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Why you should stay single?
Also known as
I don't recommend you get in a relationship
unless there is an unless,
let's get into it.
Welcome to just the tip.
Okay, so if you're like most men today
or at least, a lot of men
I don't recommend
you get in a relationship.
Wait, what?
Well, it's not because I think
companionship is bad
but the fact is
most guys get into relationships
with the wrong women.
The majority of men
well, too many men
who get into relationships
have really low standards.
They'd rather settle to settle down
but really you're better off single than sorry.
They let their women get away
with all kinds of crap.
I just had a conversation literally yesterday
with a friend who is going through this right now.
They've been together for a while
and she's constantly testing him.
The thing is he's letting her do it.
And a lot of guys
falsely believe
happy wife, happy life.
Nope, that's not how it works.
Because that just means they're going to walk all over you,
sometimes they'll cheat on you.
Or they threaten to leave and you end up
begging them to stay.
But here's the thing,
most men don't even know
what kind of woman they really want.
They think that attraction is enough
or chemistry and connection are bonuses.
Those are standard.
There's other things you need to have
to make sure your relationship
has the potential of succeeding
and attraction, chemistry, and connection
are not enough.
But when you don't know this
you go for the first one
that makes you feel something, something good.
Or the first one that actually
pays attention to you
especially if she's attractive.
This is when men lose their logic,
their logic moves from this head
to the other one
and when that happens
you're not thinking about
what kind of person she is
you're not actually thinking at all.
She might even be selfish,
she might be rude,
she might be batcrap crazy
but some guys stick around
and the reason is because
too many men
value themselves too little.
So they don't stop
to take the time to think
about what would make them happy.
You got to think about what's going to really make you happy
not just what makes her happy.
Her happiness is mostly
her own responsibility.
So, until you start thinking about
what you want you're just going to end up
getting into relationships
with women who know what they want.
Women who will turn out to be bad for you.
And even though you may feel chemistry at the start
soon it turns into drama
and then you get your heart stomped all over.
You have to be the selector
and the first step
to deciding what you do want
is knowing what you definitely don't want.
Make a list check it twice.
Now of course, you can't be so picky
that you limit all your options
because that top tier woman
there's a lot of guys who want her.
So, there's going to be a lot of competition for her.
But that doesn't mean
you can't be happy
with someone who
maybe isn't a 10 in every area
but she's got to be a 10
in the areas that are most important to you.
And when you do find that
particular woman that sweetheart
then you can have a loving
intimate relationship with her.
So remember, attraction isn't enough,
chemistry isn't enough,
connection isn't enough.
If you want a happy long-term relationship
you also need to have compatible
not necessarily exactly the same
but they need to be compatible
values, beliefs, goals.
A little bit on lifestyle
you got to be able to do some things together
and it's really helpful
if you are on the same page with temperament.
If you want me to go into that a little bit more
let me know in the comments
and I might do a specific video on that.
But if you want specific how to
figure it out on your own
and you want to be certain
that you're actually choosing the right things
because a lot of times when you
say oh yeah, I want this, this, and this
and then you get them and you're like
okay, wait a minute, why is it still not working out?
Because those, those, and those
weren't actually what you really needed.
So, if you want to figure that out
then get my WakeUp2Luv program
there's a process
to go through that will help you figure out
what you actually really do want and need
so that you don't keep missing it
when it shows up.
And even if you actually don't want a relationship,
if you don't want a girlfriend
the program will actually help you
have a happier life.
Just skip the module on get the girlfriend.
There are still four other modules
that will improve your life
and make staying single
a whole lot more fulfilling.
Thanks for being here, God bless.
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