Today, we're discussing how to tell if a guy's a player so that you can spot it early on
in the future and never be hurt by this type of guy again. Hi girls, I'm Mark from Make
Him Yours. Stay tuned.
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Hey girls, it's Mark here from Make Him Yours. Today, I want to give you tips on how to spot
a player. So I know you girls are all sick of them. I know you're over dating players,
you're over getting hurt, so hopefully I can show you some stuff today that's going to
prevent that happening in the future so you can go on and have some great relationships.
Before we get started, I should make clear what we're defining as a player today for
the purposes of time, I'm not necessarily saying that a player's a guy that's seeing
other girls while he's seeing you. That can be normal and it can be done in an honest
way. If he's lying about it or if he's leading you on, then that makes a player. So he's
acting like he wants something that he doesn't or he's seeing other girls and is lying about
it.
Essentially, he's manipulating you. That's what I want to help you spot today. Number
one, he doesn't see you if sex is impossible. So players will only want to see you when
they know they can almost certainly have sex with you. So they're going to want to hang
out at night, they're going to want to hang out in locations where they know they can
sleep with you. Number two, he doesn't offer anything resembling a real date. So the player
is often not going to put in the effort of of having a real date with you, sometimes
a guy will, but it's very rare. Most of the time, a player just wants to use you. He doesn't
want to actually put real effort into coming up with a creative interesting date for you.
Number three, he's charming when he's with you, but then strangely distant when he's
not.
Does he drop off the radar between times when you see him? Does he kind of disappear? Is
he's super, super charming when he's with you, but unavailable when he's not? It's probably
because he's being super, super charming with someone else. Number four, he'd be really
caught off guard if he runs into you unexpectedly. So players are all about manipulating the
situation. They're about controlling things. When a piece moves out of place and you run
into him when he's not expecting it, he'll be really thrown off and he wouldn't really
know how to handle it well. Number five, he suspicious of your dating life and ask lots
of questions. So a player knows a player's game. Remember, fundamentally, a player's an
insecure guy. He plays because that's how he feels better about himself because he knows
he can control the situation. If you are potentially dating other guys or if you're doing what
he's doing, he's going to be freaking out because he's not controlling the situation.
He's not going to deal well with the idea that you could be seeing other guys, that
you could be sleeping with other guys. It's not going to work well in his head. So he's
going to be usually super jealous. He's going to be worried that you are doing to him exactly
what he's doing to you. He's not going to deal with any threats well. Whereas a more
secure guy, is going to understand a bit more how dating works. He's not going to put as
much pressure on you, but he's not going to be as overly, jealous or weird when other
guys come up.
Number six, all your hangouts are one on one, so if you'd never met his family, if in the
midst friends, especially after a decent amount of time, you know, a few weeks or a month
or two, you're getting into it and you still don't know anyone in his life, odds are you
might be being played. Go watch that guy.
Number seven, he continues to hide his Facebook for an unreasonable amount of time. Now it
can be, I feel a little normal for guys to want to hide their Facebook on the first couple
of dates. Let's be honest, y'all can be a little bit stalker-ish at times. If he's still
hiding his Facebook after the third or the fourth date, then that's weird. It's probably
hiding something and could well be playing you. Number eight and this is a really big
one girls. He's weird about his phone. So a player's never going to be comfortable with
you being in and around his phone with you potentially seeing his messages. He's going
to keep it on him at all times and he's going to be funny if you go for it at all. Not saying
that you should jump a guy's phone cause that's weird as well, but players will be particularly
hesitant to have you anywhere near their phone and they won't want you to have any access
to it.
Number nine, he's texting really frequently when you're out together. So a player typically
has to manage his life and he has to manage all the things that he's doing. And the girls,
he's seeing. If he's texting really frequently while you're together, especially if he's
vague about who he's texting and he doesn't want to kind of make it clear to you, could
be a sign as well that he's playing you and he's keeping his life in order by doing that.
And finally number 10, he's not keen for exclusivity after a reasonable amount of time. If it's
been a couple of months and he's still not keen to commit and you guys have been sort
of fairly solid in your opinion up until that point, but he doesn't want to go there. It's
probably a sign that there's a strong reason he doesn't want to go there in the fall of
another girl.
Ladies, I hope that helps you, gives you some indicators on how to spot a player and when
a guy might be leading you on or manipulating you, let me know if you agree or disagree.
I'd love to hear if you have other signs. Let's share them around the community and
get girls, avoiding them so that they can spot them and become more aware. Enter your
comment below. Like I say, I want to know, I want to know your experiences. I want to
hear from you what you want to hear from me as well as your own happenings and what you've
seen with yourself or your friends. Make sure you check out the blog as well makehimyours.com.au.
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