Hi, I'm Dave from Boyinaband
I've just released my song "Spectrum" and it's a bit different
so I wanted to talk a bit about WHY and HOW it came about
'cause this song is the first for me in a lot of ways.
I wanted to try something with two of my YouTuber homeslices Cry and Minx
Both in the same song for the first time
Now I've been talking to Minx about her wedding to her girlfriend Krism and
how freaking horrible it was that Krism had to grow up with a family that was actively against her
because they were really religious and their religion stigmatized her sexuality
Well Krism is Minx's wife now and I was at the wedding
and shockingly enough no homophobic Gods smited anyone.
How ... ugh ... not even a little smite
But yeah that talk made me think about how there are so many people in this situation
where coming out means getting severely attacked or disowned by your family
So I was trying to figure out what I could do that would be useful for these people
and whenever I'm in a difficult situation I've always turned to music
so I thought if I made something really specific about this issue perhaps that's something they could listen to again and again
to get them through those difficult times
whilst also telling a story of what they're going through for those of us who aren't familiar with that struggle
and that's where another one of the firsts for me comes in
I've always wanted to do high quality music videos
so far it has just been me doing my best to organize everything
but I've figured for this with help from a professional I could really tell the story of what was going on
so I was looking around for someone to help me figure this out
and I have a friend called Dwain which, let's be honest, is one of the most weirdly satisfying
names to say in the world. Dwain ... Dwain ...
Dwain works for a non profit called somewhereto_ because they help people find somewhere to do things
and he offered to get them to give me advise and find a place for me to do the video
They found me this fricking awesome grungy location. They found locations for like videos
band rehearsal spaces, business ventures - fricking loads of stuff.
and it's sponsored by the big lottery fund so it was all free
I had no idea this kind of thing existed. I would have used it crap tons if I had
and there are a lot of you homeslices who watch me are really creative yourselves
so I thought you might want to know about it
I wanted to go for something that suited the feel of the song but also told the story
so the director - there was a director, it was weird - suggested putting the sets for the story
inside the main location
to kind of reflect the confined situation
[Metaphor Dave]: I'm in a metaphor!
so that was a bit arty! I hope that came across.
I feel fricking amazing getting to try out all this new stuff and even more amazing getting to share it
with you guys honestly like how I feel about this rather than having to play it cool or something.
but yeah this was another first for me in terms of the issue as well
this was the first time I properly adressed an issue that I wasn't directly affected by
So I want to clarify a few things about the song. 'Cause I know some people will think it's a bad thing
to suggest that people hide their sexuality regardless of circumstance
and while ideally I obviously agree with that, in a real world people don't always have a situation
where it's safe to do that
these are people that have to listen to the conventional Hollywood idea that you should come out and everyone will accept you
but then rationalize that against statistics like the fact that 40% of homeless youth in America are LGBT
like if you're in your early teens and you have hardcore Christian delusional parents who think that
being gay is Satan, then they're gonna fricking abuse you or potentially kick you out
or send you to some camp to try and "fix you" or something
so for those people: If they carefully bring up the topic with their parents to kind of judge what their
opinions are on the subject
then they'll know whether or not it's safe to come out to them
I did do my research as much as I could, I, like I said, I was talking to Minx and Krism who was in a very similar
situation to the one I talk about in the song
I also talked to my friend Cry who's pansexual and he actually had a really funny story
about how he realised that. I'll leave that to him to tell.
But yeah, both Minx and Cry are in situations where they are able to be themselves.
They are in a place where they can say with experience that it's possible for LGBT people to have a happy life
where they don't have to restrict themselves
And I asked both of them what they thought would be the most important thing to tell their LGBT fans
They both responded with
[Minx]: If you're gay or bisexual and you're living with a homophobic family, don't come out to them!
[Cry]: Unless you know they're like not totally like "Oh my God, no this is unholy" or something
then just - eh - no real reason to be like shoutin' "I'M FRICKING GAY AND SHIT"
[Minx]: I often get messages like "How do I come out to them" and the answer is
wait till you'll be able to be financially stable and there is no risk of you being kicked out by your crazy fucking family.
[Giggling Dave]: Yeah [Minx]: And then tell them
[Cry]: So, my advice is to step back from the situation and think rationally of:
"Will I be assaulted for saying this or this today?"
[Dave]: So I hope you do enjoy the music video and thanks again so much to Cry and Minx for
being on my song and to somewhereto_ for providing the space
I've made a video over on their site to explain a bit more about it, if you're interested
And I'd love to hear about anything you get inspired to do from looking on there in the comments
And say something nice to Dwain when you contact them 'cause Dwain is lovely.
Cheers for watching and have a nice day!
[Spectrum Dave]: [...] smiling but they misidentified because the clenching of her teeth was just her biting on the lie
and her logic said: [Minx and Dave]: It's gonna be okay...
[Dave]: I'm in Australia at the moment and this is not my Pokemon collection it's actually maxmoefoe's
I'm staying at his house for a bit, gonna make a video with him. Don't know if you know who he is
He's *inhales loudly* Not quite the same content as me
[Dave to Max]: Max, do you want to do a cameo? [Max]: Yeah, all right by me *sniffs* Aaah [Dave giggles] God, this is horrible
Max, say something nice! [Max]: You have beautiful hair! [Dave]: Oh, thank you *giggles away*
[Dave]: I'm using that one!