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are you always insecure about your
relationships do you need constant
reassurance from your partner or loved
ones
attachment theory categorizes the way we
act in relationships into three main
attachment styles
in today's video we will be focusing on
the anxious attachment style
which according to mind body green is a
type of insecure attachment style
rooted in a fear of abandonment and
insecurity of being
underappreciated the anxiety or
insecurities you may feel in your
relationship today
may be due to an anxious attachment
style you developed as a child
remember if you find yourself relating
to the points we mentioned
be kind to yourself and know that you
can always work towards improving your
behaviors
with that said let's look at the eight
signs of an anxious attachment style
number one feeling insecure in
relationships
are you always worried about not being
good enough for your partner
does it get in the way of your happiness
a sign of an anxious attachment style is
feeling insecure in your relationships
this insecurity may manifest in a number
of ways for instance
you may find yourself very reactive to
your partner's words and actions
or find that you need constant
reassurance from your partner to feel
okay
number two looming fear of abandonment
are you scared that your partner will
leave you even when nothing is wrong
this fear of abandonment is pretty
common for people with an anxious
attachment
it's likely stemming from feelings of
abandonment and insecurity about your
parents when you were a child
according to healthline this fear and
worry that your partner will leave you
often results in a tendency to become
overly dependent on your partner
which may negatively impact a
relationship and your emotional
well-being
number three trust issues do you have a
hard time
trusting your partner maybe you find it
hard to believe in your partner when
they say they won't leave you
or when your friends tell you that they
truly care about you
whatever it is this difficulty to trust
others may stem from a combination of
feeling
insecure about your relationships and
fearing that your partner or your
friends are going to abandon you in time
if it gets out of hand this distrust of
others may result in losing your
relationships
number four clinginess have other people
called you clingy
when it comes to you and your
relationships maybe you're over-reliant
or over-dependent on your friends
family or partner unlike some of the
other signs
clinginess can be a common coping
mechanism for fears that come with the
anxious attachment style
according to the attachment project
people with anxious attachment develop
clinginess
because they're afraid of being alone
number five
emotional neediness do you always need
other people's attention
according to abby moore from mind body
green
many people with an anxious attachment
style are emotionally needy because they
did not receive the proper emotional
nurturing
and security as a child this emotional
neediness
may manifest into behaviors where they
constantly seek reassurance
soothing and attention from the people
in their life
number six harsh reactions to criticism
are you the type to take criticism to
heart does it have a strong
impact on your self-esteem while it is
not
uncommon to be sensitive to criticism
those with an anxious attachment style
might view criticism in a more intense
manner
instead of seeing criticism as a way to
help you grow
you may take it as a rejection and let
it amplify your fears and insecurities
which may ultimately lead to low
self-esteem
number seven ambivalence towards
intimacy
do you crave intimacy or do you find it
overwhelming
some people with anxious attachment walk
this fine line between craving
and fearing emotional and physical
intimacy
this perception of intimacy may be due
to emotional neglect during your
childhood
so while you have a deep craving for
intimacy you may not know how to
or be comfortable with accepting it and
number eight
feeling unworthy do you feel unworthy of
love
or that you aren't good enough for your
relationships people with an anxious
attachment
may have low levels of self-esteem and a
negatively distorted view of their
self-worth
this lack of self-esteem is likely to
stem from insecurities and fears of
being abandoned or unwanted by your
parents or loved ones
which may lead to a belief that you're
not worthy enough for your relationships
we hope you enjoyed learning about some
of the signs of an anxious attachment
style
do you relate to any of the things we've
mentioned above let us know in the
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