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I'd love to share with you something amazing.
All my life, I've been a fan of little tiny things,
small things, simple things that have monumental results.
One of them is "I'm enough",
saying I'm enough is so simple.
Its strength is in its simplicity,
its honesty and its power,
but there's another thing that's simple,
that's equally powerful and it is practicing gratitude.
When you get, what I call, "an attitude to gratitude"
when you learn to be grateful and practice being grateful,
it can help you live a healthier, happier
and indeed a longer life.
How could that be?
Well, whatever you focus on, you get more of.
Whatever you focus on, you move towards.
What does it look like?
Well, I believe because it's worked for me,
that when you're grateful for little things,
then every day is an amazing day.
When you wake up and go, my God, this coffee is sensational,
this tea is super yummy,
this shower gel is so nice,
I probably sound so glib and sickening and nauseous,
but I don't do it every day,
but when I wake up, the first thing I say is
"I love my life.
I love my life.
Here's my little cat sleeping on the bed, she's so cute,
I love her.
I get really excited about my first cup of tea.
Does that sound crazy?
I go, "I can't wait for my tea."
I go, "Oh my God, this is sensational.
I love the tea; I love this nutpods.
But then I have a coffee, I go,
"I love this coffee.
I love this other nutpods milk."
I have a shower, I go, "I love this shower."
I love washing my hair.
I love the fact that I've got this super Dyson hairdryer,
I can do my whole hair in five minutes.
I love the fact that this guy from Wide Brims
gave me this amazing hat."
And so I start my day with what I love
and then it sets me up for the whole day.
I always feel grateful.
Occasionally, my husband annoys me, but I think,
well, imagine my life without him.
Oh no, that would be much worse.
I'm so glad I have him.
I'm annoyed that he's made salad
and there's food all over the floor, there's tea bags,
but imagine if he wasn't here and my house was perfect.
Would I be happy?
No, I wouldn't be happy.
And so I learned to have an attitude to gratitude.
I'm so grateful.
I'm a bit tired today,
I've got people come coming for dinner.
I could go, "Ugh no."
I go, "No, how lucky am I
that people want to come to my house
and have dinner with me?
How lucky am I that I have people in my life?
How lucky am I
that I've got all these gifts to buy at Christmas?
How lucky am I that I have this life?"
When I got cancer, I thought, wow
how lucky am I I got it in my womb?
I don't need a womb.
I don't need a womb ever again, my child is grown up.
I didn't feel like that immediately,
Oh how lovely,
but after three days, I began to think, wow
this is actually a stroke of luck.
It could have been an eye, a leg,
it could have been a lung,
it was a womb, an organ I didn't need.
And the minute I thought, wow, well, that's lucky,
I don't need that,
I felt suddenly; I can bounce back from this.
Actually, a hysterectomy is easy.
It's not really any surgery, it's a tiny incision,
I can go home the next day,
I can just get on my life.
So even though you might think
I just don't believe that's possible,
anything is possible when you look at
what's good about this,
what could I be grateful for.
When my parents both died within three months of each other,
I thought, well, that's a shame, but you know what?
I'm so lucky; I had them for so long.
My dad was 89, my mom was 85.
I was sad that they left,
but glad that I had them
and glad that they lived a long enough life.
And so all the time start to think about
what could I be grateful for?
What's good about this?
There was a time I lived in London
and I lived on the river Thames.
It was one bridge going across the River Thames
to take my daughter to school and it was shut for two years,
it broke, and it broke again
and I had to go this really long route,
it was super annoying.
And one day I was driving
and I saw this woman waiting at a bus stop
and I actually stopped and gave her a lift, and she said,
"You know, I have to take three buses to get my kids,
but I'm so lucky.
I got my kid into this amazing school,
he passed the exam and we're so lucky.
Even though we get up at six and do three buses."
I thought, wow, here am I complaining
about a 20 minute drive,
I've got the heating on, I've got some music on
and I learned to not complain,
to be grateful, I had a car; I had gas,
I had a job where I didn't have to start work
till after the school run
and I began to be lucky
and something that stood me in very good stead
was to do this.
Could my problem
be someone else's fantasy dream come true?
Would someone love a husband
who leaves his underpants on the floor,
who manages to get a teabag
on every single surface in minutes?
Would somebody love a husband
who leaves his shoes in the middle of the room
so I trip over them?
Yes, they'd go, "Oh, I'd take it.
I'd love a husband, any husband, I'll take it."
Would someone love a baby that keeps them up all night,
a job that's stressful,
a commute on the 405 Freeway?
You bet.
They'd go, "I'd love that problem."
The way to be grateful is to stop and think,
would someone in the world say your problem
is my fantasy dream come true?
Would you have loved this problem 20 years ago?
Would you have loved to have a house
where the plumbing's gone a bit wrong
and something's happened because you own a home?
People say, "Oh welcome to being a homeowner,
everything goes wrong."
But don't do that because that's someone else's dream.
You're treading on their dreams.
It's hell being a homeowner.
It's a nightmare having to commute to work.
My kids are making me go crazy.
Don't tread on someone else's dream
that, by the way, was once upon a time your dream.
I worked with a rock star who said,
"Oh my God, it's a nightmare,
all these fans and women only like me
'cause I've got so much money."
I said, "But isn't that what you always wanted?"
"Yeah, but I didn't know it was like this."
And it's like that because you've forgotten to be grateful.
You've forgotten to say, what's great about this?
You know, you don't have to be surrounded by fans,
you can go out in disguise,
you can go out late at night.
Tom Cruise said he saw the whole of Florence
late at night in the dark.
Because he didn't want to be mobbed by people.
He said, "It was amazing; I loved it.
I went out at two in the morning
and did all the tourists things, and it was great."
So what is great about it?
Who else would love to have your problem?
There's a proverb about people in Italy
all writing their problem on a piece of paper
and hanging it on a tree.
And they had to go back to the tree and pick a problem,
any one, so they all picked their own.
"Actually, I'd like to keep my own problem,
I'm used to it, I can handle it."
So I've seen so many people say, "You know what?
I never realized it when my kid is screaming to go,
well, this doesn't last forever and how lucky I am.
I've got my seven-year-old in my bed.
When they're 17, I won't know whose bed they're in
so should I just enjoy this for now?
I got a really annoying husband, wife,
girlfriend, boyfriend, partner, kid,
but it comes with the territory."
Having an argumentative kid is fantastic.
You know why?
They don't get bullied
and they're learning to have an opinion
and they're practicing on you.
When you go, "Don't you say no, don't you fight back",
they become introverted.
When you say, "Well, okay, let's look at that point of view.
Where did you get it?
Why do you think it?",
you're allowing them to have an opinion.
Even having an argumentative kid
is something to be grateful for.
Having a kid leave home is something to be grateful for
'cause there are some people who never get that.
So I've seen the most profound changes in people
and in myself when I learned to say,
"This is good, this is great.
There's something good about this, I'm grateful."
Years ago, in the Second World War,
Buckingham Palace got bombed, and the Queen said,
"I'm so glad 'cause I can look the East End in the eye now
and say, "I know what it's like."
When I had cancer, I thought,
well you know what?
I can look at people with cancer and say,
"I've been there, I know what it's like,
I really can relate."
When I lost a baby that I really wanted it, I thought,
well, I can say to people, "I know what that's like."
I couldn't have said, "I know how it feels,
I know how sad it is,
but I also know how to help other people
and I'm very grateful I have a healthy child."
It may sound glib, Pollyanna, even nauseating
but it works.
Being grateful,
finding gratitude in the smallest things,
I woke up and I heard a bird sing,
I heard my baby giggling,
I heard my husband or wife singing in the shower,
I thought, well, this is nice, this is good.
I'm in the car going well how lovely,
I've got the heating on, I've got the radio on,
I'm in traffic
but I've always wanted to listen to this audiobook
so let me listen to it now.
I have seen profound changes
in people just doing a simple thing, practicing gratitude,
having an attitude to gratitude,
having a gratitude journal,
every day, writing down what was good today?
What am I grateful for today?
I still do that, not every day,
but sometimes I go back and look at my gratitude
and think, well, that's amazing,
I said that, and I thought that and it became real.
So develop an attitude to gratitude.
Practice gratitude every single day.
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One of my friends said,
"You know I went on holiday with my wife
and my backpack got stolen on day one.
You know what was great?
I didn't use the phone.
I didn't have a computer."
I went to Cuba with my husband, his luggage disappeared.
He had nothing.
He had the shorts and the tee shirt he had turned up in
and we had the best holiday ever.
Every day, we went out sight seeing, came home,
he swam in the pool, showered in the shower,
we went out for dinner, he wore the same stuff,
a lot of my stuff was in his case.
And I was grateful
I learned to live a life without stuff.
I didn't have anything.
He had nothing.
It was actually amazing.
It taught me travel with less.
You don't need anything.
And now I travel really light.
I can go away for a whole week
with just carry-on luggage
and I'm grateful that he lost all his luggage
and half of mine
because I learned something amazing, less is more.
Travel light, don't carry stuff around.
It's a wonderful thing.
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Knowing you're enough can change your entire life forever.
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Play the only part we've ever known
and then you make that part your own.
You go, you know what?
I think it's time for a new part.
I was told I could never, ever have children.
My whole RTT® training
was based on being told I couldn't have a baby.