- Heya playa, do you wanna know how
to start an interesting conversation
over text with your crush?
There are few simple things
that you need to start putting into practice
if you wanna make that conversation interesting.
I'm gonna share them with you right after this.
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Now right off the bat if you're plan is
to just send a message saying.
Hey what's up?
How's it goin?
How you doin?
Or any of those type of things
you're expecting the other person to carry the conversation.
All you're doing is making the introduction
but you're not setting up a frame of reference
for the two of you to follow.
So what is a frame of reference in a texting conversation?
What does it look like?
Well I think that if you're gonna start engaging
with the person and you want it
to be interesting, you need to already have something
to talk to them about.
You can't just go into the conversation
expecting something to just develop on it's own.
You need to kind of come in, talk about something
that the two of you can both share your opinions on
and you can give your insights on.
That's what's gonna make both
of you feel like you're engaged in it.
For example let's say the two of you share a class together
so you both have to do the same homework,
take the same tests, deal with the same teacher.
You might wanna start that conversation
by making a joke about the teacher
or saying that homework sucks
and ask them if they did it yet.
Having that kind of base line
where the two of you can connect over something
is gonna probably get a response from them.
But you don't wanna just leave it there.
That's the problem that most people make.
They start a conversation on something
that's really just mildly interesting
and then they just keep beating home that topic.
You keep talking about that subject of school
and homework and things like that
without really transitioning
into something more fun to talk about.
And that's really the key
to starting an interesting conversation.
Your lead in should always be something simple,
something that you know they can give you an answer on.
But then from there you don't wanna leave it there,
you wanna transition into stuff
that's a little bit more personal.
So if you're taking the homework example
which is a very very simple straight forward kind
of question, you could always then lead
into something a little bit more personal.
Start to tell them about your day.
The things you like to do for fun.
The things that are not homework
and then you can ask them what they like to do for fun.
One thing I've learned over the years
is that sharing your opinion helps create a situation
where they either agree with you or disagree with you
and either outcome is a good one.
So for example if they agree with you on something,
something that you like,
boom you guys have something to talk about.
You can engage in that conversation
but if they disagree with you
that also creates an opportunity for conversation.
You could talk about why you like it.
They could say why they don't like it.
And that gives you the chance to now tease them
for not liking the things that you do.
And if you don't like the things that they like
that gives you the opportunity to do the same to them.
In texting conversations you can easily make it interesting
just by creating a little bit
of tension between the two of you.
The best way to do that is to make an assertion about them.
You might wanna say something like
you seem like the kind of person that does this.
Or you seem like the kind of person that would do that.
By creating this agree with or disagree with type
of scenario it becomes easier for them
to jump into the conversation and to say how they feel.
Because let's be honest if you're simply asking questions
and then getting an answer from them,
it's not a conversation it's an interview.
So the best way to make it feel like a conversation
is to be opinionated,
is to share your actual thoughts on their responses.
The more you're engaged in the things that they say
the easier it's gonna be for them to kind of respond back
and to kind of keep the flow going.
But if it's just question after question
after question after question
and there's no personalization to any of it,
well then they're just gonna loose interest
and stop talking to you.
Theses tips are definitely gonna help you out
if it's a person you had a conversation with before,
whether in person or through a DM.
But if it's something your Dming for the very first time.
Someone you've probably never spoken to before,
check out the video over there on the side
to learn how to start that conversation with them.
It's a little bit different.
The tactics are still the same
but there's a different approach you need to take.
Also check out the playlist right underneath it
to watch my other texting tips videos
to help you feel way more comfortable texting your crush.
And then out guys I'll talk to you tomorrow.
As always love and peace.