Hey, what’s going on?
It’s Tripp from Tripp Advice.com and today we’re going to be talking about how to not
run out of things to say.
I get this question all the time.
Guys are really focused on being able to continue conversation and I get it.
I had that question too when I was first starting out.
I get it.
You want to make sure there’s no weird pauses and the conversation is flowing smoothly and
everything you’re saying is the best, right?
That’s kind of the first lesson I want to give you today in this video.
Is that, not everything that you say to a girl has to be mind blowingly awesome.
Yes, that’s right.
You can still attract girls and not have every word be perfect.
You can make mistakes.
You can screw up.
It’s not as important as a lot of guys make it out to be.
However, I still am today going to be giving you three really great ways to be able to
not run out of things to say.
Just remember this concept that I’m telling you right now and understand that you can
take the pressure off of yourself so not everything is 100% perfect.
There’s only so much information that people are even able to digest when you’re in a
conversation with them.
There’s a lot of data that we’re taking in all the time.
Not every word has to be perfect.
Let’s get into it.
The first tip I can give you in terms of keeping a conversation flowing smoothly is to be able
to use assumptions.
If you’re talking to a girl and you find that there’s a little bit of a dip in conversation,
use assumptions to keep it going.
For example, you can assume something about her in terms of where she lives.
You can assume something about her in terms of what she does for a living or what she’s
doing later.
All you can say is “Let me guess, you’re from the west coast aren’t you?
I get this vibe about you.”
Or you can assume what she does for a living “You’re an accountant.
I get this vibe that you’re an accountant, right?”
Anyway of just assuming something about her is going to get her intrigued to give you
some sort of response.
So use assumptions when there’s a different conversation.
Here’s a second tip for you.
This is something that’s actually widely underused and it’s something that I learned
from Julian Blanc from RSD.
He talks about just flat out admitting that you ran out of things to say.
A lot of guys might be scared to do that but they’re going to see how forgiving a girl
is when she actually hears that and she’ll actually try to continue the conversation
because you’re admitting that you kind of ran out of things to say.
And it actually makes you appear more confident because you’re not scared about it and you’re
not trying to hide the fact that you ran out of things to say.
So literally say those words when you’re talking to a girl.
It’s a different conversation.
Just be like “You know what?
I really don’t know what to say next.
I completely ran out of things to say.
Where should we go from here?”
Just say anything along those lines and trust me it’s going to make for a funny moment
in conversation.
Here’s the third tip for you, here’s what you can do.
I want you to be able to ask her her opinion on something.
This is not the same thing as an opinion opener.
Go up to a girl and asking her what she likes better.
This is something that I want to be a true question that you want to ask on an actual
opinion that you believe.
I’m not going to sit here and give you some examples of what it could be because I don’t
want you to copy those.
I really don’t want you to use those.
In this case I want you to come up with something that you’re curious about.
Something that you actually want an opinion on.
Maybe it’s something you’ve been reading about.
Maybe it’s something that’s going on in the news.
Maybe it’s something that’s going on at your work.
Something that’s going on that’s in a debate or a discussion between you and your
friends.
What are those things?
Bring them up in conversation.
Ask her about it.
Here’s the best part.
Girls really really love to give their opinions.
In fact, everyone does.
Everyone loves to give their opinions on whatever the matter is.
In fact, you can open it up like that.
You can say “Let me get your opinion on something.”
And then fill it from there.
Let’s recap here for a second.
The first thing is assumptions.
You’re going to assume something about her.
You’re going to guess something about her.
The second thing is actually admitting that you have nothing to say.
You’re actually going to say that outlaid to her.
“I ran out of things to say.”
And the third thing is going to be asking her opinion on something that’s specifically
interesting to you.
There you go.
Use those the next time that there is a lull in conversation.
Now if you want to learn more about how to continue conversation and some other really
cool techniques, I have a blog post on my website that I’m going to put a link for
in the description below and on the blog post it actually teaches you the techniques that
are used in improv comedy.
If you don’t know anything about improv comedy, the whole idea is people on stage
trying to make you laugh, coming up with something out of complete air.
That’s what this blog post is going to teach you.
It’s going to teach you how to be able to do that.
Come up with something out of nothing.
With the blog post and the tips I just gave you, you should be able to never run out of
things to say.
Now of course, as always, I want to talk to you so write down in the comments what you
thought about this video.
And if you have any other tips about how to keep conversation going.
Don’t forget, check out the blog post below in the description and I’ll see you on the
next video.