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So, I have been looking into the details
of Tiger Woods and Elin Nordegren’s divorce and
it all kind of started off with a bang and
at the time, I was practicing law full-time, so
I was in Florida, my practice was in Florida and
I actually had practice really close by there
for a long time because it happened in Orlando and
I went to law school at the University of Miami,
I practiced in Boca, I practiced in Naples and,
I was like all around there in Florida and,
the family law community is kind of a small community
even though there's a lot of family law attorneys,
but the community can be pretty small.
So, everybody was kind of talking a lot about it,
it was kind of crazy situation, because, of course,
Tiger Woods was this very pristine sort of image at the time.
Now, there's been a lot of different tarnish
around the situation, but at the time
there was not and out of the blue,
he's crashing his car into a tree and
had this huge fight with his wife and
it turns out she found out he was cheating.
Ok. How many superstars have cheated on their wives?
All right. Well, is that news?
Well, not really so much news.
Turns out he was having an affair,
with this woman named Rachel Uchitel,
she’s a nightclub worker.
Lots of guys, lots of rich, powerful athletes have had affairs.
Unfortunately, this isn't really so much news.
What ends up being much more news after that
is the fact that it was like an endless stream
of many different women at the time and
all the way down to like Denny's waitress
or something that wasn't even like,
I don't even think she was like
all that attractive and it was okay,
Tiger seems like maybe you have a problem.
By the way, I don't know if you guys have
seen the special, I think is on Netflix,
but it's kind of an interesting deep delve
into his past and his childhood and
basically his parents sort of groomed him
into being the making of Tiger Woods and
there was a whole lot of nurturing going on there.
They wanted him to be
this golf superstar and there was that.
So, he didn't get to have like a whole lot of fun and
he didn't get to be much of a kid,
sort of like, Michael Jackson
there are like so many different guys or people
who were raised that way, unfortunately.
But anyway, I digress.
So, he goes and he has this press conference and
he said I'm so sorry and I was wrong,
blah, blah, blah, blah, blah blah.
He ends up having to pay his wife
like a hundred million dollars
or something at the time,
which was at the time like a big, huge settlemen,
which now seems like chump change in light of
the Bezos’ and Bill Gates’ divorces.
Which by the way, if you want to
know more about the Bill Gates divorce,
you can check out my video on the Gates divorce.
What is she getting, and
of course that hundred million dollars did not
factor in the lost revenue that Tiger had to endure
because he had like a lot of endorsements and
he lost a lot of revenue.
Once his activities came to light,
all of those, a lot of those companies went
Yeah. No, no thank you.
Anyway, he had these two little children at the time of his divorce.
His son was an infant and his daughter,
his son Charlie was I think a couple months older and
his daughter Sam, was two or something at the time,
anyway, he has this press conference and
he's like, “I felt entitled and I'm really sorry
I felt due to with my money and fame.
I didn't have to go very far”.
It sounds sort of narky to me, to be honest with you.
I don't know. It sounds like a sort of sorry like
“Sorry I got caught” kind of a thing.
I do have a video on “What is a narcissist
really saying when they say they're sorry”.
But, anway...
So, has he lived a life of integrity since then?
Who really knows? To be honest with you
because he hasn't gotten married again.
But anyway, in February 2021 he ends up having
this very mysterious car crash in California,
he has struggled with an addiction to painkillers.
I don't think he's a particularly happy guy,
but I think the messiest part of his split,
is the messiest part of a lot of splits, and
I think the biggest losers in this whole thing,
have been his children.
The biggest impact has really been on them
because they're getting to an age now,
where they can get on the internet and
google pretty much anything and
they get to see, you know,
his activities, the kinds of things that he's done,
see the sort of distorted past that he had,
all the women that he was with,
all the stuff that he was doing and up to and
I'm sure it's probably not the greatest and
I don't know anything about the ex-wife,
I heard something about her, she's in a new relationship.
She had another baby recently and
hopefully there's some stability there and
hopefully Tiger has found some level of stability and,
he's getting to be older now.
But, the kids have had to go back and forth.
They’ve had to live this sort of high-profile life and
everybody's kind of got this glare on them and
instead of getting to have somewhat of
a shelter, lifestyle, in a bit of a family unit,
they had to endure all of this craziness because of
the craziness of their dad,
his inability to be somewhat stable,
his struggle, his personal struggles, and
hey, we're all human, we've all had to deal
with our own personal struggles, and
our kids have to go along for the ride and
I know for me, when I was dealing with my own divorce,
I got married at 19 the first time,
I had three kids by the time I was 22 and
I had to go back to law school and all the sudden,
I remember saying to my mom,
I wish I could like freeze my kids over here,
finish law school, clean up my life,
go get my kids and then like, resume.
But unfortunately, you can't do that.
The kids are part of it and
so I think that the messiest part
of the split is always the kids.
So, the message from me and all of this
is for those of you who are out there,
who are trying to divorce and you're dealing with kids
is try to always remember to put your kids first.
It's so hard to do when you're dealing with
a narcissist on the other side and
you're trying to co-parent with a narcissist on the other side
because co-, co- anything
when you're dealing with a narcissist
on the other side is almost impossible.
I mean, you're basically trying to be the steady one, and
you've got crazy on the other side and
you just got to set boundaries,
you got to get the court involved,
you gotta have an app, have parallel parenting,
you've got to have as much structure and
as much specificity as you possibly can and
you've got to be the one that is steady and
you've got to be the one that's in control and
provides the stability for your children and
put your children first.
So, I think that's the messiest part
of Tiger and Elin’s divorce,
I always think that's the messiest part
of a lot of divorces.
Frankly, money is money.
Kids are the most important thing.
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