hi I'm Adrienne Everheart and i'm a feminine energy dating and relationship coach now i teach
powerful dynamite women just like yourself how to reawaken realign and balance your masculine
and feminine energies now in this video i'm going to show you how your thinking is sabotaging your
relationship and i'm going to teach you my one method it's an acronym of sorts to control
or manage your thinking this is going to improve your relationships it's going to increase your
high quality feel good energy as you always flex your feminine energy muscle so you can
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so many of my coaching clients come to me with the same problem it's two things what the man is or
is not doing and two what we as women think judge and feel about the event or the non-event in short
the meaning we give something now while we cannot control what anyone does or says you can control
or manage how you think and respond instead of sabotaging a relationship with masculine energy
thinking doing action problem solving helping controlling the outcome and other
unproductive responses that put you the woman in the role as the masculine energy figure
now you may already know that when you do the man's work for him he no longer feels like a man
and when you take on the role as the problem solver or you criticize blame or find the
problems and you magnify them in order to fix them you're taking on the masculine energy role
now in most cases you're trying to be really really helpful but the man either feels challenged
and goes and finds something else that makes him feel like a man you know he leaves or he
slinks down into his feminine energy and he lets you further run the show now you may also be
stuffing down how you feel and this sabotages your relationship as well you might be numbing yourself
with food obsessive thoughts actions or words you regret drinking alcohol or any other means
of numbing such as shopping just closing down with drawing isolating yourself or even binge watching
tv now whatever it may be this feminine energy one technique i'm going to share with you is going to
radically change how you process your emotions and how you ultimately feel it's also going to
alter that energy in and around your life which affects your relationship just to name one well my
feminine energy one method is about getting you to slow down the masculine energy mind and step
into your feeling body or feminine energy now a man wants to connect with your warm
soft feeling body and energy not masculine competitiveness conflict or that hard exterior
armor so i want you to think of a recent event or problem or ongoing difficulty you are having
with a man or your love life and i want you to try and narrow it down and just pick one issue
now here's an example let's say your man is not calling or he's not initiating attention
he's instead talking to you less and he's no longer sending you texts during the day
and he's kind of sitting on the other side of the sofa he's not snuggled up next to you
so i really want you to insert your problem here now the first step in my one technique
is to observe what you are feeling now that is what the o stands for observe what's going on
now this means that the emotions that you're feeling the thoughts you are thinking how your
body is responding and feeling just observe it just stopping and observing alone is such a huge
step into getting into your feminine energy because we're really pausing we're putting
the brakes on thinking solving and doing and we're dropping down to your body now if your partner is
withdrawing from you you might feel insecure you might feel nervous you might feel a little shaky
and some of you might feel really angry or you have an urge like i've got to fix this i've got
to fix what's wrong or you want to discuss his psychology maybe you want to google his psychology
you might also feel sad and triggered by old issues and memories coming up so you really
want to isolate what you're feeling and you want to observe whatever this is and you want
to take a solid minute or two and just notice the thoughts you're thinking and don't judge yourself
don't label it as good as good or bad you might think well he seems depressed maybe he doesn't
think i'm pretty anymore or maybe there's someone else and i'm not good enough or what's wrong with
him why can't i ask him about this well i want you instead of action and taking masculine energy
action i want you to just observe what you're feeling and thinking and here's the next step
the end i want you to name the emotion masculine brain will have a barrage of emotions and stories
to support the emotion but i want you to narrow it down to just one emotion now your body might
be shaking and your legs might feel like wet noodles so what emotion do you feel i feel scared
i feel angry and just note that i feel he's aggravating me is not a feeling for you or i
feel so lost well what does lost feel like to you what does aggravated feel like to you i want you
to find the one emotion and feel it and observe it and name it okay now the next in is for neutralize
so this is a super important step it is going to take a lot of your focus and intention to really
learn how to neutralize your thoughts and that is removing the judgment removing the good or bad so
to neutralize you take a step back and you observe the feeling and the thoughts you name the emotion
but decide to be neutral about your thoughts so here's how to neutralize a thought first
understand the thoughts you are thinking direct your emotions the first thought is automatic
less your masculine energy mind and it's usually negative and it's for your survival but the second
thought that's the one that you get to choose so the second thought you think is totally up to you
now taking power over automatic masculine energy thinking and choosing your thoughts
ladies it is your superpower as a woman so here's an example now if you say or think something like
no one will ever love me again or if he loved me he'd call or this guy is my only chance at love
so thinking any of those things may have you feeling anxious or maybe sad or angry and
then you get an urge to take action or numb yourself but when you neutralize a thought
you take the illusion of that thought's power way all right so let me repeat that you take
the illusion of that thoughts power away being neutral can sound something like this i notice
that i'm thinking this is my last chance but i don't know that for sure that's just a thought
that's just the thought i'm having or i'm having the thought or judgment he's not into me but i
don't know that for a fact just because he didn't call me doesn't mean i am not lovable or desirable
or if he loved me he'd call if he loved me he'd call is a thought i'm thinking
a man dialing a keypad has nothing to do with me absolutely being lovable or loved
so you see how you can neutralize your thoughts and make them neither good nor bad they're just
neutral and we're doing this by observing that you're having these thoughts and notice how you
might begin to feel different by neutralizing them another part of you may immediately say but adrian
don't give me false hope if he loved me he'd call now understand he may be deeply in love with you
but he might be stifled he might be scared himself this doesn't mean he isn't calling because
he doesn't love you that's just a thought you're thinking or thinking that this is your only option
or your last chance it also doesn't mean that everything is perfect we just want to get you to
neutral this is where you can observe the meanings you are putting on an action words or your own
created thoughts now ladies i just want to tell you that being neutral means taking the thought
and zapping it of all power over you now if you're in a situation where your guy is repeatedly
not calling and you go into this with all the beliefs of what masculine energy thinking can do
you'll be charged up in defense mode so i want you to go into this as neutral as you can possibly be
because i want you to know how you can feel and speak to this man about something like not calling
you but come from a feminine energy space which is neutral that's going to be a huge game changer
in your relationship so instead of going in with an army behind you you go in to talk to him with
a soft curious neutralized energy all right i hope that's clicking for a lot of you this is a big one
so here's an example of a script that you could say to your guy now if you're looking for more
scripts make sure you check out my ebook 500 ways to talk to a man it is full of scripts and i teach
you how to script from a place of feminine energy so when you observe how you feel and instead of
numbing yourself shutting down taking action or believing all your thoughts you can observe
name the emotion neutralize the emotion and now it's time for e which is embrace i want you to
embrace what you feel this means not running from or rejecting wonderful beautiful you
ask instead can i feel curious about what is on the other side of this feeling
what's behind this door of the feeling
what if you sent love to the part of you that's feeling or thinking a certain way so instead of
running from it you're actually sending love to it can you offer yourself some love and support
love and support for you as you're learning more about your feminine energy side
be patient with yourself embrace her allow her to feel what she feels instead of running from it now
we're taught certain emotions are either good or bad and if we have a bad emotion we pour a glass
of wine or we go do something else to help our emotional state when in fact the best thing we
can do is embrace our emotions to be there for ourselves and find what we feel embrace what we
are feeling which is feminine instead of acting out in masculine energy especially closing down
now it's super important to understand that if you run from the feeling and numb
yourself or take action you're still going to feel discomfort and if you sit with what you're feeling
it may also be uncomfortable yet that which we resist persist i just want to make sure you
understand that there's discomfort on both sides of this but you're no longer resisting yourself
and when you embrace what you feel you actually tell your brain it's okay to feel how i feel
it's okay to feel nervous and a little shaky i don't have to run from what i feel this is the big
difference between masculine and feminine energy action versus feeling automatic thoughts versus
choosing to be neutral but also aware of what you feel now you want to feel grounded and confident
and have a conversation and get clarity with a man you want to secure your personal boundaries
now there is so much more i can share with you about this topic so if you want to go deeper
again i encourage everyone to start with 500 ways to talk to a man in the two-day video class
it is the perfect prerequisite into your feminine energy and again if you're new to
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bye-bye