- What is a narcissist
and what is Narcissistic Personality Disorder?
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What is up everybody?
This is Chris from the Rewired Soul
where we talk about the problem
but focus on the solution.
And welcome back to another video
where this week I am diving into different mental illnesses.
And today I wanna talk about
Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Now, I am thinking about doing more videos around this
but really quick, little rant.
It bothers me that so many people--
There's a stigma around narcissists, right?
And we have to understand,
mental illness is mental illness is mental illness.
It's kind of like when we look at addiction, right?
It doesn't matter if they're a heroin addict
or if they're an alcoholic.
It doesn't matter if you struggle with depression
or if you struggle with narcissistic personality disorder.
These are all mental illnesses
and at some point we have to try to develop some compassion.
Most people who are narcissists
don't like being narcissists.
So do me a favor, do me a favor.
This is my buddy, Ryan Liberty.
Ryan Liberty is a fellow mental health YouTuber
and he has a ton of videos, a ton of videos
on different personality disorders.
He's very well-versed in narcissistic personality disorder
and he has so much empathy for them.
And he's been doing a lot of videos about relationships
and he's actually been affected by narcissists in his life.
So for a guy like him to still have love and compassion
for people who have hurt him just because he understands
their struggle with a mental illness, that is amazing.
And I think he is such a great example
and such a great role-model.
So please, please, please,
if I have ever provided you with any value on my channel,
go check out his channel, give him a subscribe,
say I sent you over, and check out his videos
about Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
He also does a lot of videos about
how to deal with them and stuff like that
but he's been doing a lot of relationship videos.
I've been trying to get him to come
do a guest video over here but he's a really busy guy
so maybe he'll come help me out
when I do my relationship week.
All right, but anyways...
Today we're going to be using this little guy, all right?
This is the Diagnostic Statistical Manual.
Those of you that don't know what this is, the DSM-5,
this is what doctors, therapists, psychiatrists,
this is what medical professionals
and mental health professionals use
to diagnose mental illnesses.
So we're gonna go out of this book
and read the nine symptoms
of Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Now, quick disclaimer.
I am not a therapist, I am not a doctor.
Chances are, if you're watching this you're not either
so if you can relate or identify to these symptoms
there is help, there is treatment available.
Talk to your therapist, talk to your doctor.
If you do not have a therapist yet
go ahead and check out the info
down below in the description.
I will put a link to BetterHelp.
BetterHelp is affordable online therapy.
Basically, you fill out a little questionnaire,
they link you up with licensed professional
who can help you out understanding what you're going through
and they can help you on a path towards healing.
Like I said, it's very inexpensive
so if you need help with your mental health
go ahead and check out the link to BetterHelp
in the description below, all right?
But let's jump into it.
In order to be diagnosed
with Narcissistic Personality Disorder
you need five or more of these symptoms.
Symptom number one:
Has a grandiose sense of self-importance.
This is somebody who thinks they're better than everyone.
And this is something--
By the way, I didn't include this in my rant
but we throw around the word narcissist all the time,
just all the time, all willy-nilly, right?
But this is somebody who thinks
they're above everybody else, okay?
A lot of self-importance, all right?
Symptom number two:
Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success,
power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love.
They have these ideas.
They're so successful, they're so great,
everything is awesome and they think
very, very highly of themselves.
They puff their chest out a lot, right?
Now, something I need to do more videos on
but Ryan has some on it.
A lot of it comes from insecurities for very good reasons.
Symptom number three:
Believes that he or she is special and unique
and can only be understood by or should associate with
other special or high-status people or institutions.
These are people like--
Man, this is something that a lot of people
struggle with in general.
Even if you're not a narcissist,
you might be able to identify with some of these symptoms.
People, they believe they are so unique and so special.
Nobody understands them, nobody gets them.
Oh no, I'm not a narcissist, you just don't get it.
You just don't get me.
You just don't get the path I'm on.
You don't get my greatness.
And they believe that they should
be part of certain social circles and it kind of leads into
some of these next symptoms about entitlement.
Symptom number four:
Requires excessive admiration.
It's always me, me, me, me, me.
Look at me, look at me.
This is a person where you're having a conversation
with them and maybe you're saying something you accomplished
or you had a great day and they're one-upping you.
They want you to love them, know how great they are.
You know what I mean?
Symptom number five:
Has a sense of entitlement.
It gives an example, it says, "unreasonable expectations
"of especially favorable treatment
or automatic compliance with his or her expectations."
So everything should be the way they want, right?
Very entitled.
When things don't go their way
they can snap, they can lose it.
You need to treat me like the king or queen that I am.
Everything, I am owed.
You know what I mean?
Symptom number six:
Is interpersonally exploitive.
Takes advantage of other to achieve his or her own ends.
This is another reason why the word narcissist
gets thrown around everywhere.
Some people are just bad people, okay?
Some people are backstabbers, lairs,
manipulators and stuff like that.
But narcissists will use and abuse people, okay?
They will try to use you as an ends to their means.
Symptom number seven:
Lacks empathy.
Is unwilling to recognize or identify
with the feelings and needs of others.
When you're propping yourself up on this type of pedestal
you don't care who you're walking all over
or who you're affecting or who you're making feel bad.
Again, this is that sense of entitlement.
So maybe being at a restaurant
and freaking out on the waitress or something like that
and you're just belittling them, you know what I mean?
And you're not connecting with the fact,
this feels bad, this makes people feel bad
but you don't care because you're owed so much.
Symptom number eight:
Is often envious of others or believes that others
are envious of him or her.
This is the type of person who believes
that all the haters out there, they're just jealous.
They're just jealous, they wish they were me.
They're just jealous I'm beautiful, I'm great,
I'm awesome, I'm successful and all these other things.
And it's kind of a delusional thought.
But on the flip-side of it they might also be a hater too,
where if anybody is above them
they figure out ways to kind of
point out all their flaws and their mistakes.
You see what I'm saying?
So they are the all-great, all-powerful,
and everything like that.
Symptom number nine:
Shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes.
It's more than confidence, right?
It's that cockiness because I'm so great,
I'm unique, I'm special, and all this other stuff.
It's this extreme arrogance.
You can just see it or feel it exuding, right?
Like they're much better than everybody else
and they can get whatever they want
and all these other things.
Again, those are the nine symptoms
but you gotta realize--
Again, narcissists don't like being narcissists.
Most of them push friends, push family away.
It's hard for them to maintain relationships
because sooner or later people figure it out
and it's very hard, you know what I mean?
And part of this personality disorder
is never thinking that you're at fault
so this is why working with a therapist
is very, very beneficial because you start to catch yourself
and understand what's happening.
Things like dialectical behavioral therapy can help.
When you acknowledge the thoughts
or the feelings that are running through you
and then you have the chance to switch
so you can start to respond rather than react to situations
and it starts to help you foster
better relationships with other people,
as well as better relationships with yourself.
So if you can identify with some of these symptoms
and if you feel like it's hurting
your life and your relationships,
again, go talk to a doctor, talk to a therapist.
Check out the description below
if you're interested in checking out BetterHelp, all right?
But before I let you go, again,
do me a favor and go check out Ryan Liberty's channel.
I will leave it down in the description
as well in the comments below.
Go check out his channel, show him some love, go subscribe.
Educate yourself and understand what it's like
to be empathetic towards people who struggle
from any mental illness, no matter what, all right?
But I would also like to hear from you.
So if you have any comments,
if you feel like you've struggled with this
or you've been diagnosed with this
or you've interacted with any.
I do want to start getting some feedback on this
because I really do want to make some videos
about how we need to start empathizing with people
of all sorts of mental illnesses, all right?
So make sure you leave a comment down below, okay?
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