Hello everybody how you doing this is your coach and your friend robert brawler one minute
with a coach the coaching industry is projected to be worth 22 billion dollars by 2022.
it's one of the world's fastest growing
are not our industries gurus are not new but in modern times it's grown to include the practical
and the unconventional now the business and lifestyle coaching industry has a lucrative
edition love what are you waiting for the secret is start now and more and more single
people than ever are paying for advice to find love but are we just chasing a dream
or is it really possible to buy love and happiness i am your coaching friend robert
robert how are you doing hi hey how are you should we do the uh robert is one of kenya's
most popular life and love coaches he invited me to a day retreat he was hosting for women
looking for a husband what do you think the women are hoping to get from this course first
and foremost they want to meet somebody who will be with them and they can live happily ever after
but some are also broken and they want answers and you're hoping to fix them yes the question
is somebody would say but i think i have what it takes i have a good job and this and that but how
comes it doesn't happen for me so you're going to give them kind of hard empirical advice yes to get
the guy right absolutely because some are making crazy mistakes so as much as we'll speak politely
my relationship angle of my business is called the naked truth we'll also tell them some hard
jane will be attending the course she's 32 years old and a single mom who works at a call center
she's also a part-time local model what if you learn nothing from it
what if you don't get to meet a guy at the end of this would it feel like it's a way
no okay it wouldn't feel like a waste because even if you don't get someone at
least you'll hear something that you remember from the rest of your life
according to the global coaching federation and industry body dating and lifestyle coaches have
doubled in popularity and worth since 2015. a boom from an ever expanding online audience
robert beraley is very aware of the power of his brand this is what we call the bachelor
banner the huge one that we put on stage it's also brand positioning brand visibility but
why black you ask what luck power what does this brand say for women
well first and foremost this color is very acceptable to the women okay
pink is acceptable and that's why we've used my name in pink so that they can trust me not much
mary will also be attending robert bareilles course she's 35 and the oldest of five sisters
everyone else around you would expect you being the first one in your family use you
the one who is supposed to be married fast most pressure comes from the family your parents your
grandparents your uncles aunties they do they don't even know if they have ever had a boyfriend
yeah so you're hoping that this is the answer to finding a husband uh i would
say a 50 50 maybe no i wouldn't give it a hundred percent it's worth a try i would say
at the top end of this billion dollar industry matthew hussey is one of the
global stars who's amassed millions of followers across his social media
he's based in the us where the lifestyle coaching industry is the largest in the world hello hello
matthew how are you i'm good looking at one of his lifestyle coaching retreats
could cost several thousand dollars for you what would success look like you know if someone
approaches me on the street and says i'm married because of you that's great if that's what you
wanted and that's what you got that's amazing but by the way i also want to make sure that
you're you know through my work you're just as happy if you didn't find that i'm just as happy as
for the breakups that i've been responsible for as i am the relationships i've been responsible for
do you ever feel pressure that you're you might be selling some vulnerable women a dream
i don't think i am selling a dream i i i for me i'm definitely selling vulnerable people
but i count myself as one of them if vulnerable is defined by someone who's willing to ask for help
or someone who's got something that they want to solve in their life and is brave enough to
to try to solve it then that's my audience but if someone comes to me for dating advice
i want to help them be happy whether it works or not because it's not always going to work
back in kenya it's the big day some women have come from over a hundred miles away to attend
robert bareilly's event well thank you very much for coming so today we will talk to you
ladies on matters relationships some of you may realize you have been single not
because the men are not there but you have been single because of your own mistakes
the day starts with a series of speakers including shasmine when bharali asked me shasman we have
women that have been through so much in life i want you to come and talk to them i lived with
my husband for five years in a very emotionally verbally physically abusive relationship and
during that time i started to learn who i was and so after leaving my husband after these five years
i divorced him and then we began dating again yes we began dating again and he turned around
and sort of came back home to the essence of who he was as a man not who he thought he should be
but we never ever realize sometimes we come in broken and we're hoping somebody else would fix us
but in my journey i found shasmyn's story of returning to a partner who had physically and
mentally abused her concerning so i wanted to discuss it further with robert so we've
had a series of speakers this morning what did you think about our first speaker who came on
shasmin is a speaker extraordinaire but she was speaking on stage with her former abuser just
sitting over there and you know what there's the power of her story she was lucky enough to get out
and come back in sadly some never get out and if they get out it's through a coffin right so this
is the power of her story we can never take it away from her story from her but the one thing i
was very impressed about and i was very careful to listen she did not come out to tell people go back
the second half of the day was the main event the man himself
are you ready for this i want to tell you some of the mistakes you make
bharali pulls women onto the stage to ask them why they felt the need for the course
how is everyone mary starts what is this that you can tell us the ladies and anybody who is watching
that would help them based on your own story so i dated someone back in 2012. it was very hot
when i say hot is hot six pack good looking everything after that three months communication
went poof dead so when i called him to inquire what was happening this guy told me you know what
my lifestyle has changed my class has changed what what would that tell you as a woman
made you feel lower very low that guy lord like my self-esteem to appoint that sometimes
and i hope you understand that those words are not meant for you because they are not true of you
but it is somebody who wants to bring you down to their level
i appreciate her please jane had appeared to really embrace the day's speakers and when it
was her turn to take to the stage she clearly had something on her mind that she wanted to share
i've known robert for quite some time but i don't know whether he knows this but now because i
have the opportunity let me confess something there's a time i wanted to commit suicide and
he had a facebook live he was talking about being on the ashes so i was watching the
episode with my daughter we were in bed in the middle of that facebook live we fell asleep and
the next morning
i didn't know where to begin i was like oh my god i'm alive so i took the drugs and threw them away
so i prepared myself to go to work and i prepared my daughter to go to school
if you see me crying it's not because i'm broken it's because i'm a strong woman
continue encouraging people robert because you don't know
you're saving lives out there with or without your knowledge
thank you very much let's appreciate it please
all right thank you um where is mr abbey we need the sanitizer please
i wanted to check in with jane after the event she seemed to have gone into barali's event
looking for tricks on how to meet a guy but the day appeared to make her confront a lot more
yesterday after the function i came and gave her a notebook and she wrote something for me like she
was just telling me mommy you're beautiful you're a great woman i love you just go to bed and relax
i don't know it just made me feel good it made me feel like i'm the best it made me feel at
ease it made me feel at peace with myself yeah and to know that she appreciates me
that made me feel like a super woman yeah
There are no guarantees offered when signing up for this kind of a course but maybe it's
not actually about the guarantee of love that people are signing up for perhaps it's to stop the
feeling of helplessness waiting for love to arrive feel secure in who you are or maybe even to stop
looking all together so what have you learned from that course though how are you going to
approach things differently what actually the most important take out from that course was that um
just be happy make yourself happy love yourself fast before you give love out there give it to
yourself fully don't panic there's still time there is still time so i also am still young