have you ever had one of those moments where you
realized I can't live like this anymore?
I did back in november over the past couple of years.
I had done my best to manage my anxiety, to live with
depression and to navigate all of the changes happening
in a very chaotic world.
I had been doing what I needed to do to get by and
frankly to get out of bed some mornings and it was very
necessary then, but I realized that I was ready to do
more than just survive.
But after so long it wasn't just a matter of, Of making a
list of goals for myself to get into that era.
I needed to reinvent myself and quickly so that I didn't
backslide into my safe, depressed state.
So I went through a process to reinvent my career and
my life in 30 days and I'm showing it today with you in
this video, it begins with a simple question, are you who
you think you are?
According to neuroscience, the answer is no.
Despite being the source of our awesomeness and
intelligence and inventions like the
snuggie, our brain? No, nothing.
When you were born, it is a blank slate.
If you have ever had a baby or have been in close
proximity to a brand new human, you'll know that they
don't know how to do anything.
They don't know how to fall
asleep, They don't know how to eat.
They don't know how to do anything other than what
they're instinctually driven to do and from infancy through
the rest of our lives, all that we understand about the
world is what we observe and experience.
Your brain is constantly taking information about what's
happening around you and what you experience to cry
create mental models.
It's like machine learning without the machine.
Your brain then uses these mental models to make
sense of the world around you to predict how different
situations will play out and even determines your self
concept, which is how you see yourself in the world, who
you are, what your role is, what you're supposed to do,
who you're supposed to be.
The concept of a mental model
makes most sense with an example.
So I'm going to share one that I think you might relate to
one of my mental models is every time I wear a light
outfit on a day I have a presentation or important
meeting, I will spill food on myself, whether it's my
breakfast or my coffee.
So instead of walking in looking polished and
professional and like I have my stuff together, like how I
would like to appear, I walk
in looking like a stained mess.
You should probably carry a tide pen.
Now do I only spill my coffee
all over myself when I'm wearing white?
No, I spilled coffee on myself all the time. Do I spill coffee
on myself every time I wear white.
Know there's been some times that I've managed to
keep it together, but because it has happened in the past
and I felt embarrassed about it, my brain predicts that it's
going to happen again.
The main thing our brain is trying to do for us is to avoid
pain after all, including the pain of social embarrassment.
This doesn't just apply to coffee though, this applies to
how you expect your boss to treat you or your coworkers
to treat you the projects and tasks you think you're able
to complete at work and even how you think about
yourself at work and in life.
This is because these mental models inform yourself
calm concept which influences your future decisions.
It's important to note here that your brain is only able to
build a mental model based on things that it's observed
or experienced basically on what has happened to you
and who you have been to date.
That brings us to the process of reinvention and some
great news, These mental models are constantly
updating even faster than your iphone, you can upgrade
your mental model at any time.
So if you want to be the corporate girly who has her stuff
together at least mostly and gets to pay promotion and
praise she deserves, you can begin to reprogram your
mental models to create that new self concept which
brings me to the leg because you probably don't see
yourself as the current version of yourself and definitely
non who you are becoming, it's much more likely that
you see yourself as a version or two ago.
That's where I personally got stuck.
While these mental models do eventually self update,
you can accelerate the process
by proactively updating them basically.
Instead of waiting for updates to manually install, you
can see, take it out, install it and the application updates
that go with it.
So how do you do that?
It begins with knowing your reinvention, knowing what
you want, your next era to be.
This breaks down into four
areas, career life, health and self.
Career is obviously your professional self, which we talk
about all the time on my channel.
I also include money and finances in this category
because for most of us, our job is the primary way that
money comes to us.
Next is lifestyle. This can include your lifestyle, your
travel, relationships and the things you do for fun.
Then we have health. This is all encompassing. It
includes your physical, emotional, psychological as well
as your spiritual health.
Finally their self this includes how you take care of
yourself, how you keep your battery charged as well as
how you dress and show up in the world.
In this phase, you're going to get clear on what you want
each of these areas of your life to look like.
And it's actually not as complicated as it sounds, get a
piece of paper and write down what you want In each of
those four areas of your life.
The most important thing here is this, you have to give
yourself permission to want what you want, even if it
feels big and impossible.
For example, one of the things that I wrote down for
myself when I went through this process was I want to
have a best selling book.
My book, career glow up comes out on January 10 and I
would love for it to be a bestseller, but not for the
reasons you think I'm going to come back to that in a
minute though inversely you might not find yourself
writing down a lot of things here or you might not be
writing down a lot of mass of things in each area.
That's okay. My point is is that you need to be clear on
what you really want to create next, whatever it is without
holding yourself back or feeling pressure to overachieve.
One interesting thing that can happen when you do this
is you might find yourself writing down things that you
used to do that you stop doing reinvention doesn't mean
that everything is new, It involves bringing the best with
you and sometimes that means
old habits making a comeback.
For instance, I wrote down, established a new morning
routine because I used to have this journaling and
meditation thing that I absolutely love, but it kind of got
derailed when I had a hard time getting out of bed.
So I gave myself permission to stay there as long as I
needed and scroll on my phone
until I was ready to get out.
So for like an hour, remember you don't have to show
this to anybody, no one needs to approve it.
It's just what you want in these four areas and things that
you think would feel good to have.
What you end up with here is essentially a framework of
who you want to be, how you want to live and what you
want to accomplish.
Basically you have a set of goals.
Goals are really important when you're reinventing
yourself because they're defining what you want to
create in that next era.
But just setting a goal in itself is flimsy, which is why for
each goal, I want you to take it another step.
I want you to get clear af on the vision values the
obstacles and what you're going to do to make it happen.
This makes more sense. If I explain it in context, I'm
actually going to take a goal that probably not many of
you have because I think if I give an example, like
getting promoted or getting a new job, the examples I
give can feel like very narrow and constraining.
So let's run with my example of my goal of making the
career glow up book into a bestseller.
The first thing I defined with this goal was the vision and
the vision is what and why
you really want to achieve this goal.
My vision for the career glow up book is that it will help
tens of thousands of people create wildly so successful
careers on their own terms, it's going to help them create
an easy to implement career success strategy and will
be the go to guide for ambitious professionals.
The next step is to understand the values of the goal and
this is a step I actually took when I was working at sales
for is that I found really transformative in terms of goal
achievement because it's going a little deeper knowing
how the goals that you have relates to your values is
really important and can help you be more motivated and
committed to the goal at least in my opinion.
So how does making career glow up a bestseller aligned
with my values?
Well one of my core values is service and that's the
place that I wrote this book from for me books have
always been low cost, accessible, exceptionally
transformative, especially in the format that I created the
career glow up book.
The other value that this aligns with is winning together
being a best selling author is a lifelong dream of mine
but I know that transformation that this book is going to
provide, I know that it can help you get promoted, I know
it can help you get paid more and I know it can help you
be recognized for everything that you do and contribute
and work and the more value aligned people that are out
there creating impact, gaining power and even making
more money, the more positive
impact we can make in workspaces?
This brings me to the third thing, which is obstacles and
this is where it can get really juicy because when we set
a goal and especially when we're reinventing ourselves
and getting this big vision about what our next era is
going to be, it can feel like it's really, really hard, it might
even feel impossible to achieve.
So why is that? Well, here is where we can break down
the actual obstacles.
Like for example, I can't control who actually goes and
buys my book.
I mean I hope you go and buy my book, but I'm not the
boss of you, so I can't make you.
And of course there could be tactical obstacles that are
getting in the way as well, such as being a first time
author with no experience marketing a book launch for
each obstacle that we identify, what I want you to do is to
identify a way that you can
mitigate the risk or minimize the risk.
We can't do risk everything, but we can be ready for a lot
of different situations, especially when we plan for them
and then we get to the good part, which is how to make it
happen, even though it's really big, really scary goals are
easily achievable when we start to break them down.
So if you're trying to get promoted, what steps do you
need to take in order to get the promotion at work?
If you're trying to get a new job, what are the steps to get
a new job eventually?
What we're going to do is we are going to break up the
big things so that it's actually really simple for us to
achieve as long as we stick to the plan.
For example, one of the things I can do to maximize my
likelihood of being a best selling author is to promote my
book, which is kind of what I'm doing right now.
You'll follow this process for each goal that you are
setting for yourself in your reinvention.
So whether that is getting a promotion dre drinking more
water a day, working out more redoing your morning
routine, each one you're going to go through each and
every one of these steps that you know what you want,
why you want it, what's going to get in the way and how
you can make it happen personally, I also went full nerd
and created a whole notion set up for my goals and
tracking everything that we just discussed basically, it
gives me a dashboard to work with and keeps everything
in my face, let me know if you're interested in seeing it.
As I went through this process.
I also visited the route that I have that influence or
determine my vision, think about the tiny things that you
can include in your day that are going to make you
happier more successful or just make your day easier,
something like having an after work reset routine
Ultimately ask yourself this question as I reinvent myself,
what habits do I need to belt in order to live my ideal life?
And this brings me to the final phase and the most
important phase in reinventing yourself and that is taking
action, This is all moot.
If we think about it without actually doing anything right, I
suggest starting with some easy wins, even if they feel
superficial because the world that we observe impacts
how we see ourselves, so changes that we make to
ourselves and our environment are going to help us
accelerate the updates for those mental models.
I started with upgrading my wardrobe, especially over the
last few years, I have started wearing an embarrassing
amount of leggings, not that there's anything wrong with
leggings, I am from Vancouver and lululemon is pro
practically formal wear, but I don't feel like a polished
professional badass when I'm wearing leggings.
So I needed to make a change.
I decided that my vibe was going to be much more
effortlessly chic with that in mind.
I edited my closet. I also bought some new pieces that
function with a vision I had for myself, for instance, I'm
really vibing with monochromatic look.
So I went to a ritzy and just bought a bunch of stuff.
I also spent some time getting my physical and living
spaces in order because of everything that has gone on
with the case, the depression and the anxiety those
areas had gotten a little bit chaotic too and it didn't
support the vision or how I feel most at peace and I have
two little kids.
So things get crazy. Another quick win that I structured
was creating some affirmations for myself.
These allow me to remind myself every day that just
because I haven't done something yet doesn't mean I
can't do it.
These affirmations are helping me channel the vibes
every day about who I want to be and what I want to
achieve in this next era.
You want to check out what they are and borrow them.
I did make them into a post over on instagram.
I'll link it down below and then of course we need to take
actual action with tasks you already determine what you
need to do to get promoted at work, how to meet people
in your industry to find a new mentor or how to drink
eight glasses of water a day,
even though water is really gross.
Anyone else with me on that one with these in mind.
I suggest that you make a plan every week so that you're
tackling steps to achieve these
goals on a consistent basis.
This is how you're going to bring your reinvention from a
concept into reality.
One thing I think is really important to say is in this
process as you reinvent yourself.
Do not be too hard on yourself.
The process of reinventing yourself isn't something that
is going to transition into the real world, flawlessly and
perfectly show up intentionally visit your goals and visit
your vision for your rien invention.
Do the best you can every day, no matter what that
version of best is, because your best might look different
every single day, Don't judge yourself or shame yourself
if something doesn't go perfectly or when you break your
habit streak one day it's just
one day and there's always tomorrow.
Ultimately I want you to remember this.
It's the tiny decisions and tiny tasks that snowball up to
massive achievements and big transformations and
when you keep on showing up every day, we with
intention and in alignment with how you want to reinvent
yourself all of a sudden it's going to be how you see
yourself and chances are, it's
how others already see you.
The truth is this isn't a reinvention, this is just letting who
you already are out into the world and continuing your
personal and professional growth Of course don't
underestimate the power of habits.
In fact, I want you to go and watch this video next to
identify some success. Accelerating habits