Magandang hapon po sa inyong lahat and welcome to Veronica’s portion of this show.
Today I have a very, very good looking
suave looking Asian guy in my show
and he’s going to teach us
how to overcome your shyness
in dealing with people.
Have you ever suffered any prejudices
or racism because you’re an Asian?
Help me welcome
Mr. Jerry Tran
founder of ABCs of Attraction.
Thank you for having me. I really appreciate being here.
My goodness gracious, look at him.
Look at the way he dresses.
Now I’m blushing.
Tell me what is this ABCs of Attraction?
ABCs of Attraction is any pickup company
where we take a holistic approach to train men how to be confident
how to talk to people
as well as just to be successful with women in any kind of social relationships.
Any kind of social relationships.
Yeah, like a lot of guys are minority and they want to be able to date any kind of women
whether she’s Asian or black or Caucasian.
Is this some kind of a dating club?
It’s dating training, if you want to call it.
Dating training.
Yeah we take guys for 3 days and 3 nights and we teach them the skills necessary
to be confident.
Why did you found a company like this?
You know what; it was totally, totally by accident.
I had no intention
of making any kind of money or doing any kind of business out of this.
I just had a blog and I was writing all about my adventures, my misadventures
things I was doing right and things I was doing wrong.
Then one day I got this call from a mother.
She called me up and she told me about her son
who had been harassed by neo-Nazis throughout high school
and she wanted to fly me up to Canada to help socialize her boy
and she’s paying too.
And I was like “wow, okay.”
Wow, really?
Yeah. And so I told her for 3 days and 3 nights, I am going to be the big brother he never had.
So I went up there and we hung out, I told him all about my experiences
then he got worked, excited, just to relate
and then we went out into the bar and I showed him how to talk to women.
Just be confident.
So what was the outcome?
He got his first date.
Oh really?
Yeah.
Wow
so you are really
prepared to meet all kinds of women out there?
Yeah. I have been all over the world
South America, Europe, Asia, Australia.
The thing about confidence
especially if you’re Asian, you don’t necessarily speak the best of English.
One of the things about confidence is your body language
and your body language speaks to everyone
whether you speak perfect English
or she speak perfect English or not
having confidence, embodying confidence, you’re exuding it through your body language.
For such, I just cannot call you an Asian Playboy.
I think I’ll be calling you international playboy.
Thank you, thank you.
You’re originally from?
Texas.
Born and raised in Texas.
What descent?
Vietnamese.
And you were born in Texas?
Yes
Oh okay, Vietnamese American.
And are you single?
Yeah at this current time.
I am casually dating.
I have been in long term relationships.
The longest relationship I was in was like 4 years.
I considered getting married but at this point and time…
You’re enjoying life.
Yes, that’s what it is.
Your playboy life.
Yes.
I am not doing the crazy stuff but
what we get into this is to have choice, to have option
to choose lifestyle and women and not...
not settling down for second best.
I’m enjoying travelling and I’m enjoying helping my fellow Asian American brothers.
What’s your ideal girl?
My ideal girl, someone who’s a little bit spunky.
Someone that can talk back.
Someone that’s educated as well.
Someone that’s poised.
Someone that’s also cultured, that knows not just like American but also
things around the world and she knew some Vietnamese history
she’s well travelled, all these things as well as of course the look.
Just Vietnamese history?
It would help because my mother is always...
she's always a bit concerned that if I brought home a wife…
but she lets me date white girls
she told me one day she would let me date.
How about the other non-Asians?
Like Filipino, Chinese
I have dated...
Korean...
I have dated those girls.
Still your preference is Vietnamese?
Actually majority of the girls I dated are white girls.
But you would like to marry a Vietnamese girl?
Potentially. Obviously...
I am not going to limit my choices, my options, based simply on her race.
There are beautiful women, there are educated women of all races and I am receptive,
so long as she meets all my qualities of a really fine human being.
Haven’t you met some kind of a problem
for doing what you’re doing it’s because you’re Asian?
Yes. I have run into racism and I have run into prejudice.
I’ve had big white guys just they start throwing out this commented talks.
I’ve called geek. I’ve been called cheap.
I’ve had girls reject me because I’m Asian.
I had an Asian girl reject me because I’m Asian.
She told me straight to my face
she does not talk to Asian guys.
She doesn’t date Asian guy and wants me to go away.
These are things in my experience that I run into
and it happens. It’s unfortunate
but those kinds of attitudes do exist and you just have to suck it up and move on.
You have to deal with this.
You can’t let it affect you
because if you let it affect you, that kind of hateful feeling
they win.
You just have to brush it off, move on
and be successful because that’s the best way to show them up.
Be insensitive.
Be successful.
Be successful
and you, you really have the look of success.
Thank you.
So how big is your company?
How big? Well we teach internationally.
We are primarily based in Los Angeles
but I have trainers out in San Francisco, New York, Florida
including one of the contestants from VH1 The Pickup Artist, Kevin Fang.
I’m goingto Australia next month, going to London next year.
While we are primarily based out here in the United States
we have taught like almost everywhere
from Canada to South America to Europe to Asia and to Australia.
Just like a finishing school for guys.
It is.
The thing about that...
we are giving them what they should have learned, if you will, in high school
the proper ability to talk to women
to exude confidence
to relate to people, to be dominant and masculine and confident
some of these things because as Asians we’re taught by our parents to
emphasize education and work ethic
which is excellent, but one of the things that people
fail to realize is emotional intelligence...
is a higher predicator of success
than simple education.
If you look at Silicon Valley
it’s not the exact statistics but it’s in the ballpark
almost 33% of Silicon Valley computer programmers are Asian
but how many are actually in management?
How many are in important levels of position?
Maybe like 10%.
Higher levels.
It’s not simply what you know, it’s who we know
and your ability to talk to people, to be confident
that role translates into significant success
in getting the job, in getting the raise.
You want to be able to show to your boss that you are the go-to guy
you’re the guy that deserves the raise.
You’re the guy that deserves the job.
You’re the guy that deserves the new corner office.
This is just not for picking up women.
This is for everything in your life
that requires you to interact with other people
and you want to translate...
into ideas and show that yes I am the person that you want to come to.
Very interesting.