where did you hear that
no no no that's all wrong it's rubbish
oh please please please please please
stay don't worry
this is not for you
i'm only trying to tell you that this is
not a good way to correct somebody we
should be really polite in our
correction but how do we do that
it's hard right to be soft when you're
still angry and when you still want
someone to change
but don't worry
you should stay with me michelle and i'm
going to help you in this problem of
yours and you're very soon going to know
how to politely correct somebody
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the first phrase here
i'm afraid
that's not quite right
where can we use this phrase
okay you have a friend
who does not speak in english very well
and that friend says
this are a door
and you're like uh okay so you have that
urge to correct her or him and you're
like okay maybe i should tell her and
then you decide to say
uh hey you're wrong
you shouldn't say like that how will she
feel of course very bad
so a better way instead would be to say
i'm afraid that's not quite right
you would rather want to say this is a
door instead of saying
this are a door right
let's look at the second phrase
actually
i think you'll find that so if this
friend of yours has decided that she's
not going to believe you and she's going
to do what she wants to do
she's going to speak what she wants to
speak then what do you do
then you tell her actually i think
if you see a grammar book you'll find
that r is used for plural
and is is used with singular and this
door is odor which is single so you
should say is a door this is a door and
you can start this whole conversation by
saying actually i think you'll find that
and that will be a very polite way to
say it so i'm going to write for you
here
polite way
let's look at the third phrase here both
of these are very polite ways
the third phrase here i'm afraid you're
mistaken
the moment we talk about mistake
the situation changes if you're pointing
at someone's mistake you're being a
little bit more
strong in the way you're speaking but
you're not harsh don't worry sometimes
it's important to point to someone's
mistake
so here i'm afraid you're mistaken is
slightly more strong
let's imagine a situation
you
overheard
two people talking over here means the
two people are talking and you heard
what they are speaking you're listening
to what they are speaking which is
actually not considered very good
manners but sometimes we are in a
situation like that whether we just hear
what the other people are speaking and
it's not by we're not intentionally
hearing it it just happens
so if you heard two people talking
um a and b
they're talking about who's the founder
of
microsoft
and one of them says it's steve jobs and
the other one's like okay
you surely would know who is the founder
of you may know who's the founder of
microsoft you might just tell him
i'm afraid sorry to interrupt i'm afraid
you're mistaken the founder of microsoft
is not steve jobs it's
um
who's that bill gates yes
the next one i don't think you're right
about
this is also a slightly strong statement
i don't think you're right about
something
um
here also
uh what you're actually talking about is
facts something basically based on
general knowledge
and here also you can use the same
phrase in the same situation you can
tell that person i'm afraid you're
mistaken or you could tell them i don't
think you're right about the founder of
microsoft right
these two are slightly strong statements
slightly not very strong they are not so
harsh it's fine
no you've got it wrong
if you say it like no you've got it
wrong then it's very rude but if you say
no you've got it wrong
that's a pleasant way of saying the same
thing so if you're at all planning to
use this statement then i suggest you
say it in a slightly softer tone of
voice
uh where would you get to hear this
statement maybe in a classroom a teacher
talking to a student maybe the student
comes to the teacher with an answer
and the teacher says
no you've got it wrong or maybe a child
going to her father with a math problem
she solved it and she's showing her
father daddy this is the problem that
have solved so the daddy might just
reply
no you've got it wrong the correct
answer will be
whatever it is
the next one here
if you check your facts you'll find that
facts
mean something which is true for all
everyone knows about it it's common for
all the sun rises from the east is a
fact
and it cannot change so you can also use
this in a similar situation where you
know we are talking about the population
of china
if you check your facts you will find
that china is the most
populated country in the world we're
talking about a topic of general
knowledge so that's where you can use it
it's a fact which cannot change
may change in the future though
some other countries are coming up
where did you hear that
do you think that is uh very polite i i
don't think so that's not a very polite
statement unless you're talking to your
best friend or someone very close to you
maybe your sister or your brother if you
tell them where did you hear that it's
quite normal but if you tell that to a
person you don't know too well then it
might come out as a very rude reaction
so
your friend tells you maybe you know you
love drinking coffee and you drink it
many times a day and one fine day your
friend sees you drinking coffee and
she's like
uh come on man it's not such a good idea
coffee is not so very good for health
and you reply to her where did you hear
that
that could be a bit insulting a bit
insulting she might feel bad about it so
you have to be careful about the people
that you're using it with
so these ones
these three
uh this one
is slightly rude
and insulting
you're talking rubbish
absolutely rubbish did you see me in the
beginning of the video saying that and
how did you feel when i started the
video like that i'm sure you didn't feel
very good about it and it was like
what's wrong with her more like that so
if you say that to somebody you're
talking rubbish
it's very very rude and for any one of
you who does not know the meaning of
rubbish rubbish means garbage
or dirt
useless things otherwise something that
is not useful something that you throw
away so what you're saying is that what
you're talking is absolutely useless and
that's a very rude statement so i
suggest that you never never use this
kindly refrain from the use of this
statement
no
no that's all wrong
that's also quite rude also depends on
the tone of your voice so
i would suggest that you refrain from
using these three the last three
tones sorry sentences including where
did you hear that because that's
insulting
you're in for a treat
because you stayed till the end in this
video i'm going to share some golden
rules with you for correction how should
you correct somebody
here
private
so it's really good if you correct
somebody privately that means in a
personal space where it's only you and
that person and nobody else it's a much
better way
and in case you're in a classroom and
you have a lot of people or sorry
children or maybe adults sitting in
front of you and you're giving a class
and you know that somebody has made an
error i suggest that you don't correct
them at that time you correct them after
the class and if you need to correct
them
in the class then do it anonymously that
means do not name them do not say that
this person said this just make a
correction do not name the person that
will save the embarrassment for that
person
gentle please be soft and kind while
your correction make sure you say i'm
sorry i'm afraid i'm
very sorry that you're mistaken things
like these it's good to apologize before
correcting if at all you're going to
correct
explanatory
uh you should give a reason
why you're correcting and also what is
the correct answer that's what
explanatory means
and you should also remember that the
person who is corrected
should come back and thank you and not
instead tell you that you should not
have corrected me like that so it's
better if they come back and tell you
thank you for correcting me i'll never
make that mistake again so ask yourself
that that question before you're
correcting them
thank you so much i hope this really
helps you now please if at all you want
to be a little critical be uh
do some polite criticism and not harsh
criticism with anyone
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