hey everyone and welcome to top think today we're going to learn about 15 psychological facts
about attraction now let's begin number one threshold of attraction has anyone ever asked
you what's your type right now you may be fond of a specific look but your type changes based on
your relationship status when you're single your threshold for romantic attraction is low and broad
you're attracted to a wide range of people because you're unsure what kind of person will
make you happy when you're in a relationship your preferences change your threshold for attraction
gets much higher you already have a partner so you don't find the same people attractive
now of course you still find other people attractive those preferences never disappear
even in long-term relationships you may be perfectly happy with your partner but you can
still be attracted to other people number two attraction control some people are born with
attractive features but here's a psychological fact that most people don't know about attraction
your most attractive features are entirely under your control you can't change your height or the
shape of your face you're stuck with those things for life but you can influence your health your
grooming and your wardrobe just think about the physical features that attractive people have in
common attractive faces come in all shapes and sizes and each of these faces looks different
and unique yet we find them all attractive so why is that it's not because of their innate physical
features it's because of the traits they can control like style and fitness if you don't
think you're attractive don't say i just wasn't born that way because your appearance is yours
to control number three emotional rapport have you ever watched couples interact maybe you thought to
yourself wow they have great chemistry chemistry is one of the biggest mysteries in romantic
relationships how do you create chemistry with another person is it magic or is there a reason
why some people have chemistry and some people don't to build chemistry you have to build rapport
rapport is a complicated social relationship built upon deeper knowledge and mutual understanding you
might have heard the term in a business context but it's even more important in a relationship
so the next time you're around a strong couple pay attention to the way they talk to each other
it almost feels like they're having several conversations at once
one on the surface and another below the surface when you have great chemistry only you and your
partner can communicate in a way only you two understand but how do you build chemistry
it's easier than you think the best way to build chemistry is conversation be yourself make jokes
get to know each other on a deeper level because that's where chemistry comes from number four
facial similarity so what kind of people are you attracted to you may be drawn to people
that share many of your own qualities your style is a good example you may pursue partners with
a similar sense of fashion so if you like to dress down chances are your partner does too
we see the same pattern in physical features like hair color it's not uncommon for romantic couples
to look alike but why do we fall for people who look like us because you look at yourself every
day you think about how many times you've looked at your face in the mirror your features are the
features you're used to your attractiveness is how you judge the attractiveness of others
so don't be surprised if you and your partner have characteristics in common
number five smile frequency how often do you smile a study from the american
psychological association found that women are perceived as more attractive when they smile
frequently traits like positivity and confidence are associated with happy facial expressions
like a genuine smile so it's no surprise that men consider women more desirable when they're smiling
ah but the opposite is true for men women perceive men as more attractive when they smile sparingly
many women prefer brooding personality types similar to reserved characters in movies and books
but you shouldn't change your facial expressions to make you more attractive
that's not the takeaway here the takeaway is this facial expression sends strong messages about your
attitude and your personality smiling or frowning it speaks volumes about who you really are number
six the hair limit is facial hair attractive or unattractive on average men with stubble were
rated as more attractive than men who were clean shaven but there's a limit to how long your beard
should grow men with longer fuller beards were also considered less attractive than men with
stubble so don't be afraid to grow out your facial hair just make sure you keep it short and clean
number seven bold communication many men and women play hard to get they act like they don't
care they pretend to be cool and carefree but their disinterest pushes their partners away
the most attractive people send the opposite message they use bold and confident body language
they send clear messages and express their wants needs and feelings these people aren't
afraid to communicate their interest and that communication makes them even more attractive
number eight the hidden sense physical attraction involves all five senses we're attracted to the
way someone looks we're attracted to the sound of someone's voice and we're also attracted
to the way someone smells a smell can be so powerful that it overwhelms you with desire
for another person the unique smell of a partner for example can trigger a wide range of emotions
from comfort to attraction so to make yourself more attractive pay attention to the way you smell
create a unique scent for yourself because your scent could be one of your most attractive traits
number nine influential media how do you decide who's attractive and who isn't our standards are
influenced heavily by the media we are constantly exposed to models actors and other celebrities
whose appearances define modern romance when looking at strangers we subconsciously measure
their attractiveness against the people we idolize but we treat partners a little differently you
may think someone's attractive based on popular traits but you're more likely to choose a partner
who's uniquely attractive to you number 10 the beauty bias is there a beauty bias in our culture
unfortunately attractive people have more opportunities than less attractive people
on average they're perceived as more intelligent more confident and more successful they're more
likely to get job offers make more money and make good first impressions so why do attractive
people have an advantage well because most of us have a weak spot for people we find attractive
when you encounter someone you find attractive you automatically make certain assumptions about them
you want to like them and you want them to like you so does a beauty bias exist in the world today
absolutely number 11 attractive popularity sometimes your physical attractiveness has
nothing to do with you all right let's say a guy is sitting next to his girlfriend because
he's captured the attention of one woman he's more likely to capture the attention of others
the attention you receive is one way that we measure attraction
if you're constantly being fond over others will subconsciously find you attractive
if you're constantly being ignored then you may experience the opposite
number 12 tonal changes when you're flirting with someone you like your voice actually changes
this comes from a 2010 study in the journal of non-verbal behavior
researchers found that men and women speak in a lower register when they find someone attractive
but that's not all men and women are also more likely to be attracted to someone's voice
if they find them physically attractive too in other words your voice and vocal
preferences influence the people you like and the people who like you
number 13 attractive colors are some colors more attractive than others well the most attractive
color is also the symbolic color of love on average women who wear red are rated as more
attractive than women who wear any other color but why is red more attractive than a color like
blue well red communicates powerful subliminal messages which impact your attraction to another
person it's a bold daring color that we naturally associate with romance attraction and love so how
can you give your physical appearance an instant boost just incorporate more red into your wardrobe
number 14 musical atmosphere music can have a psychological impact on your attraction
and your attractiveness when listening to the right music you can experience a person in a
completely different way music creates atmospheres and atmosphere sets the tone of any interaction
this effect was carefully examined in a 2014 study from the journal psychology of music
researchers analyzed the romantic attraction of conversation partners with
and without music playing it turns out the addition of music significantly
increase their physical and emotional connections in other words turn on some music even if it's not
the perfect song the presence of background music can make you a more attractive option
number 15 familiar attraction familiarity is one of the most powerful motivators of attraction the
more familiar someone feels the closer you feel to them now you won't be attracted to everyone you
feel close to however it's very likely that the person you fall for will be intimately involved
in your life for example you may be attracted to someone who works at your favorite restaurant
you see this person relatively often so they feel more familiar you've gotten to know them
better and over time your attraction has grown stronger even if this person isn't attractive
to the rest of the world their familiarity makes them attractive to you hey thank you
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