﻿Breakups are bad; or not. Sometimes they’re great, sometimes you’re like “Sayonara”!
Barbie: "Buh-bye now! Bye!" But in general, they’re rough,
right? They’re not fun. I would give them a 4/10. One of the hardest things
about when you first break up with someone, is sharing the news with people around you.
Personally, I like the method of telling the one friend who’s a gossip,
so they share the news with the masses. But what if you’re a Vlogger? A Vlog-Hog? Rather
than sharing the news via word of mouth, what if you sit down with your now ex-partner and film
yourselves having 'the talk' in front of millions? Kinda smart, right? Or is it? No, it's not.
Before I dive in, lemme introduce myself. My name is Tara Mooknee, and this is the only channel on
YouTube where all videos are written and produced by a cow. She couldn’t be in the video today,
because incidentally, she’s currently breaking up with someone as we speak. She wanted to be in the
video today, and you know, she was gonna just do it over text, but I said to her, “No cow, that’s
F-ed up, go do it in person!” But, if you like and subscribe, she might appear in the next video.
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Break up videos are not a new thing, and they tend to come from vlog channels. The channels
where people overshare their lives, anyway. And I imagine that they’re pretty lucrative, because
they get a lot of views. My kneejerk reaction to a breakup video is: WHY? Why would you do this? But,
I want to be fair. I guess in the weird world that is YouTube vlogging, it makes a grain of sense.
If you’re both public figures with attached followers who are invested in your relationship,
I can sort of see why you would do it. That being said, the only time it doesn’t make me cringe into
oblivion is when the breakup is amicable. I’ve never watched either of these people’s videos,
but their breakup video made the most sense out of all the ones I saw. Since they both shared
an audience and it was amicable, I suppose it’s a good way to say to your audience “don’t take
sides, don't send hate, we’re friends, it’s cool.” Because fan-bases are rabid, and sometimes, if you
leave things to mystery, they make up all sorts of theories and run with it! But then again, you
can just do that with a community post. But then again, community posts don't make any money...
When breakup videos are done badly - oh boy! They’re rough. They make me want to
crawl out of my skin and curl myself up into an egg and not hatch until the video
has been wiped from existence. They’re that level of cringe. Like this one:
"Like, it wasn't really that bad between us at that point-"
"For me it was, I was going through it at that point."
This video has been making the rounds and I can see why- It’s difficult to watch.
That being said, I have some potentially unpopular opinions about it, but I will get to that later.
This is from a channel called 'OkBaby', and they’re a classic family channel,
broadcasting their infants without their consent and creating an online footprint
they’ll never be able to erase. Awesome! They’ve got 4 kids together, and the couple
are both 25 years old. The eldest son is 6, so damn, that means they started their family at 19!
As someone who is 26 (I know I don't look it, but I am!) I can safely say that the
kind of relationships I had when I was 19, are not ones I would want to be in now; because,
people change. But this is messy, because there’s kids involved. So, why not hash out
your issues on camera and broadcast it to your 1.5 million subscribers? What could go wrong?
"Kiera broke up with me!" *Laughs* "SO crazy-" "Does it make you feel better to say it like
that? Do you feel better because it's not you?"
"Uhh, yeah! Because I tried my ASS off to make it work in the end, and um-"
Right now, I wish I drank because I feel like gin would help me get through this...
"The confidence- I love it! The fact that you think that, after everything
you put me through, I'd be like-" *Laughs* "Oh, me put you through?
I've done NOTHING! Like, besides some attitude here and there..."
So clearly, there’s some unresolved
issues. Perhaps they should have had these conversations before- off camera!
"So, what triggered you to be SO mean though the last month?"
Obviously, this is bad- it's not healthy for them, and it sure as
hell isn’t healthy for kids- their kids. I’m no family therapist, but this can’t be good.
"Are we just best friends? Like, I feel like that's what we are. Is there more to it than that,
you know? And there- there has been more to it than that, but at this point in our lives, I
don't feel like there is more to it than that. And nothing happened that's like,
crazy and dramatic; nobody like, cheated, nobody like..."
"Feelings were hurt, though. You did some things that hurt my feelings- BUT, I found out later on-
like, a month later, that it's because you were holding these feelings inside
and kind of resenting me for it-" "Yeah. But, can you please varify
that I wasn't cheating? People will dig into that."
"Yeah, you weren't cheating. You weren't cheating. You did alot of things that
bothered me, I wouldn't consider them full-blown cheating, but it was definitely lying, and..."
"Obviously, I'm not keeping that-" "Alright, alright, fine, fine..."
Here’s where my unpopular opinions come in. Now, they did set themselves up to
be criticised by posting this, as you do when you put yourself online. However,
the comment section seems to be unanimously on the guy’s side
and against the lady. The most common criticisms are: she keeps interrupting him...
"No, I'm just thinking, I'm just thinking- I- I'm sorry, I'm thinking about, like,
the future too, like, how it's gonna go,
and just like, financially- finances, I mean-" "We're still gonna be vlogging together on
this channel. Last night was the first night in the 'new room'..."
People suspect she cheated, even though he says she didn’t...
"I think we're gonna keep doing what we're doing. She's been
extremely respectful of the break-up process, nobody else- like I said-
like SHE said- nobody else has been involved, there was no cheating, no nothing..."
...And that she's 'giving up on the relationship'. I have no skin in this game, but I do think,
perhaps- don’t crucify me, but perhaps she’s being overly and unfairly vilified.
And maybe breakups aren’t black and white. Jesus, I know, you people hate nuance, I get it!
I saw loads of people complaining that she was giving up, and that marriage isn’t easy,
and she can still “find herself” with him, and “he’s such a good guy”, and it’s like - if you’re
looking for a reason to break up with someone - there’s your reason! When there’s kids involved,
I agree, you should exhaust other options, and try and work things out first;
but to just stay together for them will not foster a healthy environment. They’re also
so young! Not wanting to be with someone you met at 19 forever, is VERY common- it happens.
And with regards to her alleged cheating, he says she didn’t cheat. People point to this clip:
"I knew when I, in my head, was thinking of Austin being happy with somebody else, and that made me
happier, that's when I knew I didn't want to be with you anymore... He was talking about like,
sleeping with girls and how he was gonna do that, and I was trying to give him advice
on like, how to sleep with girls, or like, know when a girl wants to, and I was like-"
"Oh my god, that was-" "-and it was the funniest,
wierdest conversation..." "Not that I was trying to get
any, but she was telling me like, 'hey, I know you used to sleep with them', I'm like, WHAT?
First of all, we're not even talking about that!" "Well, I think that, I don't know,
I feel like guys kind of like, they just like, need that like-"
...And maybe she did say that because she had done it herself; but I think it’s also part of being
the dumper. If your dumpee gets with someone else, it kind of eases your guilt a little, because
it means they’re not sitting at home crying over you, but instead, you know, at least out
having a good time- theoretically. They might be crying over you with that person, but...
"...and it was the funniest-"
Don't get me wrong, this IS weird, but I kinda get it.
"I've done nothing! Like, besides some attitude here and there...
And comforting another guy, because he was sad."
"Oooh, there it is!" "I- I didn't even do
anything! This- this is comforting to Oscar-" "Nooo, shut the- but guys, that was early
on. Don't even get me started. Anyway-" "But one time, Oscar was talking to Hannah,
and they were helping each other through emotional things, so is that weird?"
Yeah, this is something you bring up in counselling, not on camera. Yikes!
Also, who are they kidding with this whole “we love each other" bollocks?! They’ve made
Instagram posts being like, “we’re besties!” and it’s like, bestie, you’re not besties.
So, this is where I’m going to get crucified. I feel empathy for them both. It seems like a
shitty situation, but contrary to popular belief, I feel sympathy for her, too.
As someone who’s been broken up with, and broken up with other people, personally,
I’ve found the latter much harder. I grew up on a diet of Catholic guilt, so
the idea of seeing someone cry, and knowing that I've caused it,
makes me want to run into a bear enclosure, or dive into a tank of jellyfish. It’s hard for
both parties, you don’t have to pick a side! So, maybe the reality is, when relationships
break down, people aren’t at their best, and they do things that aren’t great,
but that doesn’t mean they’re irredeemable. So yeah, they shouldn’t have made this. It
was a bad idea, so they deleted it. I’m kidding, they made another one!
"...But the other thing that was asked alot is like, the kids,
obviously. Have we told the kids, what have we told the kids, how are they reacting?"
"I don't know if like, do I even bring it up, or just kind of like, just
keep going? Because right now-" "Things are so like, so normal,
from their point of view, like, we're still-" "At least WE think, we don't know..."
Wait, what?? I know their kids are young, but shouldn’t they tell them
before the internet? Man, I feel SO sorry for the kids,
when they’re old enough to see this, man, that’s going to FUCK with their heads!
Speaking of kids, what if you had your kids in the break up video? That would be abuse, right?
"I've got to tell you this way,
so I do apologize..." "Happy April Fools!!"
Just a prank, BRO!! It was just a prank, bruh! How many kids do you reckon cried whilst watching
this? Because of parasocial relationships, but also because it conjured up feelings from
their parents breaking up? Seems like causing unnecessary trauma to your audience,
and your child in the video! Even though this was a prank, it's still fucked up, right? I’m
not alone in thinking that, right? Because even though she was acting, they still made
their daughter go to that emotional place, for profit. Maybe we do live in a simulation.
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