing
to see you know as a woman if you give birth of course your body is gonna change if you've aged
six years of course you're gonna look different that's just natural that's how it is and we need
to accept it it's not a bad thing it's not a good thing it's just how life works we need to stop
fearing aging and changing not having the current ideal body and instead start thinking about how we
can treat our bodies better how we can nourish ourselves better and not how to get a quick fix
via a dangerous plastic surgery operation or a new fad diet which is literally just starvation
in concluding i really wanted to stress a point that our body's main principle is not to look
cute for a picture it's to get us through life it's to keep us going it's to wake us up every
day to keep breathing and we need to respect that we need to realize sometimes maybe after a
good meal you look a little bloated stop admiring these eight girls who are promoting unhealthy body
standards and eating habits to younger generations a platform like tick tock is filled with young
girls we want to be promoting how to be happy with our bodies not have to mistreat them and under eat
when i say a lot of things on social media about posit body positivity it's all about promoting the
way that you personally look and i agree with that you should love your own body but it should not
come at the expense of shaming other body types just to reiterate you're not gonna look the same
way in the next five years and that does not mean you're going to look better or worse it just means
your body is going to change we have to accept it and we just have to keep treating our body as it
should be treated social media has a really weird form of algorithm where when you have one body
type all you're gonna see is the complete opposite body type with a million followers and a hundred
thousand likes and perfect lighting maybe a little edited and so maybe stop following these accounts
that make you feel insecure about the way you look lastly society is so indecisive it's constantly
changing and evolving and if you're seeking the approval of it you're never going to be happy so
you just need to learn how to like the way you look how to be happy with the person you are
and not comparing yourself to everyone else around you okay i know this was a bit of a different
video but i just had a thought a couple nights ago about a kind of video like this how to talk about
toxic body trends and how to feel good with the way you look because it's something i'm only just
getting to the stage now and if i can make one person realize that our body is there to get us
for the day and it's not there to be the ideal of society then i know i've done my job right then
i can say i'm proud of myself and part of the content i'm producing on this platform so thank
you very much for getting for this video i hope you enjoyed and if you did here or two videos i
recommend and if not that's okay i hope you have a beautiful day and i hope you love your body bye