Tripp Kramer here from www.trippadvice.com.
On today's video, what we're gonna be going over is what it takes to seduce or attract
a woman from text message to then on the phone.
My methodology is all about making sure you get in front of the person, the girl as soon
as possible.
You want to be able to attract a woman in person.
That's where it makes the most difference.
Also, that's where it works the best because we have evolved to become attracted to someone
in person, not necessarily from reading text messages or even hearing someone's voice over
the phone.
But I understand that there are some times like now where we can't necessarily meet someone
in person.
Or maybe a date is set so far out so then what are you supposed to do?
Do nothing?
No, getting on the phone might not be the worst idea.
How do you do this?
How do you make this practical and how do you make it work for you?
That's what we're gonna be going over on today's video.
What we're gonna be doing is going over and using my TED system.
And that is my system for getting a woman attracted to you and understanding how a woman
becomes attracted to you.
And that's what you're going to use when you are talking to her on the phone.
Now my TED system goes really deep and I talk more about how that works in my Hooked program,
which you can check out at www.getherhooked.com.
I'll put a link down in the description below so you can check that out.
Basically what you'll be doing is using this when you're going and talking to her on the
phone, but understand that this is still something that is normally used when you're in person.
That's when you're going to be using it the most because that's where it's the most effective,
in person.
But again it can still work here on the phone.
For texting you don't want to be seducing her over text.
You don't want to be trying to be funny and clever over text.
You can a little bit but you're not going to be using texting to do that.
Instead, you're going to be using texting as the vessel to then get them on the phone.
Texting is just your tool to text or to set up the phone date.
Very similar to as if you were setting up a date in person.
What are you gonna be doing?
You're going to be using texting.
You're going to text them to find a time to talk.
Don't think that you're gonna be doing all of this work and all this clever stuff over
text message.
Don't waste your time, way more effective of course in person, but in this case, more
effective over the phone then it would be over text.
We use text to get her to get on the phone with you.
What I would do is if you're texting her, if you got her number, I'm assuming maybe
you probably got her number offline.
When I say offline, I mean online.
You got it off of online.
You got it when you were on an app.
You got it from a site and in that rare case where you didn't meet her in person, great.
You can now use this phone number to text her, say a quick hello and say hey, why don't
you and I set up a time to talk?
You can even use the word phone date if you like.
It's kinda funny.
Like hey, let's do a phone date.
When are you free next?
Very simple.
When are you free next?
If you got her number, she should be interested in you.
She should be interested in getting on the phone with you.
If she's not at that point, maybe a few more text messages, but let her lead the way.
If a girl can't get on the phone with you because well either she's not attracted to
you or she's just nervous on the phone.
She doesn't feel comfortable over the phone.
To me, that's a red flag.
I mean, what are you gonna do?
If you're not comfortable the phone, you're gonna be more comfortable in person?
I think most women will be comfortable over the phone and if they're not going to agree
to it, that just means they're probably not interested in the first place.
At this point, don't just keep on texting her and texting her all day long to get her
more comfortable with you.
If she's not comfortable yet, it's probably not gonna happen.
So text her, get her on the phone, set up the time to do it.
Be very specific with it.
And once you're on the phone, now we can dip into the TED system.
First we're going to look at tension.
I want you to understand that when we're using the TED system, this is not about going from
T to E to D. T stands for tension, E stands for entertainment and D stands for dominance.
It's not about first you do T, then you do E, and then you do D. That's not how it is.
It doesn't go in a circular motion.
What it is, is you're going to be doing all three at once.
You're going back and forth between all of them so it's all happening at once.
I know that may sound confusing, but when I dig a little bit deeper, it's going to make
sense.
But at first you have to understand that it's not step one, step two, step three, it's all
intertwined and braided and happening all at the same time.
For example, for tension, this is just one way of building tension over the phone is
using your voice.
And I don't mean talking in a seductive sexy way.
That's not what we're talking about.
What I mean is you're going to be displaying your masculine traits.
One of the best ways to do that and create more tension, and tension is being able to
express your masculinity and her to be like wow, he's masculine and that can basically
come to a point of creating attraction, a good way to do that is with your voice by
using what's called a downward tonality.
In the way I'm talking to you right now.
At the end of my sentence, it goes downward.
It doesn't go up like this.
I'm not saying hey, maybe you should use tension.
No, I'm saying you should use tension, tension.
Not tension.
See how it goes up and down?
You want to go down.
Don't worry about this necessarily batting 100%.
Just do your best but talking to her in more of a commanding tone.
I don't mean you're gonna be yelling at her and commanding her like this.
You'll be talking like this, talking down.
It comes down.
The reason why you do that is because when you're trying to talk to someone and it goes
up like this, it's like you're seeking rapport.
It's like you're unsure of yourself, like you're trying to get her to like you and you're
kind of nervous and your voice goes up.
It's much more dominant and masculine when it's being talked to like this, in the way
that I talk to you when I'm doing videos.
That's one way to build tension.
Again more in my Hooked program.
There's a link in the description down below.
Get Her Hooked dot com.
Where we can learn more about tension and how to use it.
But let's start with that for now.
Next is entertainment.
Entertainment, which is my version of self amusement or amusing the self instead of amusing
her.
I don't mean get on the phone with her and talk to her and try to entertain her and tell
her stories and tell jokes.
No, it's more about having fun.
Entertaining yourself.
Entertaining yourself is talking about the things that you want to talk about.
You're having fun, you're cracking jokes that make you laugh.
It's about self amusing.
What are the things that are interesting to you?
What are the things that you enjoy.
What amuses you?
You might not know that right now.
You might have to get on the phone or go on dates to figure that out because you're gonna
have to practice that.
You're gonna figure out what makes you have fun conversation.
What are the conversation topics that you like to talk about?
I just make sure that if I'm ever talking to someone that I'm enjoying the conversation
by just diving into things that I want to talk about and the questions that I have.
So whatever questions I want to ask or the topics that I want to dive into.
What's interesting to you at the time?
What's something that you just learned?
What's something that you're watching?
What's going on in your life?
What do you want to share?
A lot of people who are nervous and unconfident are not able to do that.
Instead, they try to get the woman to be entertained, but understand that when you're entertaining
yourself and having a good time, she'll be entertained.
You're killing two birds with one stone.
You're entertaining her because you're entertaining yourself.
You're making her feel more connected to you.
Plus you're not trying to show that you're just desperate and needy and trying to show
off or try to impress her.
This is the opposite of that which is much more powerful.
Next in the list is dominance.
This is something that you've already done.
If you're on the phone, you're the one who was dominant because you lead the interaction.
You got her on the phone, you're the one who probably got her number so you've already
been doing this a little bit.
You've already been leading the interaction, you got her phone number, you got her on the
phone, and I want you to keep on doing that.
You're going to continue to lead the interaction from on the phone to then you're going to
be the one to end the phone call, then you're going to be the one to maybe talk again in
another week or another couple days.
Then maybe you're going to move to video chat so you guys can connect even deeper because
then you can see each other.
And then after that you're going to be making sure that you're leading the interaction and
seeding date ideas for when you guys can finally be in person.
You should be the one getting excited about the things that you will do together when
you're finally in person with each other.
Make sure that you're the one seeding these those ideas and keeping up with the fact that
you will eventually meet in person.
Otherwise, you're just gonna have a phone buddy and that's not the goal here.
Tension, entertainment, dominance.
Interweaving throughout the whole thing, making sure you're having breaking rapport tonality
like this.
You're entertaining yourself and talking about the things that are exciting and interesting
to you.
Being dominant by leading the interaction the entire time on the phone, off the phone,
and to the date.
More is described in terms of how TED works in the Hooked program at www.getherhooked.com
so you can learn more about that.
Then eventually, when you're in person, you're going to have the optimal chances of really
showing off the best version of yourself.
The most attractive version of yourself using TED.
I want you to check out this program so you can really have the tools that it takes to
be able to get women attracted to you and who you are when you're finally in person.
Remember, texting is only to get them on the phone or on the date.
And the phone is only to get to know each other and connect so eventually when you do
see each other, you already have a little bit of attraction going and you've had some
time where you guys can get to know each other so there's not a big gap in between getting
the number and then finally getting in person.