if you've ever found yourself in a situation when you wanted to get close
with a girl and you wanted maybe to sleep with her but you found a very
careful around going in that direction with you then you may have overlooked
addressing some of her biggest fears around sex with you or even just getting
intimate with you in any way so in this video I want to help you address some of
the biggest fears around getting intimate with you or having sex with you
and how to address them easily up front so that these fears basically don't even
pop up in our mind so much my name is Stephan Erdman I'm dedicated to help
you to attract women in a natural way without any kind of weird pick-up
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videos now here's something that a lot of guys don't realize women really like
good sex in fact they love it probably more than
us on average so why do they not throw themselves at guys wherever they can and
why can they be so difficult to get used to this idea of having sex with you the
answer is simple because they're bigger risks associated with sex for women than
for men when it comes to sex despite all the condoms in the world there is a real
risk for women to get pregnant and it does happen in this day and age so this
is a real fear for a girl and it's good for you to be aware of that women also
fear being judged because of the sad tradition of slut shaming women and
calling guys studs that sleep around okay when everybody could just basically
do the same thing and feel good about it and women also are worried about what if
it doesn't really go anywhere what if the sex is bad and they don't want to
see the guy again will he get complicated aggressive
possessive all of these things there are many stories that I've heard from some
of my female friends when guys basically you assume just because they've slept
together once somehow they're boyfriend and girlfriend now and call them every
minute of the day rather than letting things happen the step by step and just
developed from there right guys can get really controlling at that point and
women are worried about that women also fear guys basically boasting about
hooking up with them - they're sometimes mutual friends that's a real fear
because then women's reputation can get ruined by basically people gossiping and
you know this happens especially of course in high schools at universities
and things like that strangely it never seems to negatively
affect the reputation of the guy most often it's seen as positive for the guy
negative for the girl so that's why even if a girl is turned on ready to go she
will still probably play it cool unless she's in a very specific situation and
you've done some of the right things before that moment when she notices yes
I'm into this guy and actually I want to sleep with him right now
so what are some things you can do well you've got to address those three big
fears number one you've got to prove to her that you're not judgmental about
women or anyone number two you've got to prove to her that even though you are
attracted to definitely and you will definitely want to get into her pants
and you might want to make that quite clear in a playful way that you are
laid-back about sex it doesn't mean anything at that point and you're not
gonna get possessive controlling oil assume that you're gonna be in a
relationship because you are you know getting intimate with her number three
you want to prove to her in some way that you discreet and that you care
about her well-being and her reputation as much as your own and you're not gonna
be boasting about sleeping with her after it happened to your friends or her
friends or anybody or put it on Facebook so how do you do that this is where
stories can come in really nicely if you want her to understand that use somebody
that doesn't judge people or women specifically you can just tell a story
about a friend of yours who may be very unconventional and how you really admire
the fact that she doesn't care what people think and that she just you know
if she likes a guy she goes for it and it doesn't really affect
like there may be one or two people judging her but she doesn't care at all
and she doesn't take any shit from anybody about that if you have a friend
like that that you admire great so tell that story to the second point you can
just bring up some of that that you find it completely weird how sometimes guys
can get so possessive or controlling or they kind of think that you know you
could they sleep with a girl once and some other in a relationship how you
find that really quite strange and that you know that's something that you know
one or two of your female friends have told you about you can just throw in a
quick comment about that and it will just sink in and she'll just
automatically understand that that's where you are coming from and it will
allow her to feel more safe with you now the last point about caring for her
well-being honestly guys totally underestimate this because they think
somehow they have to be tough and show this interest and stuff but you can you
can be playful all of that and still show that you care about her being safe
and feeling good and comfortable and that you care about her reputation you
can just do that by being a good guy too you know notice the little things where
you can make sure she's okay and secondly you can also throw in a little
story about something and you can do that literally by saying hey you know I
don't post much on Facebook or Instagram or something I never understand what
people have to put all their private moments online for everybody to see it's
a very strange thing isn't it and then you get maybe into a quick conversation
about that but she's understood that you're not gonna be going around you
know saying hey I slept with this in this girl and blah blah blah or you
gonna talk to your mutual friends or something at the same time though you
want to be open with the fact that you find her attractive flirting with her
teasing her saying stuff like oh you're very cute I've got to control myself
here you you're being a bad influence on me in a playful way now all of those
things is where you're flirting when you're teasing when you're basically
saying yes I find you attractive but at the same time I'm super chilled
about sex I'm super careful around your feelings because I want you to feel
great and feel free with me and I'm totally not judgmental on women or
myself or anybody because I feel people should just do what they want to do now
when you can bring those things across by your behavior and by maybe one or two
anecdotes or stories you've just successfully removed the biggest fears
that might be going around in a mind related to hooking up with you basically
if you want to learn how to make the next steps and build that attraction and
conversation go here to this link and I'll tell you more there