Intro
Dismissive Avoidant Break-Up: You love me more than I love you
This is a sign a dismissive avoidant loves you
They tell you the things they love about you
Always find something not to like or love about you
Dismissive avoidance may even want to get back together with you but chooses not to
They can't love you back as much as you love
Fears that if you sacrifice way too much to be with them you'll also expect a lot from them
Dismissive avoidant i do my own thing and
you do your own thing when i feel like it we do something together
feeling that the relationship is unsafe goes both ways
constantly ignore your needs disappear for long stretches of time get angry
these behaviors trigger anxiety in somebody with attachment anxiety if you're an avoidant yourself
ended the relationship because they think that you love them more than they love you
1. Don't chase dismissive avoidance don't chase and don't like to be chased
2. Don't cut off contact
avoidance score high on attachment avoidance but they score very low on attachment anxiety
if you cut off contact they shut down and gone with their lives
because they suppress all thoughts and feelings of you they don't know if they miss you or not they
take the fact that they feel nothing to mean that they must not love you enough if they loved you
they'll miss you number three take their offer to be friends a dismissive avoidant may ask for no
contact but it's not to make you miss them it's more of an annoyed reaction to you acting needy
or pushing too much to get back together on most part most dismissive avoidance are open to keeping
the lines of communication open after breakup as long as they're concerned if you don't send too
many text messages or pressure them to come back they don't care one way or the other if you want
to stay in contact that's fine if you want cut off contact that's fine too so if they ask you if
you can stay friends don't turn the offer down i discuss in much detail why you should stay friends
with the dismissive avoidant after a breakup and how that can lead to getting back together
in my video staying friends with the dismissive avoidant number four take things slow like really
slow contact for dismissive avoidant just after breakup is something they do and not an emotional
experience this is not a reflection of how much they love you or even if they love you at all
this is because they suppress all their feelings and thoughts about you it takes them time to start
feeling anything again number five meet most of your needs on your own show dismissive avoidant
ex that you can take care of your own needs and take care of your own happiness and that you're
not sacrificing a lot more than you should to be in a relationship with them number six allow them
to love you show a dismissive avoidant that you can be secure enough to accept them loving you the
way they know how to love most recent studies on attachment styles and romantic relationships are
showing that when one partner is securely touched it might face the person that is insecure touched
to persist in the relationship the same studies also show that avoidance are more willing to open
up to rejection and the risk of getting hurt if they are with a more securely attached partner
Work on becoming securely attached. Don't let your own attachment style get in the way of love