Brainy Dose Presents:
7 Reasons Why True Friendships Are Becoming Rare
The world is changing; that's a fact.
And one of the most significant changes is how we relate to each other.
In the past, you could have a bunch of random friends, but it would be more likely that
some of them were your true friends.
Lately, however, it seems like true friendships are getting increasingly rare and hard to
come by.
So what’s going on here?
What has happened in our culture that has led to fewer true friendships?
The reason for this change can be traced back to several factors.
Let's look at 7 of them!
Number 1 - People Have Forgotten How to Communicate Face-To-Face
It's a sad reality, but it's true.
A lot of people just don't know how to communicate face-to-face anymore.
We live in a world that has become increasingly virtual, with people spending more time on
their phones than interacting with others in real life.
In the past, we would go out in groups to meet others, but now social media has become
the primary tool for socialization, especially among the younger generation; and this has
led to a lack of interpersonal skills that affect the ability to make genuine friendships.
While social media is great for sharing information and keeping up with friends, it's not a substitute
for real social interaction.
And it can be easy to think someone has a lot of friends because they post lots of pictures
or comments every day.
But in person, they might struggle to hold a conversation.
Number 2 - One-Sided and Superficial Relationships Have Become the Norm
Our society is all about getting quick results; and when this applies to relationships, you
end up with one-sided and superficial friendships.
This happens because most people don't take the time to invest in building real relationships.
It takes time to build trust, friendship, and mutual respect.
But we live in such an impatient world that many would rather be entertained by someone
than actually connect with them on a deeper level.
People are also much more concerned about what others think of them than ever before.
This has led to many being afraid of being themselves due to fear of rejection or being
judged as weird or strange if they do not conform to the popular ideals of society.
Number 3 - Modern-Day Technology Has Altered the Way We Look at Friendships
Nowadays, we tend to think of people as friends if they're on our social media accounts or
have the same interests as us.
But this is often not enough to sustain a lasting bond.
Our online connections can be too distant and impersonal to be truly meaningful.
While social media does allow us to chat with people from around the world and lets us see
what they're up to, it often prevents us from spending quality time together on a regular
basis, which makes developing deeper connections difficult, if not impossible.
Number 4 - Today's Society Seems To Have Lost The Meaning Of Loyalty
The internet has brought us closer together, but it also seems to be tearing us apart.
Loyalty is something that many people don't value anymore.
The word friendship has been replaced with following on social media.
The quality and depth of friendships are rarely valued as they once were, as we can simply
scroll through our newsfeeds or swipe left or right on dating apps to find the next best
thing.
In fact, many people don't even attempt to make real friends anymore, since it's so easy
to connect with strangers online.
As a result, many friendships have pretty much become like a tool; they're seen only
as a way of gaining something – like status, for example.
Number 5 - We Live in an Achievement-Based Culture
People are more competitive and status-conscious these days.
A recent study found that we are almost twice as likely to compare ourselves to others today
than we were 30 years ago!
Unfortunately, this increased level of comparison often leads us down a path that places results
above all else, including connections.
And this can be attributed to the fact that we are now living in an information age where
our access to knowledge, people, and opportunities are endless.
The internet provides us with so many options for self-betterment through education and
career paths that weren't available before its invention.
But this has also lead many people to believe that their identities are defined by their
job titles or social media profiles rather than who they are as a person.
The combination of inequality, competition, and identity obsession has made developing
true friendships much more difficult.
Number 6 - People Are Less Emotionally Invested in Each Other's Lives
In the past, when someone asked you how your day was, they actually wanted to know how
your day was.
Today, most people don't want to be inconvenienced by others and their problems.
It's not uncommon for people to feel that they have too much on their plates and that
they don't have the time or energy to be invested in another person's life.
It's an excuse used by many when avoiding true friendships, but there are several reasons
why this is so.
Mainly, people are uncomfortable with emotional vulnerability because it takes serious effort
and courage to connect with someone on a deeper level.
If you allow yourself the freedom of being exposed without knowing if your feelings will
be reciprocated, you risk being hurt or disappointed by those around you, who may not care about
you as much as they say they do or at all.
Number 7 - Increasingly Busy and Demanding Lifestyles
Just look at how our culture celebrates the idea of being busy!
We have countless TV shows and movies about how cool it is to be so overwhelmed with commitments
that you can barely eat or sleep.
It's like we're all competing to prove who has the most important job and almost impossible
schedule!
This means that people spend less time on their relationships whether with friends or
loved ones.
Consequently, they may find themselves spending more time alone than they would like to admit.
In addition, some people are so focused on building their careers that they forget the
importance of investing in their personal lives.
It's an unfortunate truth that genuine friendships are becoming increasingly rare.
But there are things we can all do to help change this trend!
We can start by getting out of our comfort zones, making an effort to meet new people
and reconnecting with old friends, taking time out of our busy lives for quality communication
with those around us, and putting more emphasis on loyalty.
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