Do you consider yourself a little introverted? When the weekend rolls
around and everyone seems raring to go are you little less than excited to go to that
soiree?
Well in this video today I'm going to teach you how to use that analytical nature to
your advantage.
I'm Barron Cruz and welcome to the charisma matrix!
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Introverted people oftentimes find themselves in their head
in social situations. Say they're at a party at the end of the weekend
as opposed to being in the moment that enjoying the interactions,
they're thinking what is this person thinking? What's that person thinking over
there?
If I go over there and say hello what are they gonna think and are they gonna see
me?
These are all very negative things happening in your head in a social
situation you want to be fluid you want other people to be reacting to you
but that's much easier said than done we have a low level things I anytime your
social situation you're not actually going to be drawn
into your head thinking in making assumptions most of time which are
grossly inaccurate
about everyone else who makes up the environment so hot on combat this
all we need to do is we need to use the fact
you oftentimes go in your head look for reference point to try to decide how you
predict other people were act
to your favor so we need to create and
imager yourself in the social environments
that is much more accurate maybe even own little bit
all overly in your favor as opposed to what you probably currently have which
is
not in your favor which is inaccurate to your detriment
having a selective blind spot
means that you acknowledged your perception or reality
is not correct however you understand that by having this
inaccurate perception it actually working to your favor
in helping you what we want to do is we want to create a perception of yourself
in your brain and your subconscious there is much more geared to reality
and maybe even a little more grandiose and
and beneficial than it actually is because this is gonna be a select a
blind spot that's gonna help us in social situations
now this may sound a little bit strange legal actually want to happen accurate
perception myself in
reality in social situations or understand
right now you likely have a very inaccurate perception and it's going to
your detriment
you think that you are not nearly as charismatic urs social
or people are saying bad things about you then what really is going on
so we at least when it gets you to what is accurate morality
and even better let's get you a little bit over the top so you have a really
nice
salt image and it's gonna be a self-fulfilling prophecy to some point
so how do we do this we need to take advantage of the fact that our brain
locks everything we do and how people treat us
and it compiles its constantly doing this
that's why I was talk about competent competence is very fluid
ebbs and flows with the reaction from the environment but we also know
that your brain your subconscious remembers things a lot more when you're
in a heightened emotional level
and when things are reinforced you often hear incantations are
you know dole smiley Sarah Live skit people like me people like me
well that doesn't work but when you're in heightened emotional state
and you present your brain repeatedly positive reactions from the environment
were actually able to use that kinda strange thing that our brain does to our
advantage
hijack it and kinda hackett to build up a better perception
in self-esteem in yourself then you naturally would just by getting these
reactions environment
so how we gonna do this okay so let's say you are
you get a positive reaction from something inside you're walking you talk
someone you crack a joke in May
lack so we could use what's your actions over
you can stop and you respect yourself play it back in your head
man that was funny I said I got a great reaction
who can't do that you can just got some on the street
and say something and have a laugh in men got people really do think I'm cool
that was great how many people could do that
you work in yourself up in an emotional state in a positive way
and you're playing back in your head is positive reaction
many many times in a short while thirty second burst so what it's gonna do
is that going to supercharge like crap for your brain
in and get a magnet by the way your subconscious picks up on that little
interaction so
whereas maybe would take 10 interactions like that
your brains are saying yeah I'm and you're actually you
started get pretty good maybe you're proving you should talk to more people
but I just completely reiterating that over and over as you get more excited
about it may end up
how many people could do that as well straight I don't even know what they are
great reaction may exert this is her to come along well
by doing that it's good you know how many times I don't know the actual data
but
maybe five to ten times impacting so it's gonna really speed that up
so now you find yourself every time you get a POS reaction you're doing that
is gonna greatly speed up and reduce the amount of time it takes for your brain
to have that positive reinforcement now you're also going to do this
in the actual party this year at click here to get your brain
in a situational comedy is moot because
everyone has a certain level competent omitted cert virus they're very topic
your their family
you're so you know your on your basketball player basketball court
so what we gonna do is we want to get that basic level of competence
from your various situations reinforcing things
but also we were taller break we're here now ever competent you now
to the first time you go to are you you're getting some
some pot use a manager to come in and I just fly and he says yeah actually flew
in phnom
on United the plane's delayed 30 minutes 30 minutes now it is that's a blessing
I his lap and snow you thinkin yeah
as good as place is nice to be a girl congrats almost looked really good
tonight
I'm feeling really good get your subconscious once again
on that crack know you're good but but magnifying get through
running over and over your brain so now you can be more common
after that first positive real re et reiteration
what happened so you're gonna find your brain being an introvert could possibly
going in and
analyze you know how my guest actor were part of his person maybe they're looking
at me funny
but the minute that you tell your brain that you know
you are part people are probably looking positive you're gonna be able to use the
introverted missed your damage because now
will you check in with your brain and your assessing what's going on
and you're predicting what people are saying it can be predicting through a
very positive light
so now as opposed to check you really don't like Peter sense that your brain
San
the problem would love you wonder that say hello private a really positive
reaction
and now when you walk over there he say hey I'm bear how you doing
nothing to say we are anticipating a positive reaction
so they're gonna not obviously I'm a big power to stop telling prophecies
the typical these pics they're gonna think they're gonna subconsciously
because Guiseley personally I was expecting a good reaction
by some guy wanna be cool with price and i wanna talk to you and it just gets no
one so they're gonna go to
first-person they're gonna have all these things going on there had their
gonna project is positive attributes on you
after first getting her actually went up once again you to play it back you're
not too hard in a week or
they want to talk to me seem like they wish to hang around there all night
snowball in your head now you're just gonna be on this massive hi
your subconscious is gonna be has his picture you now in this environment the
situational competence
the you can go up to anyone and it's gonna be so my props in USC at this
point
just how much social momentum is impacting just how much that situational
competences
once you're comfortable in an environment I really hope these things
help bob you've seen a whole people many many times
especially people who were interviewed introverted and often times for shoddy
and social environment I know how difficult
I can be no kind of crippling it can be because often times you will have to be
in social environments are
the people you're with really want us to be a social environment
and we feel like it's such a pain in such a burden with a performer people
won't like us
it's just a snowballing zaidi so try these things out
I think you're gonna find their effective for anyone whether into heard
or not
but this is really a great way out a great to use that introverted is your
favor
by creating a more true maybe even a little overly optimistic per section
that perception of yourself
in your head