chuckle my boss is incredibly controlling an egomaniacal I would I
like him already I have I've attempted to use extreme ownership in dealing with
the people under me but my boss has reprimanded me for leading he has said
he gets he gets to do all the leading because he's the one in charge
quote-unquote and and his job title is higher than mine I thought that happened
to me before by the way if I could continue to try to lead my
responsibilities will be taken away if I step back into the shadows I won't make
an impact on the people under me what should I do
so it's black and white yeah right in his mind seems only you can either step
up and lead and get fired or step in the shadows and do nothing never suffer it's
not it's not that way right it's not it's not black and white and actually
start by putting your own ego in check mmm cuz you're calling someone
egomaniacal but you're your ego is being being touched a little bit here yeah rub
the wrong way a little bit because you want a lead and when you get told don't
lead you get offends you yeah guess what that is that's your ego so what you need
to do is maybe you like that you like the feeling of being in charge that's
cool I like the feeling of being in charge yeah it feels good to me it feels
normal to me when I'm not in charge I don't like it I have to consciously
suppress it which is fine sometimes you have to do that like right in this
situation here that this guy's talking about and what you need to suppress is
you need to not be so overt with your leadership he shouldn't even be able to
sense that you're leading but you should be leading you gotta be under the radar
you gotta be covert with what you're doing and fun while you're doing that
you're massaging homeboys ego make him feel good about it make him feel not
years running things and because because you can absolutely lead from the shadows
if your ego allows it because a lot of times when we
when we lead we want everyone to know that was leading yeah yeah I want
everyone to know that I'm in charge I want them to know that I'm the man right
yeah that's really hard when you're leading
from the shadows a lot of times not even the people that you're leading recognize
overtly that you're leading think about that so the people that are actually
following you don't even know that they're following you mmm they don't
they don't consciously know it maybe if they were to break down and you give
them like hey who do you think is actually giving you and truck baby well
I think that might be probably yet seems like a deck oh okay okay but they don't
like consciously think about it so that's what you need to do you need to
suppress your over leadership not step on the boss's toes massages lead massage
is ego a little bit because if you do get your response you want help right
well you want to be helpful you want to lead these people in a great way if you
don't if you get your responsibilities taken away or you get fired then you
can't help anyone anybody you're not gonna help the team at all so you have
to be smart and you have to play the game to win his confidence and his trust
so he does let you lead and what's gonna do that when he realizes that you're
gonna not gonna step on his toes that you're gonna give him the credit because
he wants a credit he's an egomaniac right he's controlling so that's kind of
what you need to do now this is the weird thing and this came up at the
muster people don't want to hear me say that people don't want to hear me say
that people don't want to hear me say that if I come up against a boss with a
big ego what you need to do is back down people don't want to hear me say that
hmm they want to hear me say if you come up against someone with a big ego what
you do is you blow up - yeah and you show them that they ain't got nothing on
you yeah don't back down to the don't back down to that guy with a big ego
that's weak you and what I said it the monster I said I said listen because I
could see it see it people are like oh yeah I guess Jocko isn't always as
hardcore as I thought he was because he's gonna back down to somebody with a
big ego you know and I said guess what people this is why you feel that way
if there was a machine-gun nest on a hill and there was a bad guy in there
and he's killing a bunch of people shooting that machine gun mm-hmm and
everyone in the room wants to look at Jocko and say Jacko's brave and jock was
tough and jock was gonna charge that machine-gun nest hmm take that guy out
well guess what a machine gun belt-fed weapon in an elevated position bunkered
in i'm not gonna take that guy out I can't hmm it's a heavily defended
position I can't do that so what Jocko does is backs down I hide
it I get behind cover so I don't die once I've gotten behind cover so I don't
die I look at EKKO when I say echo stay here
shoot some rounds that this guy occasionally distract him I'm gonna
flank him so echo is gonna keep undercover himself
he's gonna pling some rounds up at the machine-gun nest while he's doing that
I'm gonna scurry away like a little baby like a little sneaky little squirrel and
I'm gonna go around to the flank cuz the machine gun isn't a bunker right so he
can't see out the sides I'm coming up the side I'm gonna get right up the side
my toss a grenade in there and kill him I'm gonna take out the ego mmm but I
didn't do it going head-on yeah so what happens is people coming up up against
this big ego and they want to be the hero and they want to be aggressive and
they wanna the default aggressive jock oh you say be do you you got a chapter
in your book default aggressive man I'm gonna be default aggressive against that
ego wrong answer yeah the right answer is indirect warfare the right answers
maneuver warfare the right answers you flank these people mm-hm and by the way
if I do charge that machine-gun nest or I do attack that guy's ego guess what I
die or I get fired and now I'm no good to anybody so it's people have this this
desire to be the strong hero man and you have to fight that that's your ego
that's my ego charging the machine gun nest I'm gonna go do this I'm the man
no I'm actually not the man it's a machine gun elevated position I'm gonna
die yeah you have to be smart yeah like on that attack that you go head-on don't
attack the heavily defended positions head-on period like you said in training
day your boys a movie training day no come on Brett you
watched it anyway he says the shit is chess not checkers he's not the first
person that ever said no but it was dealt when he said it in my career
nonetheless yes default aggressive isn't default aggressive hate to head its
default of a default aggressive in being effective yes yes that is really your
effective or ineffective at muster a being no I listen life moves what he's
talking about like that