What is real? Why do some people seem to
have it all? and some people seem to be
so anemic and have just about nothing.
why are some people happy? why are some
people sad? all of this is guided by our
perception. Here on limitless TV, today,
I'm bringing on a powerful mentor,
Wylene Benson. Someone that I have known for
years. I have spent countless hours with
this woman. And she leads a movement that
changes countless lives and it all comes
down to understanding this word,
perception. What does it really mean? and
what if you were capable of altering
your reality just by thinking a little
bit differently
Wylene Benson.
Hey everybody, this is Wylene Benson
and this video is about how to change
your perception of reality. And, I'm, we're
just going to have a little conversation
here. Have you ever been in a situation
or maybe you're currently in a situation
that is less than perfect? and maybe
you're even looking at that situation or
circumstances something that would be
considered bad. Well, I'm, in the next
little bit, in the next five to ten
minutes, I'm going to be able to share
with you two things that you can look
into that situation and apply to that
situation, and all of a sudden change
your perception of that and see that
it's good. That it's a blessing, it's
something that, that is perfect for your
situation and who you are right now. You
know, what is reality? Reality to one
person might mean something completely
different to what reality is to someone
else. So your perception of reality, you
could perceive, you know, one person could
perceive a situation as good and then
another person could perceive the exact
same situation as bad. And maybe,
depending on experiences that you've had
in the past, that have helped prepare you
for a situation that came up, maybe it
would be, "oh this is no big deal I've
done this before" and it wouldn't be that
big of a deal. And another person might
have the exact same situation but they
haven't had the preparation. And so
they're feeling really stressed out
about it. So, as we go into this video, I'm
going to invite you to really look at
what reality is for you and how do you
perceive it. And I'm also going to invite
you to consider that you have the choice
to perceive reality in whatever way you
choose. You can perceive something as a
learning experience and be really
excited and challenged about it, and you
can experience something as, as bad and
you don't want it and want to push it
away, and have a negative experience
from it. So I'm going to invite you to
perceive that as whatever you choose
and as we go into this, I'm going to
share two ways, that two things that you
can add into your perception to be able
to turn any situation into a positive
experience and have it be good. So
hopefully you're excited to hear those
things. I'm going to go ahead and share
them. So the first thing is
accountability. And what I mean by
accountability is, when you are in the
middle of a situation and you're feeling
like this is really not perfect, it's not
it's something that I really want to
have in my life. Take a moment and
breathe and just look at how am I
accountable for having this situation in
my life? and what that does first of all
is, it takes the victim mentality out of
it. It takes out any judgment of how this
happened to me and I had no control over
it. So just take a moment and see where
your accountable. And then the second
thing is to find gratitude. And this
might seem kind of weird because it
might be kind of hard to, you know, think
you might have a hard time finding
gratitude and something that you don't
really want in your life. But if you will
take a moment and just know that there
is gratitude there and all you have to
do is just take a look inside and find
it.
Just find the gratitude inside of the
circumstance, and when I say find the
gratitude inside the circumstance, I'm
not talking about find the gratitude in
spite of the circumstance. I'm talking
find the gratitude because of the
circumstance. So I'm going to give you a
little example of something that
happened in my life that hopefully will
be able to illustrate these points. My
husband and I, when we were just getting
started into real estate investing, we
thought we were so smart and we thought
we knew what we were doing and we bought
this house and it was above the median
price range. And if you don't know what
the median price range is, it basically
means it was a little bit more expensive
that what most people could afford. And
so we bought this house. We did a lot of
fix up on it and thought we were, you
know, had it looking really nice. We put
it on the market
and not only did we not get one person
to come and look at the house, we
couldn't even get anybody to come and
look at it to rent. So it's that empty
for two years. we can't sell it, we couldn't
rent it, we didn't know what to do with
it. And so we just kind of hung on to it,
we kept making the payments and then at
the end of that two years,
we had an
opportunity to invite a family to come
and stay in that house and we let them
live there free for six months. And I
know a lot of you would look at that and
think, "wow that is crazy" and some people
do think that was crazy. But we felt like
if it was going to be sitting there
empty anyway, we might as well let
somebody enjoy it. And so what the
outcome of that, of that situation was,
that after the six months, the family was
able to start making payments. They had
been doing some sweat equity, you know,
doing the yard work, doing some painting
things like that during the first six
months. And then after that they would
began making payments. And they made
payments on time. They were always really
good. They kept the yard up, they did
everything really great in the house, and
kept it really nice, and they lived there
for six years. We were able to receive
rent from that family for six years and
and make money that way. They paid the
house payment. And then at the end of
the six years, when we felt like it was
time to sell, we sold that house and we
made a hundred thousand dollars profit
on that house. And then the family moved
out. They were able to they were on their
feet by then and they were able to buy
their own house and it was a great
win-win situation for everyone. So if I
look back on that situation, first of all,
I'm going to find the accountability. And
the accountability for us was that, we
bought a house that was above the median
price range. So there was the
accountability of actually getting into
the situation ourselves. All right and
the gratitude that I can find in that
situation is that, not only did were we
able to make $100,000 on that profit,
on that sale, when we finally did sell
that house, but we were able to
help this family to get on their feet.
They were able to live for six months in
that house. Somebody was living there so
we felt like it was being of use and
also they were putting some sweat equity
in the house and so they were keeping it
up for us we didn't have to do yard work
and all of those kinds of things. So a
huge amount of gratitude to them for
that first six months that they lived
there and then of course the six months
that they were paying or excuse me,
the six years that they were paying
their rent, we didn't have to pay make a
house payment. They were paying for that.
So there's a huge amount of gratitude
and all of that, all wrapped into one. So
sometimes when you're in the middle of a
situation and it's hard to perceive that
there's something good that's going to
come out of this situation that you're
in, I'm just going to invite you to take
that moment and first of all find
accountability. Because I promise you,
there is accountability in every single
situation. Even if it's something that
you feel like was thrust upon you. If you
look within it, you will find some
accountability and you can take your
control back and you won't have to feel
like a victim. And then once you find
your accountability, it's easier to be
able to look in the situation and say,
"because of this situation, this is what
I'm experiencing and I'm so grateful for
it". And so I encourage you to find those
two things within any of your, any of
your circumstances and it's going to
turn out to be good and you're going to
love it and you're going to look back on
it, and it's going to be one of your
favorite opportunities of learning and
it will prepare you for the next
opportunity that will come to you.
Honestly, there couldn't be a better
topic than what wylene has shared with
you today. This idea of, how I view my
world and my perception and how that
creates my reality. Wylene, thank you so
much for being on and if it's all right
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