- Imagine this.
Your boy, FJ, is locked up in a room
with one other person.
So the question has gotta be asked.
Which of the 16 personalities would
I least wanna be locked up with?
Now, of course, it doesn't have to be jail.
I just wanted to wear this costume.
It could just be a waiting room
with not much to do, some chairs,
a table, a couple of magazines, maybe like a topiary.
All right, well, first let's start off
with the types that I wouldn't mind being locked
in a room with.
(electronics glitching)
(Frank chuckles)
Oh, that's right.
There aren't any.
All y'all annoy me.
It's just 16 different nightmares,
being locked alone with you.
Okay, that being said, let's jump into it.
Let's start off with the ENTJ and ESTJ,
the lead extroverted thinkers.
These types are gonna bring a palpable intensity
into the room.
Extroverted thinking is all about getting stuff done
in the real world.
So these types don't do well
just kinda sitting there, doing nothing.
Their favorite thing to do is also
to get other people to work with them,
if not just for them.
And me, being an agreeable guy,
I'll just go along with it.
So if an ENTJ or ESTJ walks in the room and is like,
"We've got all this time with nothing to do.
"Do something.
"Let's organize these magazines,"
and I'll be like, "Okay."
So I don't know.
It's a toss-up between the two of them,
which would be worse to be stuck in a room with,
but either way, it wouldn't be pretty,
let me tell you, honey.
Now, if we go on to the extroverted feelers,
the ENFJ and the ESFJ,
it's a similar kind of thing going on,
but a less intense vibe.
Your focus is still gonna be all on me,
because that's what EJs do.
They focus on other people.
And they still might boss me around a little bit,
but they're not gonna be so much focused
on getting things done, which is
what the extroverted thinking is about,
but they're gonna be focused on,
how do I feel, which is extroverted feeling.
I mean the main issue here, with these types,
I mean all of the EJ types,
but especially these two types,
because they are so people-focused
and interested in what makes people tick,
the conversation is never gonna end.
There will be no break in conversation,
and the conversation will probably stay primarily on me.
They'll be like, "Oh, you do YouTube.
"How do you like this?
"What's this like?
"What's a good--?" (stammers)
I don't even know how to replicate the conversation.
And you know that can be tiring after a while.
Have you ever been in a conversation
where you keep trying to turn it back around
to the other person, but they just keep volleying
it back to you?
That could very well happen with these types.
So yeah, ultimately I would not prefer
to be locked up with either of these two types.
Next, the extroverted sensing types,
the ESTP and ESFP, the thing about
these types is they get bored very easily,
so being stuck in a room with them,
at some point, they're gonna be like,
"Well, we gotta come up with something
"to do to keep ourselves from going crazy here."
An ESTP, for example, might be like,
"Let's do some kind of competition."
An ESFP might also engage in some kind of game,
perhaps, but it's less about the competition
for them and more about just having fun.
So ultimately that doesn't sound like the worst thing
in the world, but it's just not gonna stop
and they will be going from thing to thing.
These types just get bored fast,
and for someone like me, who really doesn't
like to switch gears like that,
it would be very draining.
So ultimately I'm not sure I would love being stuck
in a room with either of them.
Next up, the ENTP and ENFP, the extroverted intuitive.
Now, you know I get along famously
with ENFPs and ENTPs.
I don't know why.
I mean they're kinda fun.
They got a good sense of humor, in general.
They also get bored pretty easily,
but they can, I think, alleviate
their boredom with conversation a bit more.
Because they are intuitive,
exploring abstract ideas is like a fun game
or competition to them.
For both of these types, they would probably try
to engage me in some kind of witty banter,
and I'm all about witty banter.
But they would just take it too far.
They wouldn't know when to stop.
ENFPs especially, they'll just keep going,
and they don't really care so much if you're laughing.
If the ENFP is amused by whatever ideas
they're throwing out there, that's all that matters.
ENTPs will engage a bit more in
some philosophical discussions, probably.
I might make a joke with them about something
and they make another joke,
and then they're like, "Well, actually,"
and then they do this deep dive
into some kind of, something I don't even understand.
I think with these two types,
it really comes down to the amount
of time spent with them.
If it gets to be too long, I'm gonna be burned out.
So I will say I wouldn't love to be locked
in a room with either of them,
but they are probably on the least offensive side
of this list.
If we have a scale between the people
who I really, really, really wouldn't wanna be locked up
with and the people that I
just kinda wouldn't wanna be locked up with,
they're more on that end.
The ISFJ and ISTJ, the lead introverted sensors,
oh, boy, I think perhaps with all the IJ types,
there's just an issue where it's easy
for them to be misunderstood.
For a whole thing about that, thing meaning video,
check out this video in the card above my head,
"Which of the 16 Personalities is Most Misunderstood?"
These types are dominant introverted sensors,
so basically they're looking at reality,
they're looking at the real world,
but it's this very filtered, organized,
particular view of reality that is unique
to each individual ISTJ or ISFJ.
As such, I think it is easy to have kinda miscommunications,
especially if you are another IJ,
where you have your own weird view of reality,
'cause you'll both be trying to talk about things
that are real, and it's like, "Well, I have no idea
"what you are talking about."
That being said, though, I think
these types are pretty down-to-earth,
maybe the most down-to-earth types.
They will feel a need to engage with you to a degree,
but as they are introverts,
they will also kinda know when to stop.
So I'll say, with these two types,
like the ENFP and ENTP before them,
I'll put them on the kinda wouldn't like
to be stuck in a room with them category.
Oh, boy, next, the INTJ and INFJ.
Now, this is a little awkward,
the introverted intuitives,
because I, myself, am one, so it's like,
is this the best possibility,
being stuck in a room with someone
who is very much like yourself?
No.
I say nay.
Neigh, I say. (horse neighs)
Neigh, I say.
Like with the ISFJ and ISTJ,
the introverted intuitives,
they have a very particular view of reality,
and it's intuitive, so it's like
even more disconnected from what
we can perceive with our senses.
Because it's introverted, it's also very particular
from person to person.
So while you might think it's cool
to talk to another introverted intuitive
and like, oh, we're just gonna get things.
We're gonna see things the exact same way.
You might actually have totally different,
abstract interpretations of the world
and be like, "We don't have any common ground here."
These types have a bubble of understanding
of what reality is, and they really don't look
too closely at things outside of that bubble.
So if you present them with stuff
that's outside of that, they might be like,
"Oh, that's interesting, but it's not
"really gonna change how I see things already."
And I'm not so much talking about
how I see things as an opinion,
but more of just like, what is real?
What do things mean?
That's what intuition is.
What do things mean?
What is going on behind the scenes?
What is the overall, top-down view of reality?
So when you get two people who are doing that
in the same way, you might get two people
who are not really interacting with each other,
but are sort of like presenting
these weird facades of themselves
and doing this kind of chess match
that neither one is fully aware of.
So I would put them between the ISFJ/ISTJ, and a ENFP/ENTP.
The thing about IPs is that
they have an introverted judging function
as their dominant function,
which means that they are very inward-focused.
Now, I talked about the IJs as having kind
of a bubble of reality.
This is the way they see reality.
IPs have a similar thing going on.
You could say they're like floating on a cloud,
like that guy in the Mario game.
But they're not bad like the guy in the Mario games.
Well, is he bad?
I don't even know.
And that cloud is what they want to do,
what they feel is important
and what they prioritize or what they think is logical
and what's gonna work for them,
and they're on their own cloud.
Like you can't join the cloud.
You can't upload files to their cloud.
But they can float down on their cloud
if they want to, to be with you.
And for the healthiest IPs,
they can even step off of the cloud
and join the real world for a little bit,
but eventually they do have to kind of retreat
to that cloud.
I am abusing this metaphor.
It's weird to be locked in a room with an IP.
Let's just start talking about the INTPs
and the ISTPs, all right?
IPs are probably the most quiet introverted of the types.
If I am locked in a room with one of these types,
there might not be any conversation at all.
They might just be in a corner and be like,
"You mind if I just read this magazine
"and we don't talk?"
And I'll be like, "Okay," in which case,
it's a little awkward.
I mean, how long are we in this room together?
I don't know.
I didn't set up that parameter
of this hypothetical situation.
But here's the thing, is that there's a switch
that gets flipped and the flood gates will
just open and they'll just start giving
you a monologue about whatever matters to them.
These are very intelligent types.
If you wanna see a video I did
about which type is the most intelligent,
the smartest, if you will, check out
this video in the card above my head.
Like with the INTJ I was talking about,
at some point they will just run over the mushroom
in their Mario Kart cart,
anyway, they will hit the mushroom
and go very fast ahead of me.
The other thing is, if I were to try
to engage in the conversation,
a lotta times they might just rip apart
my attempts at being logical
without meaning to be rude or mean.
They're just trying to point out the inconsistencies,
and it will leave me feeling devastated.
But either way, I think I would
not wanna be stuck in a room with either of these types,
in order to protect myself from looking dumb.
Last, but not least, we come to the INFP
and ISFP, the lead introverted feelers.
The INFP and ISFP are all about their heart, man.
What do they think is important?
What do they value?
That's what their whole world is.
Interestingly, like the ESTJ and ENTJ,
which are the opposites of these types,
the INFP and ISFP have an intensity
to them that you really don't sense
until you're in a conversation with them.
It's almost like they are constantly appraising you,
taking what you are saying and judging,
do I care about this at all?
It can make it feel like more of an effort
to have a conversation with them.
And they are trying.
It's not like they're not trying to engage.
It's just that they're not just gonna BS you.
They're not an Fe user who will
just act interested in anything you say,
because us Fe users are lying to you all the time.
It's very genuine.
I guess that's where the intensity comes from.
It's very authentic and genuine,
their interest in it, but it's hit-and-miss.
I'm not gonna say that it's easy.
So for those reasons, INFP and INSP
I will say I wouldn't love to be stuck
in a room with either of them.
Okay, Frank, so which is the worst one?
You've said you don't wanna be with any of them.
Are you just trying to say you hate all of us?
(Frank dithers)
Before I reveal the type I'd least like
to be stuck in a room with,
make sure you check out
which type is most misunderstood right here.
I gotta go with the INFJ.
There's only room for one of us.
'Til next time, stay cool and attractive.
(lighthearted music)