Men Confess Why They Find Older Women Irresistible
High school sweethearts whose first love became their only one.
A knight in shining armor on a white horse who came to rescue his princess.
For many years, literature and movies have made us believe that a typical happy couple
is comprised of a younger woman with an older man.
However, according to the EliteSingles website study of 450,000 happy daters, men aged 20
to 29 prefer older women these days.
Let’s see what makes them so happy together!
9.
Older women know exactly what they want.
“I don’t want to tell you what I want because I want you to guess what I want.”
How many young ladies are guilty of saying something similarly impossible for male logic
to decipher?
So, not surprisingly, what attracts some men to an older woman is her clear focus.
She has a strong idea of what she wants and focuses her energy on reaching bigger goals.
Younger ladies often enjoy the drama and don’t mind adding some to their relationship to
spice it up a bit.
Older women tend to care more about improving their own lives and the lives of their loved
ones.
Men are really happy that there will be no need to play guessing games and they can be
straight-up in a relationship.
8.
They know more about life and can help you grow.
Even if some of them like to deny it, men don’t mind learning from their woman.
In fact, many of them see maturity and experience in life, dating, careers, and relationships
as an advantage — even though it’s contrary to the more traditional model where a man
is supposed to be the more established one.
This was the conclusion of a 2006 study from the University of Maine research team that
interviewed 8 couples where the wife was 10 to 17 years older than her husband.
Older women can offer their perspective on many issues, and their rich life experience
can actually help the man grow and become more mature at many levels.
A mature woman can often see her man in a way that he cannot see himself.
She shows him what kind of a man he is and motivates him to achieve bigger goals.
This study found that many men see a woman with life experience, maturity, and an established
career as an advantage, which differs from the traditional thinking that the man is supposed
to be the one who is more established and making more money.
7.
They are confident and financially stable.
Most younger ladies are still seeking attention and approval from the public.
An older woman is comfortable in her own skin and doesn’t need to prove herself to anyone!
She feels comfortable in the world.
Her confidence and the way she carries herself is so magnetic that it’s really hard to
resist.
Another thing that adds to her confidence is financial stability.
Life coach, psychologist, author, and speaker Sam Owen explains this is an important factor
in modern society.
While the old views of men and women used to tell us that the man should be the primary
breadwinner, gender roles are pretty different today, and there’s more equality between
the sexes.
Guys also want financial security no matter how young or old they are.
And they don’t always like women who expect them to cover all their needs, at least right
from the start.
Most older women have a well-established career, money in a retirement fund, and a strong sense
of financial responsibility when paying their bills.
Indeed, a lady that successfully juggles a career, housekeeping, fitness, finances, and
socializing can be not only a secure partner but a role model for a younger man.
6.
They are more emotionally mature.
Older women have more life experience, and they have often been through a lot more in
their lives.
They have mastered the art of keeping calm and carrying on, so they don’t overreact
and can control their emotions and behavior.
But this doesn’t mean they are boring and don’t know what fun means!
In most cases, they are just as playful and childish inside as younger ladies.
They love to chat, and they have a great time with their partners.
Hugh Jackman, who is 50, recently proved this in an Instagram ode to his wife, Deborra-Lee
Furness, who is 13 years older than him.
“Happy birthday to my smart, sassy, sexy bride.
I love you with my entire heart,” said the caption.
He also praised her for creating the charity organization Hopeland.
5.
They have refined tastes.
You know how they say that opposites attract?
Well, it’s true for many young men who love the sense of calm that older women have.
The reckless energy of younger girls is adorable and tempting, but it’s not something all
men look for in a partner for life.
Many of them prefer a slower and more peaceful lifestyle that’s relaxing and calm.
Many older women prefer quieter hobbies like gardening, crafting, and painting or spending
nights at a chill place like a jazz bar instead of doing a hyper-stimulating activity.
Many of them have a classy style that younger ladies are still working toward.
Plus, it takes a truly smart and mature woman to be able to support her husband in whatever
he does.
Take Brigitte Macron, for example.
The wife of French President Emmanuel Macron is 25 years older than him.
Her main interests are literature and education, but she is also no stranger to the Paris fashion
scene.
She has an impeccable sense of style, and French fashion magazines praise her “cool
attitude” and “wonder woman” look.
During campaign speeches, she mentioned how she’s “been involved in everything at
his side for 20 years” (speaking of her husband).
That’s the kind of support no man would refuse!
4.
They are intellectual conversationalists.
Going out and partying together is definitely fun, but when the party period is over and
you move in together, there comes the time for dinners at home.
And it’s really awesome when those are accompanied by meaningful conversations.
The same is true for dinners with colleagues and family friends.
Most older women are mature and excellent conversationalists.
Their life experience allows them to understand the world on a deeper level.
Older, educated women are smart and able to maintain a deep conversation about almost
any topic: the environment, politics and the community, travel, media, and so on.
They have their own opinion about everything, and this is what makes them attractive to
men.
Shakira, the 42-year-old singer, might have seemed playful and even provocative in her
early career, but she’s reported to have an IQ of 140.
There are many issues she cares about, including world cultures and languages.
She speaks Spanish, English, and Portuguese fluently and can also support a conversation
in French, Italian, Catalan, and Arabic.
That, in addition to her successful musical career, sure makes her a great partner for
Gerard Piqué, an FC Barcelona player, who is 10 years younger than her.
3.
Children have left the nest.
This may sound harsh, but not every man wants the responsibility of raising children.
Most older women have grown-up children who don’t live with them anymore.
This allows a man and his lady to concentrate on each other and give their fullest to their
partner.
It might sound selfish, but some men prefer to have a woman’s attention all to themselves
without having to split it with her children.
2.
They can give them motherly care.
They might deny it, but some men seek out mature women because they love it when someone
takes care of them.
It’s not about solving all their problems for them, of course.
It is about providing the mental and emotional support that an older woman can give her man.
An older woman who’s raised her own kids (or never had them but wants to feel like
a mom at times) will gladly do this to a reasonable extent.
According to Dr. Michael Kimmel, a boy’s relationship with his mom greatly affects
how he will deal with women when he grows into an adult.
And a 2018 study in Finland that involved 70 married men and women concluded that men
are highly likely to find a woman who is like their mom in different ways.
Dr. Urszula Marcinkowska says that there’s actually “nothing unnatural about men being
attracted to women who resemble their mothers.”
1.
They are mostly good at cooking.
You’re going to love this one if you have a healthy appetite!
Most older women have mastered the art of cooking and can whip up anything from scratch
— and it will almost always be super delicious!
Younger ladies generally cook less and prefer eating out or ordering food delivery; many
older women still like cooking for their man.
They also appreciate good, wholesome dining together with family.
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