okay to be honest with you i had no intention of doing a gender reveal
the first thing i did when i found out i was pregnant or one of the first things i did was
text my best friend who had recently had a baby and i was like i'm not doing a [ __ ] gender
reveal like i used to think they were really cheesy and there's also people in my life who
prefer to go by gender neutral pronouns and so i think of them when so much emphasis is
placed on gender that said so garrett and i didn't do the fun pregnancy reveal where
i like took the test and i like wrapped it up so he could open it up and like surprise him i had
just gotten back from french polynesia i really didn't know that i was pregnant i talked about
this a little bit in the uh my pregnant video i mistook early pregnancy symptoms for my period
coming and so when i took that test i was shocked you know i know i'm so lucky with how quickly we
got pregnant but all of that is to say that it was a big surprise and so this kind of was our
way of making up for that and still having a fun celebration and surprise all together
still i probably wouldn't have done a gender reveal if it weren't for a conversation i
was having with my mom where i joked with her that we were gonna do the cake because i just
thought that she thought they were cheesy too but she actually got really excited about it
i headed to the airport now to pick up my mom and brother one step closer to finding out boy or girl
there they are and when she and my brother visited i decided to make a little card to surprise him
to tell him that i was pregnant because he didn't know yet i was just finishing
up my first trimester and i also ordered the cake picked up the cake and oops it's huge
there's only four of us so i guess somehow we'll figure this out we'll probably be
giving a lot of cake away but i'm so excited to open it we actually didn't have to wait until
the 20-week scan to find out the sex of the baby i did the non-invasive prenatal testing
at my 11th week i think anyway from that blood they're able to see a little bit of information
about the baby specifically the chromosomes so the best thing about that is you find out early
if you're a carrier for certain genetic conditions and if your baby tests high or low for them and
another thing of course they know from looking at the chromosomes is whether it is a male or a
female i just got an email from natara they have my results in and it's like eight in the morning
garrett worked all night so he's asleep right now and i really don't want to wait to find out
if everything is fine there's a way i think you can look at this without finding out the sex so oh
they have this like virtual assistant thing that pops up and chats with you okay let's get started
this is i can like feel my heartbeat
up here i'm so nervous for this am i ready to view my results yes
low risk
that's awesome i can tell you if you're having a boy or a girl would you like to know no clothing
is now oh my gosh i'm so relieved being 35 every time i google anything it says when you're over 35
the chances of all these horrible scary conditions are much higher and so i just feel very bullied by
the internet right now it feels so much better i feel like maybe i can start letting people know
now i feel like i've been holding on to this secret but relieved i'm so relieved neither
garrett nor i have a preference in terms of the sex of the baby i don't place that much importance
honestly on that i think that they're going to be whoever they're going to be you want a boy or a
matter you don't care at all me neither and if it's a little boy who wants to wear dresses in
pink like that's fine if it's a little girl who is more into like sports and being muddy like
more power to her that's also fine with me when i started looking up gender reveal cakes the ones
that were like football player or ballerina i was just like oh we settled on a design that
wasn't as gendered and so i was just excited to figure out just a little bit more about who this
little human is i shared a little bit in my pregnancy announcement video that
it was hard for me through the first trimester to feel confident to feel good i had so many
doubts running through my head this was a big way for us to just get to know
our little baby to be a little bit better for me to picture it all a little bit better it's a girl
we already know the name we're already settled on it if it's a boy we're gonna have a little
bit of a battle because garrett doesn't like the same name that i do so for figuring out the sex
i am sending my login information for this to my best friend and so she's going to be the only one
and the lady who makes the cake they're going to be the only ones who know i'm going to text her
the login now she said she's crying it's really fun to actually share this with my friend too
i had to guess though i feel like it's a boy and i don't know why i just feel like when i tune in
that's what i feel like i'm having i've been asking my friend my girlfriends from college
what they think i'm having and the jury is totally out but most of them think it's gonna be a girl
here we go this is crazy okay
that day was the first step into our second trimester it would be seven weeks later that
we saw what the blood test revealed confirmed on ultrasound and it was a magical moment that
i can barely remember because there were so many other things we were looking at too to
see if you were healthy and well now that we know a little bit more about you i can't help
but feel closer to you and with each passing week i feel more confident and less scared
and your gender could really matter less to me it's just my
job to love you and to guide you to be the best human you can be
someone who's respectful honest caring and i cannot wait to meet you soon