I'm gonna go through some analysis in this video.
Hey there, I'm Rebecca Zung.
I'm an attorney.
I’m also a narcissist negotiation expert
and I've been seeing some interviews coming out lately
and I wanted to give you my thoughts on this whole situation.
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So I've been seeing a whole bunch of videos come out.
Interviews come out when it comes to Bill Gates
and it just has been something that
I wanted to weigh in because I'm seeing a pattern,
and I see the so often when it comes to people
who tend to have these
big personalities, narcissistic types of personalities.
You know what happens is,
they get, really, really full of themselves.
They think they've got everything.
They feel on top of the world.
They feel like they can do whatever the hell they want.
Then their world kind of comes crashing down and they realize,
“Oh, you know what? I can't do whatever it is that I want”
and then they realize that maybe they wanted it the way that it was,
but they can't get that back anymore
and then they regret
and I'm seeing some regret going on here in Bill Gates
and it's happening.
You're seeing this coming out in these interviews lately,
and it's just so common.
It's just so common.
It's all strata and here we have this massive, huge billionaire
but it's too late, too bad.
Too bad. So sad.
You know, Melinda has moved on
but here's what I've been seeing lately and you know,
it's playing out in the news.
Last year, this big huge divorce was announced
and everybody was so shocked by it
because they seem to have this great marriage.
They were together on all of these things.
They were doing these great things for the world.
They had their Foundation.
They were going to Africa and had
built thislife together.
They had these kids
and it was announced that they were going to be getting a divorce
and here it comes out.
All this news that he, of course,
had been unfaithful, right?
So she does this interview,
not that long ago with Gayle King
where she says,
“I couldn't trust what we had.”
By the way, I did some videos
on the whole Bill Gates divorce,
which you can definitely check out.
I recommend that you go back
and watch but she does some interviews
recently where she's talking about
“I couldn't trust what we had”
and you know,
she's taking the high road for the most part.
I mean, you know, she's saying I couldn't trust
what we had and Gayle’s
pressing her for some details on certain things,
you know details about the fact that he was unfaithful.
Ask specifically about liaisons and ties with Jeffrey Epstein.
She said I'm going to have
you ask him more specifically about that.
But she does go on to say,
“I didn't like the guy.”
“I didn't like them from the time that I met him.”
“He seemed pretty creepy to me.”
He ended up talking to the guy and having a relationship with him anyway,
so that's that.
But I told him how I felt about him.
Um, and yeah, that was a problem for me.
But, you know, beyond that, you can ask Bill what I thought about him,
but she said I could just couldn't trust what we had
and by the way, I have it often said that
I believe that the three A’s
are the three deadly sins of marriage.
Abuse, addiction and adultery.
Clearly they had adultery here.
I don't believe they hadn’t.
Now to abuse.
I don't believe they had addiction.
I've never heard anything about that,
but adultery, you know when,
you attack the Integrity of the foundation of a relationship.
It just doesn't usually end well,
you know, so she and she was saying,
I couldn't trust what we had and she said,
you know, were friendly now.
She wouldn't characterize them as friends.
Well, you know, what else can you expect when you
don't have trust with each other anymore?
Right?
You know, she said they're working
together with the foundation.
They have the three kids together.
But of course,
he's coming out saying
“Oh, you know, I'd marry her all over again.”
He seems wistful.
He seems regretful.
He does, you know, he's in these interviews now
talking about how
geez, you know, he seems to regret his behavior.
I've seen him in a few interviews,
talking about how it seems like he wishes that
“I wish I wouldn't have acted the way I had”
and he is talking a bout how he wishes
he hadn't spent as much time with Jeffrey Epstein.
He regrets his relationship with him.
He regrets not having taken Melinda's advice.
He did say in a recent interview
that he was trying to raise money for his some of his Charities
and that's why he continued to spend time
with him and he wishes that he had taken Melinda's advice.
But, you know, one of the things that I thought was telling is
that somebody said to him,
“how do you feel when you hear
things like Melinda was on the floor crying
and that she was an emotional wreck”
and he responds by saying things, like
“we're not married anymore and we've all pivoted.”
and he doesn't really addressed that.
It's like, he's not a guy who's in touch with emotions,
you know, he's a guy who wants to talk about
pandemics and germs and science and that sort of thing.
He's clearly very uncomfortable talking about emotions
and that he caused pain and things like that.
You know, he'll say it was a sad event
and you know, I'm sorry I caused
pain and I feel terrible about that.
But when he's asked questions,
like what have you learned about yourself,
you know when it comes to questions like personal matters,
he's a very hard time answering those questions.
She on the other hand has moved on and,
you know, I think that in some ways,
it is probably going to be the
best thing that ever happened to her.
She's talking about dating and that
she's open to that and she's open to
having a new relationship.
I think, in a lot of ways for her,
It may end up being the best thing
that ever happened to her.
For him, I think it is going to be
the biggest thing that he regrets.
I think, I think it will be something that
he ends up definitely regretting
and I think he will end up realizing
how much he lost in this whole situation.
You know, I think he will end up saying
“You never really realize what you had until it's gone”
kind of a thing.
So do I think that he regrets the divorce?
Absolutely.
I do.
I think that he thought that he could definitely
have his cake and eat it too.
So I think it happens a lot of times with these guys,
I think that they are on top of the world.
They live this big life and they think they're entitled to it all
and he thought that everybody
was supposed to look the other
way because he was Bill Gates
and Melinda thought,
Yeah, but no.
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