- Good morning, good life.
Welcome back to my YouTube channel,
this is quite a weird feeling.
I have literally not recorded a video in three months.
It might even be longer than that, I think the last videos
I filmed were the end of May, so just a little,
it's been awhile.
I wanted to sit down and have a little bit of
a more relaxed conversation with you today,
that being said, I have the feels,
but we'll get to that.
There are some things that were happening
in the comments lately that I want to address
and so that's how we're kicking things off.
You know, goin' hard.
Before I get like all serious on all that kinda stuff,
I'm back from three months, it's been three months.
You guys probably know this because I've talked about it
so much in the last three months that I was
taking three months off.
When I was editing all my content, I was like,
girl, I mean how many times are you gonna tell 'em
that you're leaving for awhile.
I took a little bit of time for a vacation,
that was until about mid-July and then I've been
writing the book since then.
The book is Good Morning, Good Life, shocker.
And I'm very excited, that is something I've been
wanting to bring to you for awhile
and we're on target for early 2020.
So, book coming very soon.
My friends over in Shine Squad have heard all about this
and the progress of the book lately,
because I've been kind of hanging with them
in the social land during the three months
because it was really all I could commit to
for that time.
It's super important for me to get focused when I'm writing
so we were chatting and I'm so pumped.
We got to 250 members and now we have a daily podcast,
we're having so much fun, awesome.
If you don't know about Shine Squad yet,
the link will be in the description, but they've been
a big help in getting the book done
because they gave me all the ideas for how
we could make this the best possible thing
for you and so with all those ideas
and some very focused writing time,
I think we got a nice result.
So what I was hoping to chat with you about today
was a little bit of a situation in my comments,
in the last month or so.
Sorry I'm like spinning a lot, by the way,
I've got the spinny chair.
That one I can't spin because it's just so loud,
you guys already know, I'm so dramatic about that chair.
There was a little bit of disappointment
in the comments on a recent video about sponsors
and sort of like the placement and the execution of those.
Bottom line, if you do not watch the rest of this video,
that's fine, I have a lot more to say,
but the most important thing that you need to know
is that I hear you, I see what you're saying,
and I'm gonna make some changes.
I definitely think that there can be more creativity
that can happen and I want you to feel acknowledged
for letting me know because of course
we're in this together.
I do this for you and so I'm gonna continue
to make those better because they're fun for me.
I mean I literally was getting called out
because I spent a lot of time on it
and that's completely fine, we talk a lot about time,
your time is very important, but it hadn't even
crossed my mind that it was too long
because I genuinely was having a fun time
when I was talking about it, so when I went back
and watched it, I was like what's everybody
up in arms about, I was like oh, yeah,
I was kinda rambling that day,
and I did get into a little bit of too much
of a formulaic rotation of like getting video done,
getting video done, getting video done,
getting ready to leave for awhile
and so it just didn't hit me.
It just, it happened.
I want you to know that it's not because I was trying
to take advantage in any way.
I genuinely just enjoy that particular sponsor
and I was trying to come up with another fun story
as to why they are applicable in my life
and I went down a rabbit hole.
So couple minutes too long, really bummed
that you guys were super upset about it
because that video I was so looking forward
to putting out because it's something
that people have been asking me about,
so anyway, I just want you to know,
corrections are coming, my darlings.
As a matter of fact, I went back and edited,
you probably noticed, I went back and edited
one of the final sponsor integrations
that went out after that one did,
just so we could start to experiment already
with moving things around.
So the feedback about the execution of sponsorships,
no big deal except for when we kind of get
to a point of a certain level of judgment,
a certain type of judgment, and that is more
what I have the feels about talking with you today,
because I need to clarify a few things.
Maybe this comes from taking three months off
and not recording videos, but I'm gonna tell you
how I really feel today, how's that?
You are following this channel because you are looking
for advice, you're looking for tips,
you're looking for things that are gonna help you
succeed, whether they be super actionable things
that you can do right now or more long-term plays,
things that take time for you to eventually see
the benefits of.
Regardless, we are trying to be more productive,
more efficient, more balanced in this journey
of going after the life that we want,
that's what I'm here to help you with,
and I announce it in every single video.
Some of my advice is crazy, some of it is easy,
and no matter what, it is something that has worked for me.
I don't teach anything that is not real,
I don't have sponsors that are not a part of my life
that I'm not excited about, I tell you anything I know
only because it worked for me, and that is because
I am ruthlessly focused on finding any information
I know to be true and hoping that it'll work out
similarly for you if you execute on those things.
Ruthlessly focused.
I want the life that I want so bad
and part of it is sitting here and telling you
how I'm doing it so that you can have this journey with me.
I am not perfect, things are not always perfect,
things always don't work for you
but I have a lot of different things on my mind
and that is because I am a businesswoman.
I don't sit in this chair and pretend
to do YouTube full-time.
I make it very clear to you what I do on a regular basis,
whether I'm speaking or talking to clients
or we're on a shoot for Aftermarq or whatever the case
may be, I make it really, really clear
all of the things I have going on in my ventures,
because yes, YouTube is a thing that fuels my business
but because I'm a businesswoman I also have
a lot of other things going on and I wanna share that
with you because again, ruthlessly focused
on finding what works for me and I want you to know
what works for me just in case it works for you,
and I'm not going to pretend like it's just oh,
YouTube videos and money just magically falls out of the sky
because that's not real life, and if I was trying
to make that a thing, then that would really suck
for you 'cause my advice would definitely not work,
because that is not real.
That is not real.
This is why I do not shy away from sponsors,
because these tend to be really incredible opportunities
to talk about something that I absolutely love
as a part of a larger conversation with you,
because if it's something I love and it's a part
of the equation of why I love it and the other tips
that go along with it, you need to know,
like I would not be your good friend
if that was not the case.
So in addition to that, I am a businesswoman.
I'm not gonna sit here and pretend like money's
gonna fall out of the sky, I have to do things
to make it happen and that is why sponsorships
are a wonderful additional revenue in addition
to other things that I have going on.
If this is something that you hope to achieve
at some point, maybe you're a content creator
or somebody that is doing something where sponsors do align,
then I want you to know that I fully support you
and I do not like where the conversation
of sponsorships has gone and I think it has
a lot to do with where my negative feelings are
about the word influencer, because we're putting
sponsorships and influencer into this box,
but the only reason why they work so well together
is because of the storytelling aspect of it
and it is because of the generosity of sharing information
and it is because that is worth something.
It is worth something to a lot of people,
not just a brand.
If we're getting to the heart of this problem,
I genuinely am bummed and saddened by how much money
is made to be the bad guy, like money is the bad guy.
That sucks, because we all need money
on a daily basis in order to live.
And if you're going after the life that you want,
there needs to be a little bit of money involved.
It doesn't matter if you wanna be the richest person
in the world, it doesn't matter if you're okay
on being a minimalist and not having very many things
and not needing a whole lot, you still need it.
We still need to carry something in our wallet
or I guess in our phone 'cause you can just digitize it now,
in order to be able to exchange goods,
to live, to thrive.
If I'm here to share a couple ways for you to go
after the life that you want, you're gonna need
a little bit of money and so sometimes money
is a part of the equation.
Therefore, money is a part of the conversation.
So if you are excited about the prospect of that
for yourself, but you are not willing to empower
someone else who has started to figure it out
for themselves, is doing it, and is also trying
to show you a little bit of it, then this is not
the place for you, that is not how we are here.
This is what we call the limiting mindset,
which is already something that I struggle with
and you kinda grow up with different versions
of limiting mindsets, and you have to get past it.
For me it is a really big priority to get past it.
There is more than enough in this world for all of us.
It's only going to happen if you make it happen
and somebody can't just make it happen for you.
We can do everything we can to share the information
and share advice and give you a blueprint
or give you a step-by-step process or give you
the connections, but you still have quite a bit
of work to do on your own.
I really try to lay it all out, I am very bad
at hiding information, I want to share all the information,
I know it's valuable to you because it's valuable to me
and that is what makes these conversations
even more fun.
It makes me feel worthy in front of the camera,
and that's why I've made like thousands of videos
with pretty much all the information I know in my head.
I have to put it out into the world,
and so that is lovely 'cause that's why we're here.
You need to do you and I have so much respect for you
and your time and I'm sorry if that was ever in question.
I will absolutely work on that,
but you do you, I am not gonna sit here
and pretend like you do not know how to work
the fast forward button on YouTube.
You do you, go to town, that's, I'm not sitting there
monitoring you watching my video, I'm hoping
that you get to the best part too, and I'm gonna try
to make that a lot easier for you,
but to be so focused on bringing somebody down
because that's putting you out,
I have made thousands of videos and it's because
I care that deeply about getting you this information.
Sometimes I need you to cut me like this much slack,
just like this much.
We as women need to support each other
in what we do, because if we hope to make
that same dollar that the man makes,
that we continue to talk about is not being made,
and we continue to say that we're not quite there yet,
if we want to do that, we need to start
changing the conversation and making it about
supporting each other and not tearing each other down,
especially when you see someone who is doing
everything in their power to go after the life
that they want to make that change in the world
and in their life.
It is the people that are doing the work
that are going to make that change.
That's the only way it's going to happen
so you can either be a part of the change
or you can commentate on it, and I prefer
not to commentate on it, I prefer to be the change.
Probably one of the biggest mistakes
that I have made is not commentating on it more,
not making it perfectly clear how I stand
on this issue and women empowerment in general,
and I'm sharing with you right now
that that is going to change immediately,
starting right now,
this is way too important to keep ignoring.
I'm not gonna sit here and pretend like it's all
sunshine, rainbows, and calendar blocking
because it is not, it is so much more than that.
I mean I do love me some calendar blocking though
so that's not going away, okay?
So here is my ask for you.
If you're down, stick around.
I have never been more dedicated and more focused
on making a difference in both of our lives
than I am right now, there's a lot of things going on
that I don't wanna share just yet
but significant changes in the way that I'm doing things
so that I can be better for you in that way.
If you're not down and you have the agenda of
leaving negativity in the comments when you could
be doing your life's deep work, then you can go.
Do you.
If you gotta go, you gotta go.
Go find the right person for you.
I've been doing this a long time
and that's okay, I don't watch the same people today
as I did maybe five to 10 years ago
'cause we all grow up, we all change.
I'm continuing to grow up, I'm continuing to change,
and I'm going to continue to share that person with you.
If it's not for you, I am okay with that.
I'm a business owner, I am a woman,
I am in digital, I am on YouTube, I have employees,
like this is the whole thing.
I'm not just a decision maker, I am a decisive maker.
I make a decision and then I make it happen,
and that is the only thing, if you learn nothing else
from me, that is the only thing that has changed my life
more than anything else, making a decision
and going and doing it, 'cause you quickly find out,
does it work, does it not work, is it a win,
is it a fail, whatever the case may be.
One of the most amazing things you can do for yourself
is be decisive, make a decision.
Not just what am I having for breakfast today,
that could be a healthy decision.
Make a decision about who you spend your time with,
and I am okay if that's me.
I'm also okay if it's not me anymore,
but to go after someone's livelihood
because it's inconveniencing you,
when potentially somebody has tried very hard to be
some kind of light in your life
where you may not have had it is simply unfair,
and your expectations are off the fricking charts,
and I don't know if you heard, but we don't do
expectations around here 'cause it's a recipe
for disappointment, we don't do disappointment.
We try not to do disappointment.
This may look like disappointment,
this is not.
This is empowerment, you, no matter what you stand on today
you have empowered me to speak up about this.
And any women out there who are trying
to make money, not just for themselves,
maybe for their families, for the potential
of their future, to pay off student loans,
to buy a house, to have some savings,
I want to be here for you,
because we're not gonna ignore the fact
that this is a part of the whole thing.
Make a decision for yourself,
and be as serious about that decision as you are
about the decisions that you make about other people.
Because that is power,
because you only have control over the former, yourself.
That's it.
Okay, well, yeah, that's what I'm thinking,
that's what I'm feeling, that's what I felt
was the most appropriate thing
for me to bring to the table today now that I'm recording
my first video in a few months.
That's what was on my mind, and I think we need to do
a lot more of what's on my mind, real time, around here,
because I am an individual, I'm a person
and I wanna share that person with you
because that person has done whatever has taken place
before this point that you've seen,
that has been helpful in your life,
that brought you back, and so hopefully
there's something there that you enjoy.
But, we can't all be perfect, can we?
We can't, no, I've tried, I've tried so hard.
Whoo, it's just been, this has been refreshing,
it's been nice to chat with you today.
I hope that you're having a lovely day
and I hope to see you come back, I really do
because things are going to get even more exciting
for us around here.
And that includes you, because if you're staying,
you mean it.
All right, well that's all for today,
thank you so much for tuning in,
I appreciate it.
As always, make sure you subscribe for good vibes,
kiss the ones you love,
and go after the life you want.
Cheers.