Talaq happens, divorce happens and subhanAllah
to look at the verses over and over and over again
embedding Tuukka in divorce.
[يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ إِذَا طَلَّقْتُمُ النِّسَاءَ فَطَلِّقُوهُنَّ لِعِدَّتِهِنَّ وَأَحْصُوا الْعِدَّةَ ۖ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ رَبَّكُمْ]
the first thing the Prophet ﷺ is commanded that when you carry out a divorce,
make sure that you initiate it at the right time.
There's a Sunnah
So when you initiate a divorce
and make sure you observe the Iddah (waiting perdiod) properly and fear Allah, وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ رَبَّكُمْ
you both have the same lord that you will be accountable to
and you will never see the Sunnah less applied than in divorce.
It's so sad in our communities.
It is so sad. All of a sudden, the religious and the secular,
it all goes out the window. What Sunnah?
I'm going to cite the text as it can benefit me.
But what Sunnah, what what observance of Allah and his messenger ﷺ
And how does it start off with after that?
[لَا تُخْرِجُوهُنَّ مِن بُيُوتِهِنَّ وَلَا يَخْرُجْنَ إِلَّا أَن يَأْتِينَ بِفَاحِشَةٍ مُّبَيِّنَةٍ]
don't kick them out of their houses.
Your spouses out of their houses, nor leave your house
there is a 'iddah' period to be observed
unless there is a fear of your safety that Iddah is there for a reason.
I can't tell you how many times we're facing issues in our community,
times in our community, where right away the Talaq is uttered.
And then forget about the Iddah, two people that practice Islam, two people that pray.
And a husband tells his wife, don't come home.
A wife disappears, the husband disappears. There's no.
Don't you dare kick the other person out of their rightful home
nor leave your place.
There's a process to be established here and to be observed here.
Unless there is a fear of safety or there is shamelessness 'fahisha'
a major transgression that has taken place.
[وَتِلْكَ حُدُودُ اللَّهِ]
That's the boundary of Allah that's been set on you.
You don't get to reason your way out of it.
[وَتِلْكَ حُدُودُ اللَّهِ]
[وَمَن يَتَعَدَّ حُدُودَ اللَّهِ فَقَدْ ظَلَمَ نَفْسَهُ]
and whoever crosses transgresses the boundary of Allah
You've wronged yourself.
You might have hurt the other person.
SubhanAllah
The types of Malverde May Allah protect us from wronging
or being wronged in these ways, in these divorces Audhubillah
kicking people out of their homes, changing locks, not coming.
But I mean, it's unbelievable what takes place.
Like when is the iddah to be observed.
And Allah is saying what? you cross the boundary of Allah...
you have wronged yourself,
[لَا تَدْرِي لَعَلَّ اللَّهَ يُحْدِثُ بَعْدَ ذَٰلِكَ أَمْرًا]
and you don't know what Allah is going to pave as a result of you observing
what he has put as a process for you.
But again, fear Allah later on
Allah (swt) mentions in the forgiveness
and after a divorce has to take place where people
then start to its lawyer up and get as much as you can.
What does Allah (swt) say?
[وأن تعفوا أقرب للتقوى]
You know what? Be a person that forgives the person,
that overlooks, be a person that says, I understand we can make an arrangement.
Try try your best to be that person that is understanding and forgiving.
Don't weaponize one []وأن تعفوا أقرب للتقوى
Be a person who's forgiving, who's overlooking, who's pardoning,
who's reasonable, who is gracious, graceful,
that's closer to Taqwa.
[وَلَا تَنسَوُا الْفَضْلَ بَيْنَكُمْ]
Don't forget the good times that you had among yourselves
[إِنَّ اللَّهَ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ بَصِيرٌ]
What is that speaking about as, as Al-Qurtubi (Rh) said
that when two people get a divorce and then they slander one another and they
they they try to hinder the path to marriage for the other person afterwards.
So put out nasty things in the community.
Right. Start making suggestions and hints why?
So that you can make that person miserable
because you feel like they've made you miserable.
Where is the Taqwa in that
[إِنَّ اللَّهَ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ بَصِيرٌ]
Allah sees you to take more than your Haq
Is 'fujoor' to take more than your right is 'fujoor'
Sometimes people find themselves in a favorable situation
outside of the boundaries of Allah and his messenger ﷺ
and they take more than what's allotted to them.
That is fujoor
It's not screaming and cursing and yelling, but that is fujoor
That Hudood of Allah that is being crossed
using your children as pawns in a divorce.
Taqwa problem subhanAllah in the vengeance of all of this.
And the situation where a husband and wife
pit their children against one another manipulate,
Where is your fear of Allah that's going to come back to bite you?
It'll bite you with your children and bite you with yourself.
ittaqullah!, your children are not ponts.
Your children need help, right?
They need they need they need that compassion, that care, that love.
They need understanding.
But a person is just trying to do what as much as I can get out of this
fujoor! take as much as I can hurt as much as I can wield
as much as I can execute as much as I can of pain on the other person.