In this video, you're going to learn
eight different ways to create sexual tension with a girl.
So let's get going.
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What about those eight ways to create sexual tension?
I guess we all understand why sexual tension is a good thing, right?
Sexual and tension together create sexual tension.
But when you break it apart,
you need to think about the word "tension" there.
So, tension is good, okay?
Tension in a conversation is good.
Now the problem is that in most of our interactions in normal life,
we try our best to avoid tension.
You don't want to do that when it comes to women.
So, you need to get used to the idea of tension.
So here are some ways of creating sexual tension
when you're talking to a girl.
Number 1 is the following:
You want to establish touch early on –
touching her a little bit – here on the shoulder, for example –
– that's a safe zone –
– or just gently brushing up against her in some way –
accidentally – as if by accident.
Just a little bit of that can give women really tingly sensations
and get them all excited about getting a little bit closer to you.
Now, you want to establish this early on
so that you then don't have a big jump
to when you actually do want to touch her in some way.
Number 2 is something that sounds really obvious,
and yet, most guys suck at this, and that is strong eye contact.
And by that, I don't mean staring at a girl.
By that, I mean just enjoying the process of looking in her eyes –
like there's something in there that intrigues you – and then look away.
But when you look at her, enjoy looking at her, okay?
Most guys, they kind of go, "Yeah. Ooh."
They avoid her eyes because – "Oh, my God!" –
she might find out that they are attracted to her
or that they're having sexual thoughts.
You need to get comfortable with that
and then you just need to look at her with enjoyment in your eyes.
That, by itself, can create a lot of chemistry
and a lot of sexual tension.
You'll see. Just try it out.
My third strategy for creating sexual tension is to –
this sounds weird – but to be there – to really be there.
Now I've had many years
when I was never where I was supposed to be.
My focus was always somewhere up in the air
or in the past or in the future.
You just need to be there. [laughs]
I don't know how to explain this –
but just to be able to breathe and be in the spot where you are.
Your presence alone can often create sexual tension.
If you're somebody who is just comfortable where they are and who is truly there,
it can create sexual tension between the two of you –
because women then feel your presence.
Number 4 is the following:
Only tell her as much as you need to tell her.
If she asks you a question,
don't go on and on and on about yourself
with every detail of the whole story.
That is a great way to dissolve any mystery, any interest, any curiosity about you.
Curiosity and attraction come from there not being everything filled in.
There need to be holes in your stories that she doesn't know yet.
There needs to be some mystery around you.
That's how you build intrigue, which is very akin to sexual tension.
Strategy Number 5. This is one of my favorites.
Have this sentence in your mind, "You want me," okay?
"You want me." Have this in your mind.
I'm going to just have it in my mind right now.
How does that change me?
Well, it makes me feel like I'm having some sort of secret, right?
I'm looking like I know something about you that you don't know – yet –
that you may not even be aware of, or something like that.
It gives me some sort of next-level knowledge that I feel right now
and I'm having a – I'm already feeling more playful with the camera here, right?
Just because I'm thinking to the camera, "You want me."
Have it in your mind – at the back of your mind –
and see how it affects you.
The sixth way to build sexual tension is to initiate things, to be a leader.
You take over.
You move things in the direction that you want to.
You decide that the two of you want to go somewhere.
That doesn't mean ignoring what she's saying.
But start to initiate things.
It makes it feel like
what it should feel like when you're having sex.
And it just magically sort of transmits itself to her
that she's starting to think about things like that
if you are the one that's taking charge of situations.
It's much better than sitting there waiting for her to decide on things.
That is the antithesis of sexual tension – for her to take over.
So learn to be a leader and move things along and initiate things.
So, the seventh way of building sexual tension
is to use something called "push-and-pull."
You may have heard about it.
Push and pull is basically
pushing her away and then pulling her in again,
or pulling her in and then pushing her away.
Actually, the second one works even better.
You can do this in different ways.
You can do this with words. You can do this physically.
You can do this with your voice, as well, or in terms of your body language.
So, literally, if it was body language, you would literally, like,
get close to her and then push her away, yeah?
That would be pull-push.
Or you will push her away slightly, and then grab her hand
and pull her back again. Yeah?
That will be push and pull.
So what does that do to a girl?
Well, it kind of creates this hot-cold dynamic
which is really interesting for a girl and really exciting.
It's also very playful.
And it also works really well in a sexual way
because it creates this idea of sex, as well.
There's a lot of push and pull during good sex for women.
If you wanted to do pull-push with words,
you might say something really sweet and then you might sort of
verbally push her away a little bit.
For example, you might say,
"Well, sometimes you look really sweet, but I'm not sure I can trust you."
That creates a lot of dynamics and sexual tension.
Now, something that people really struggle with
is the eighth way to create sexual tension
and that is to enjoy silences.
Sometimes there are silences.
And what do guys do? They want to fill the silence.
When you fill the silence all the time, a girl never has a chance
to have that moment when she looks at you
and you're looking at her
and you both notice that you're looking at each other
and you notice sexual tension.
And then, because you're breaking it, it can't linger for a second.
Give a girl a chance to notice that she's attracted to you.
And it can happen in these moments of silence.
So rather than breaking the silence and talking, just look at her
and enjoy looking at her, like I said earlier.
When you have these silences, those are great moments
to take her hand or touch her or even go in for the kiss, okay?
So silences are great.
Don't break them out of fear that there is a silence.
If you can enjoy it and let it linger there a little bit
and just look at her and enjoy the process, that's gold –
and it will massively ramp up attraction and sexual tension.
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