What are the things men want from you that they're never going to ask you for? In this
video, I'm talking about seven things men want from you in their relationship that they're
very rarely going to ask about. Stay tuned.
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Let's be honest. Men aren't always the best communicators. Sometimes, there's things they
want to see or feel or hear from you that they're not necessarily good at asking for.
Now, I'm not defending men with this, but in this video I'm talking about seven things
men love to feel from you in your relationship that they're not so good at mentioning.
Number one, live your passions right throughout the relationship. Whether it's creative pursuits
or building a business that you love or planning an overseas adventure or pushing hard forward
in your career that you enjoy. Right across countries, across cultures, across people
they found, and this is Esther Perel's research found that people were most attracted to their
partner when they were just out of reach doing something they love. If you're holding an
orange bowl, it's fairly hard to lust after an orange ball. You can't literally lust after
something that you're holding.
But when the orange ball is just over there and it's a great orange ball, you want to
go and get the ball. When you're living your passions right throughout the relationship,
you're doing things that you love. He gets to watch on. He gets to see you at your best.
He gets to desire you and have that little bit of space to want to bring you back in.
Man aren't so good at asking for it because they worry that if they say that, you're gonna
think that it means that they don't want to spend time with you. But the reality is they
love to see you do that because they love to see you in your best energy. Number two,
spend time with your friends. This is another one men really struggle to ask because they're
worried that if he says, "Hey, why don't you go spend time with the girls tonight?"
You're gonna take it as, "Oh so you don't want to spend time with me." It's not that at all.
It's just that he wants to again, have that space. He wants to see you at your best. He
wants to desire you. I've never met a man who wasn't more attractive to a woman when
she was off spending time with her friends. He knows that maybe other men will be approaching
you or maybe you'll just be out there doing your own thing for a while and he gets to
wonder, "I wonder what she's doing. Where is she? I get to feel that and then I get
to want her back." A man telling you to spend time with your friends isn't him saying,
"Hey, I don't want to spend time with you." It's just him saying, "Hey, we do need space in
this relationship to be as attracted to each other as possible and I want and desire you,
so go spend time with your friends so I can grab you back. "
Number three, your trust. Trust is so important in a relationship and a man wants to feel
like you trust him. Now, this doesn't just mean with fidelity. This doesn't just mean,
"Hey, I can be trusted to spend time with my female friends or with other women or at
a holiday, wherever it is, and you'll trust me." He also wants to feel trust day to day.
When you trust him, it makes him feel like a man. It, it makes him feel like he can take
care of business. When you don't trust a man, behaviors like mothering come up. Behaviors
like nagging come up, "Oh, did you book the appointment? Oh, why didn't you book it all?
I'll just do it. Oh, don't fix your tie." It's communicating that you don't trust him
and men's egos, men's brains have evolved to tell them they are good if they can be
trusted. If the woman, woman, women in their life can trust them to take care of business.
Communicate to your man that you trust him. Have a watch of the mothering video. I'll
put the link up here and down there. Communicate to your man that you trust him in every area
of life and he'll feel like a man who can step up, take care of business and be the man for you.
Number four, acceptance of his help. Have you ever noticed how in disaster
movies or horror movies, it's usually the women and the children that get saved first.
This is not coincidence. Biology was very smart and evolved to give us brains that knew
that protecting the women was more important because if a tribe had a lot of women, and
even if it only had a few men, it was more likely to survive and reproduce than the other way around.
Men's brains are programmed to help women. They feel like men, they get chemically rewarded
literally when they help you. Now, we're not in tribes anymore, but it doesn't mean men
aren't carrying those old brains. When a man offers to help, he's not saying that you need
his help even necessarily. He's not saying that you're useless. He's just saying,
"I want to feel like a man and I want to feel like I can contribute." He gets chemically
rewarded and you allowing him to help you accepting his help doesn't mean that you're
useless. It doesn't mean that you even need it. It just means that he can feel like a man when he's around you
Number five, let him lead. Now men can sometimes be funny about
asking for you to let him lead because maybe he feels like if he has to ask, then he's
not much of a man because he shouldn't even have to ask whatever it is.
Men want to feel like leaders some of the time. See, men's biology was programmed, to
know, to be big in their tribe to gather, resources so that the women would find them,
attract, find him attractive, and he'd get good feelings and good chemical rewards for
doing that. Letting him lead is important because it's going to give him that feeling
in your relationship. No, not every man has the opportunity to be leader of a big corporation
or to lead a, you know, to lead a country. But like I say in your relationship, that's
an opportunity for him to lead. So give him the chance. It doesn't have to be all the
time, but give him the chance to lead. He's going to feel like a man and even though he
doesn't want to ask for it, he's going to feel great and thankful that you did.
Number six, your love and appreciation.
So men are really bad at asking for love and appreciation from you, but they will always
need it. We did a video recently on how to stop him cheating. I'd encourage you to have
a go, go watch that. Link up here and in the description below, where you meet his needs
and one of those is just to feel loved and appreciated. We're going to do a video soon
on love languages. The book by Gary Chapman where we talk about physical touch and compliments,
gifts, acts of service and quality time speak his love language, show him love and appreciation
right throughout your relationship because even though he never asked for it, he really, really wants it.
And number seven, things that men won't ask for but they really want from you is respect.
A man always wants to feel like your man and he always wants to feel like you respect him.
Now, don't just respect him for him though. Respect him for you. Respect is the most important
thing that you can possibly give to someone and you can possibly create in your relationship.
If you're committing to someone you don't respect or if you don't respect your partner.
You and I, we need to have words. Seriously though. Respect your partner always. Even
if, even if there's a situation where he's disrespecting you, it's not a reason to disrespect
him back. It might be a reason to put your standards in place. It might even be a reason
that you need to end that relationship, but you never want to disrespect your partner.
Respect is something that men will rarely ask for, but always want to feel from you
to feel great about themselves and great in your relationship with you. Well, that's it.
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