- [Lodolce] Now the best way to build sexual tension
early on in relationship is to touch a man sensually,
but not sexually.
Because there are far too many people
in the 21st century dating scene
who go out with one another,
they grab drinks, the woman hears
the guy say something even remotely funny,
say, "Ha, ha, ha," bam,
they're sleeping together in the next hour,
and then what do you know,
she's confused as to why he's not taking her very seriously.
And look, both men and women and women
are completely at fault for this because I think nowadays,
we don't value building sexual tension.
Nowadays, all we do is just go right for the good stuff.
But the problem is, it's not actually that good
because there hasn't been enough sexual tension built
in the first place.
And the best way to be able to build that
sexual tension with someone when you first meet
that person is through the art of touch.
So in this video right now,
I'm gonna be giving you five places
to touch a guy where we like to be touched,
and it's almost guaranteed
to send shivers down his spine, keep watching.
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Hey there, I'm Adam Lodolce from sexyconfidence.com
where I help you create your love story.
And this video is all about the art of the touch.
And let me tell you,
as a guy who used to coach other men
on how to flirt with you sexy single ladies,
I used to coach men on how to touch women.
And as you could imagine, sometimes it didn't go so well.
But throughout this whole period,
one thing I did learn is how powerful touch can be
when you're flirting with someone
because if both people are attracted to each other,
once you start touching one another,
suddenly, it's sending signals to the other person
that this could turn into something real.
And the best way to make a man
absolutely yearn for you
on levels that you couldn't even imagine.
The best way to do that is to touch him,
but not give him all the goods.
And because I am organized,
I'm gonna go from head all the way down,
to let's say the waistline
because we are not going any further below that
for where you should be touching men.
Because ladies, if you are early on or relationship,
you're just meeting a guy flirting with him,
don't be touching him below the waistline.
Keep this (beep) PG alright.
So let's just jump into the first place to touch a guy
to send absolute shivers down his spine.
Let's start with the hair.
Now this isn't the type of touching the hair
where, like Jess will do this to me
when I clearly have my hair all over the place
and she's just going like this to make it good.
No, it's not that type of touch.
It's when you look someone deep in the eyes
and you just feel that connection
and you can just lightly touch his hair
because there's actually a lot of nerve endings in the scalp
that are going to literally, literally
send shivers down his spine.
This goes without saying
but it's obviously easier the more hair he has
and if he is bald, you probably don't want to do this.
Let's skip to number two.
The second place to touch a guy
to send shivers down his spine
are through the ears.
Now word to all you sexy single ladies,
if you are going to kiss a guy's ears,
just stick with the ear lobe
because once you start getting in here,
(beep) gets a little weird.
I kid you not years ago,
way before Jess was ever in my life,
I was making out with the woman.
And then she starts kissing my ear
and I'm like, damn, this is this is nice.
And then she just sticks her tongue
as far into my ear lobe she could pos,
it was almost like she was having sex with my ear.
And that is where it went from being sexy to really weird.
So remember, with touch,
especially in these very sensitive areas,
it doesn't take much to send those shivers down the spine.
The third place you can touch a guy
to send those shivers down the spine
is through the neck.
Now back when I used to coach men on how to kiss you women,
reading the green light of whether or not it's okay,
I would always say
if she lets you touch her neck,
99% of the chance she wants you to kiss her.
And the same principle can actually be flipped right side up
for you sexy single ladies.
If you want a guy to kiss you just lightly touch his neck,
look them in the eyes, and then let him come to you.
And it goes without saying,
if you are legitimately trying
to send shivers down his spine, use your nails,
lightly give him almost tickling the back of his neck,
and it is guaranteed to give him that sensation.
Now, not all guys are going to like that.
But there are many men out there
who will be absolutely enthralled when you do that.
And, if he starts giggling like a little schoolgirl,
then stop because that is not very sexy.
Moving on down the body,
the fourth place to touch a guy
to send shivers down his spine
is through the wrist.
The inner part of the wrist.
Now I was recently talking to
one of my Sexy Confidence club members
because she was on a first date
and she wasn't sure how to give him
that green light that she was interested.
She wanted to keep it flirtatious.
So I told her on that first date,
don't sit across from each other,
sit side by side with each other so
that if the moment presents itself,
where he says something even remotely funny,
just lightly touch his inner wrist.
It's a very sensitive area of the body.
And it's also a very vulnerable area of the body.
So if someone's comfortable with you
lightly touching their inner wrists,
then they're going to be feeling
more comfortable with you in general.
And finally, the fifth area to touch man to send shivers,
I would say, up his spine would be his lower back.
Now the nerve endings in the lower back
are actually connected to the pelvis,
which are also connected to other parts of the lower body.
So perhaps you can be sending shivers
elsewhere through the body.
And that's all well and good,
but I can't tell you as a guy,
how great it is to just be walking with a woman
that you're really attracted to, or of course,
I'm in love with when walking with Jessica,
and she's just lightly putting her hand
on my lower back.
It's just a very natural connection
you can have with a woman as you're walking together.
So give it a shot.
I'd love to hear from all you sexy single ladies.
Have you ever touched a guy in any of these places?
How did it go?
And, do you have any horror stories
of when you try to touch a guy in other places
and it got really frickin weird?
Comment below.
And also if you want more tips
on how to be able to flirt With a guy
and connect with a guy,
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in the Sexy Confidence club membership,
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