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Have you ever wondered,
what makes you or other people attractive?
Do you believe that attraction
is purely based on physical attributes?
Maybe you think it has to do with your height,
the color of your eyes, or how sharp your jawline is,
but attraction is actually much deeper
than just your physical characteristics.
Instead, other attributes and habits
can play a part in how attractive you are.
Your personality, mannerisms, talking habits
and body language can affect
how much others are attracted to you.
So here are 10 surprising habits
which may make you more attractive.
Before we begin, we would like to mention
that this video is for educational purposes only,
and not designed to suggest that only these traits
are considered attractive.
Everybody is different,
and experiences attraction differently.
Number one, you're curious about everything.
Do you enjoy learning about how things work?
Do you often ask yourself why people behave the way they do?
Being curious about the world
and having a willingness to learn about how things work
shows others that you're open to new opportunities
and experiences, which is an attractive trait.
Number two, you make time for yourself.
Do you dedicate time to pursue
the things that make you happy?
People who are constantly busy
doing things they genuinely enjoy,
usually end up becoming more successful
than those who treat their time as if it's worth nothing.
This may be because, having your own goals,
passions and dreams,
that are separate from anyone and anything else
shows that you're motivated
and aware of your own abilities and not dependent on others.
Number three, open body language and mirroring.
Do you always look away or cross your arms
when you're talking with others?
This type of closed body language can be off-putting,
instead, direct eye contact, open body language,
and the ability to engage and connect with others
can all help to increase perceived attractiveness.
Also, according to a study done in the Netherlands,
imitating and mimicking someone's movement
can actually foster feelings of connectedness,
which make you seem more attractive.
Number four, you live in the moment.
Are you always aware and present in the moment?
According to a study on attractiveness
during a speed dating situation,
women found men to be more attractive
if they measured higher in mindfulness.
Number five, you connect deeply with people.
Have you ever heard the phrase,
"Birds of a feather flock together?"
According to Power of Positivity,
we're attracted to people similar to us.
You may have noticed this most at school.
When those with similar interests and hobbies
spend most of their time together.
The more you connect deeply with others,
the more likable attractive you become.
Number six, you look for thrill-seeking adventures.
Do you purposefully look for activities
that would make your blood rush?
According to a study,
in the journal "Archives of Sexual Behavior,"
single people who went for a ride on a roller coaster
rated members of the opposite sex as more attractive.
So you may wanna take your date on a rollercoaster
the next time you see them.
Number seven, you exercise and have a healthy body.
And it comes as no surprise, that your physique plays a part
in how others may be attracted to you.
While not everybody should be aiming
to look like a supermodel
or be the next big boxing champion,
both men and women do tend to look out for healthy partners.
This attraction to healthy bodies,
maybe because healthy partners bring about a higher chance
of success at raising healthy children.
Number eight, you say thank you.
Do you thank people when they help you?
Perhaps someone held the door open for you
on your way to work,
or maybe it's the waitress that was serving you at lunch.
Saying thank you, is a sign of gratitude and politeness.
Not only does it show others
that you appreciate their effort,
but it also tells others that you're kind and thoughtful,
which is an attractive trait.
Number nine, you forgive and learn from your mistakes.
Are you the type to keep making the same mistakes
over and over again,
or do you learn from them and go from there?
Demonstrating self-kindness
by forgiving yourself for making mistakes
shows that you're working towards improving yourself.
Studies have shown that psychological traits
are important in human mating.
With both sexes,
valuing intelligence and kindness, very highly.
And number 10, you know your worth.
Do you depend on other people to validate your worth?
Being confident in the fact that you are intrinsically
valuable as a human being and more so,
because of your character, intelligence
and kind actions, is attractive.
Self-love is the best way to build self-confidence
and there is nothing wrong with thinking,
"I would make a great catch for the partner
who is worthy of me."
As long as you aim for an attitude
of gentle, self-assurance,
that doesn't cross a line into arrogance.
Have you done any of the things we've listed?
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