yeah chuckle many times he said that liking a fight or liking to fight should
be a part of every man's personality could you expand on that I've always
been interested in martial arts but I have always been reluctant to fight and
I would do anything not to does that make me less of a man so obviously this
is a pretty fitting question for the situation yeah so this is obviously a
good question and a fitting question talking about being a man I don't know
if I said liking to fight you should be a part of everybody's every man's
personality or if I said that it is part of every man's personality and I think I
said is part of their personality and if I said that what I think I should have
said as most right most men have in their personality some level of interest
of fighting right we wrestle we box we scrap as kids look at the UFC right why
is the UFC so popular right now because it's fighting and we have that that's a
I read the other that's a seven billion dollar organization that's a there's a
lot of people watching those fights mm-hmm a lot of people want to watch
those fights we have boxing we have wrestling we have jiu-jitsu we have
Judah we have Muay Thai we got all kinds of martial arts schools so while I don't
think the desire to fight is inherent in all men right I'm sure there's men out
there that have not into it at all but I think it's definitely a pretty strong
part of many men now for this individual particular do do I think that being
reluctant to fight makes you less of a man no actually I think it's fine
you should be reluctant to fight I think everyone should be reluctant there's a
lot of bad things that can happen in a fight a lot of bad things you know first
of all you get hurt right that's bad mmm you can get seriously hurt you can get
killed you can get killed you can get punched one time fall down hit a curb
and die you can think you're gonna get in a fair fight with someone they can
stab you in the neck and kill you right these things can happen
even if it's not that bad you can hurt someone else now you're getting lawsuit
now you're getting put in prison right so there's all kinds of bad things so
being reluctant to fight is actually a good thing and it's something that men
should have and actually the more you know about fighting the more reluctant
you will be I was way the less I knew in my life about fighting the more or sorry
the more I actually knew about fighting the more reluctant I became to fight
because I realized all the risks that are involved part that was maturity sure
but the reality is you look at someone you go I don't know who that person is
well a they they might be training I'm over here thinking I've betrayed you
just super for eight months I'm ready to kick this guy's ass meanwhile you don't
know that guy is a purple belt guess what's gonna happen to you you're
getting crushed or that guy wrestled in high school he's about to double like
you and slam you on a curb you're gonna die so you should be reluctant to fight
that's a good thing now that being said I do recommend that you are prepared to
fight I definitely recommend that and there's gonna be a big dichotomy here
I'm gonna get to but you should know some basics right you should understand
threats you should not have contend with other people you should you know you
should know some box and you should know some wrestling you should know some more
tights you know some jujitsu for sure because here's the dichotomy this is the
this is a big dichotomy and think about it it's a hundred percent true if this
this individual says he would do anything not to fight would do anything
not to fight let me tell you the best thing you can do as a human so that you
don't have to fight is actually learn how to fight that is the best way to not
have to fight as if you know how to fight if you know how to fight people
are gonna want to fight you you didn't have to say anything they can tell you
can tell when you meet somebody you can tell if that person oh if you if you're
ready to fight people don't wanna fight you the more eager you are to fight the
less people want to fight you if you don't know how to fight and and bullies
because that's what we're talking about bullies see that you don't want to fight
guess who they're coming after you now guess what now you have to
fight but if you know how to fight and you have that confidence and you have
that understanding and you learn simple things like avoidance and you learned
you have better situational awareness you become a threat to the people that
want to fight you if you become a threat to them just by just by your knowledge
alone mmm so no you're not less of a man because you're elected to fight you
actually should be reluctant to fight but you should learn how to fight
because the best way to avoid fighting them more equipped and prepared to fight
you are the less you will have to fight the less you will be put in positions
where you have to fight and the better the outcome will be if it does happen to
occur yeah interestingly like a lot of the people that you meet in jujitsu are
just like this where I'm interested in martial arts but I'm not interested in
fighting nobody sure you know for sure and then they learn and I get oh well
there's a strong component of nerds in jujitsu right strong component oh yeah
really strong of of you know people I'm saying it jokingly but there's just a
studious type yes students protect people that aren't super physical
they're more cerebral than they are physical yeah there's a ton of people
like that and you know what they'll do choke you out yeah they'll end up being
real good yeah they wind up being real good because they're like oh I
understand this there's a this is a game that I can learn and then I can crush
yeah and that's good and now I have more confidence I don't worry about it
anymore again it's interesting how that third or
that that additional element that they're not really used to like how you
say nerds and you know we'll just say like people who are more cerebral within
physical you know it's that maybe they play high school sports right yeah cuz
they were working on a computer right cool right on yeah they were playing
music right yeah whatever yeah and then now they get into this highly physical
situation cuz dudes - let's face it that's physical that's your whole body
it is physical and but you get in it and you're just finding success just by
learning it it's not like football where it's like sure I know how to catch I
can't run fast though and I can't am not big and strong or whatever so I'm just
getting smashed you know I can but it's kind of like the more you know the
better you are kind of thing ensure physical attributes help you for sure
but it is much yeah there's there's you being stronger is great yeah you know
Dean was talking about this today on the map
the stronger guys not always gonna win the more athletic guys not always gonna
win sometimes they do there's various categories that will bring you a victory
one of the strongest categories that you can have well the distraught be
strongest category is your technique if none what to do is no one what to do and
so you you're smart people your cerebral people that come in and go oh I can
apply I can apply this knowledge the same way I apply my skills in accounting
James Nielson world's toughest accountant he's an accountant so that's
just the reality and yeah and that's why so now they're in that's why people get
addicted to because it's like this element of physicality like a physical
fighting mark fighting sport by the way combat sport yeah and now they're in the
end they're good at yeah they're good at something physical for the first time
and they're still smart as smart can be you know like they always were so now
they got that and that additional like pay off you know let's really get
additional power yeah I recognize that with kids that come to jiu-jitsu the
often times and it's not an always oftentimes the kids that get really into
jiu-jitsu our kids that are smart and but they haven't done a lot of other
sports yet and it's exactly what you're saying you it's very noticeable of kids
yeah the kid that played baseball his whole life and he comes in there he
actually doesn't like it at first and maybe doesn't even want to do it because
he's getting choked by someone that seems all nerdy to him you know and he
knows I could throw a baseball farther than this guy and so it makes him mad
and he doesn't want to trade yeah but often times it's the kids that come in
that really haven't done too much athletically and you know they're due
thing I picked on we got we've had a lot of bullies come to my jiu-jitsu kids
program the reason they're there is because they got bullied and once they
start training six months they're not getting bullied anymore and a year later
they're a different person yeah they're a different kid confident assure
themselves not backing down not being jerks not being bullies
themselves which is confident mm-hmm so yeah