- [Narrator] Do you believe in love at first sight?
When you feel intense chemistry,
you may believe you finally found the one
but is attraction enough for a meaningful relationship?
For a couple to stand through the tests of time
a deeper connection is crucial.
The connection called compatibility.
Understanding the difference between the two
can get confusing sometimes.
So is it just chemistry, but not compatibility.
Here are some signs to help you figure it out.
Number one.
You can't imagine spending your life with them.
You like cuddling with them and have fun
when you go out to the movies,
their jokes make you cry, laughing
and you can't stop smiling when you're with them.
If that's true, there's definitely chemistry between you.
Now close your eyes, and imagine them by your side forever.
Do you feel something's wrong with that picture?
Maybe you like to hang out with them
but they're not serious enough for a long-term relationship
or they pursue a completely opposite lifestyle.
Whatever it is, you can ignore it for now,
but you know it would drive you crazy in the long run.
They just don't seem right
and you're probably right.
If you can feel it, even through all that chemistry,
most likely you're just not compatible.
Number two.
You don't share the same values.
That first attraction,
you probably didn't talk about your values
or opinions as much.
You just wanted to spend time with them
and possibly stop blushing so much, right?
But sooner or later,
the question of your beliefs will pop up
and you might get surprised.
When you're not truly compatible,
you might have completely different opinions
on topics of religion, politics, parenting style.
While it's true that you can value others' opinions
even if you disagree,
it can get difficult to date someone
who doesn't share your values and beliefs.
Having opposing views on major topics
can impact your life together
and make you prone to arguments and fights
even if they're extremely cute.
Number three.
You're complete opposites.
It is said that opposites attract.
When it comes to relationships,
you may be a naturally calm person
which helps ground your naturally hotheaded partner,
or maybe you are very anxious
but your optimistic partner helps you calm that anxiety.
But if you're complete opposites
when it comes to your interests, ideas and opinions,
it may be difficult for you to enjoy each other's company.
If you like to spend your weekends going to the theater
while your partner would rather go to a soccer game,
you're probably going to have some problems
deciding how to spend your time together.
Maybe you have some common interests
but if you're planning to stay together long-term,
a few common interests may not be enough for you
to have a fulfilling relationship.
Number four.
You're often bored of each other.
How did you feel when you first met them?
Did the excitement of seeing them again
make you lose sleep?
And every second you spent thus was filled with fun.
You could feel the chemistry with all your senses.
What about now?
As time passed,
you started spending more time together
but now you kind of feel bored.
The initial excitement stopped being so intense.
This often happens to couples
that were blinded with chemistry,
but are not actually compatible.
You stop spending quality time together
or even avoid one another.
Unfortunately, it rarely gets better with time
and sometimes the relationship ends
because they find someone new,
someone who makes them feel that excitement all over again.
And number five.
You have different goals for the future.
What do you want out of your future?
Do you wanna get married and start a family
but your partner would rather spend their life traveling
or maybe you wanna move into a big city
with lots of opportunities,
but they would like to live in the countryside,
surrounded by animals.
Having similar goals is pretty important
for a long-term relationship
and by pretty, we mean, absolutely.
It's a touchstone for a compatible relationship.
Having different views about the future
is something that's definitely going to take a toll on you
no matter how much you like them at the moment.
When your feelings are only led by chemistry
and attraction without compatibility,
it opens the door for lots of frustration and loneliness.
Even if you are still not sure,
you don't have to worry, time will tell
and your heart will know what to do.
The good news is Psych2Goers that it's completely possible
for chemistry and compatibility to go hand in hand.
When that happens,
it's the start of a wonderful and fruitful relationship.
So do you recognize any of these signs?
If so, do you think this video helped you to identify them?
Feel free to leave a comment down below with your thoughts,
experiences, or suggestions.
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