Hey there, Bestie viewers! Are you in a happy relationship? Well there are certain realities
you need to accept when dating someone. Just because you’re happy with your current partner
doesn’t mean you’re ready for marriage. In today’s video, we’re going to be looking
at 9 Reasons You’re Not Ready To Tie The Knot. Are there extreme differences between
the two of you? Are you marrying them out of fear? Are you still looking for
someone better? We’re talking all that AND more… You're still on the lookout for something better
If you're about to get hitched and your mind is going crazy, it’s important to figure out why.
People who think that marriage is the ultimate remedy for
their problems are making a huge mistake. Oftentimes, people feel like someone better
is just around the corner. It’s one of those thoughts creeping around in people’s heads.
Research states that for years, it was just assumed that premarital doubt and
hesitation were common among soon-to-be couples. Of course, what’s the purpose of getting married
to someone when you have no confidence in them? You'll never be able to have a good
relationship because your heart will constantly be drawn to what you think you've been missing.
And it won't be easy to change your mind once you've married someone. To put it
simply, you're not ready to be married yet. Have you ever been in a relationship, and loved
someone else? How did that work out? Sound off in the comment section, and start a conversation
with our Bestie community... You’re marrying out of shame or fear
It’s pretty clear. If you marry someone out of shame or fear, it’s not going to last.
Studies prove that love is required in order for a marriage to work.
If there’s no love between the two of you, things are off to a terrible start.
Remember, a marriage can only succeed if both parties are happy.
Anyone who marries out of fear or guilt will not be able to maintain a good relationship.
If your family urges you to marry someone, but you don't feel connected to them,
don't marry them! It's your life, and you have the right to make decisions for yourself!
Divorce is common when things like this happen. Feel like you’re missing out? Make sure you
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You're getting married because most of your friends have
This is another major issue, and it hits home for so many of us. Some people marry
just because their friends have already tied the knot themselves. Does this sound like you?
Marriage is not a game. You can’t just do something simply because your buddies are doing
it. It’s one thing to buy a piece of clothing that’s popular right now. It’s another thing to be
with a person for the rest of your natural life! Marriage demands several sacrifices, which you
won’t be able to make when going into it with this mindset. You should have a clear viewpoint before
saying ‘YES’ to marriage. If you don't know why you want to get married, you should try and figure
it out beforehand! There's no purpose in tying the knot if you're doing it for the wrong reasons.
You keep secrets from your partner One of the most telling signs that
you aren't ready to marry is secrecy. If you're keeping secrets from your partner,
you should probably forget about marriage. Studies prove that closeness might increase
the likelihood of secret sharing. If you’re not comfortable sharing
your secrets with your significant other, it shows you guys don’t trust each other yet.
The secrets can be romantic desires, dark thoughts, or disappointments,
among other things. Keeping secrets from your partner will only lead to a chaotic marriage.
Of course, no secret can be kept hidden forever. If your better half discovers
that you’re hiding information from them, they will lose trust in you. And if you start having
trust issues, your life becomes a living hell. So, if you have a habit of keeping secrets from
your partner, you should rethink marriage. You're still stuck in the past
Still miss your ex? Well, until you get over this, you shouldn’t get married.
Missing someone else just shows that there’s no room in your life for another individual.
Imagine having a current partner, and still dwelling on a past relationship. Imagine if
this past partner is still in your life! The findings of one study revealed that
the presence of a past partner in one's life gets in the way of a current relationship,
and can even affect its success. Always remember that marriage is a
two-person job. You can’t be living in the past. You need to be in the present with your spouse.
When you’re fixated on a love that died out years ago, your marriage is headed for disaster.
Before we move ahead, are you still searching for the right person? Well, here’s a video you
need to take a look at. Watch and learn about 8 zodiac combinations that are perfect matches.
Now back to our talk on 9 signs you’re not ready to get married…
You're not willing to compromise Marriage, believe it or not, is
full of compromises. Nobody can have a good life unless they’re prepared to make some adjustments.
Remember, you’re now living for someone else, not just yourself.
Research shows that when two people are able to compromise with each other, the better off they’ll
be as a couple. The more you love your partner, the easier it will be to make these compromises.
This can be something small such as where to eat for breakfast, or something huge like
moving to a new country for your partner’s job. To compromise in a relationship means to set
aside your plans in order to make things work with the person you love. Sometimes,
you’ll be able to find things that work for the both of you. Other times, it involves giving in
to the other person so things will work out in the long run. If you refuse to compromise,
you’re not ready for marriage yet. You don't trust each other
Trust is the most important aspect of a good marriage. You will never be happy in
your marriage if there is no trust. Have you ever had a friend you didn’t trust?
How did your relationship work out with them? If you’re no longer friends with them, what makes
you think a marriage is going to be any different? According to research, one of the most important
elements of a romantic relationship is trust. Not only is being faithful linked to trust,
but also vulnerability and emotional closeness. A relationship's foundation is trust. Some people,
however, have a hard time trusting anyone, let alone their spouse. If trust is an issue for you,
marriage is not going to work right now. Trust is life's glue. It’s the most important
part of good communication. It's the underlying idea that all relationships are built on.
You can't deal with disagreements Every couple is going to argue.
We’ve all been in a heated back and forth with someone we love. If you can't hash
out your differences with your partner, a lifetime with this person is a bad idea.
Research proves that when partners have opposing views, intentions, and preferences,
stress can occur in their relationship. Unmet expectations, lack of time spent together,
financial troubles, and other issues are common factors that create conflict.
If the problems keep reappearing without any solution, it's time to seek professional help.
This will help you figure out how to deal with disagreements, and whether or not your
bond can actually survive. One of the most important aspects of a strong relationship
is knowing how to deal with arguments. Until this is resolved, don’t get married.
You like your spouse, but aren't head over heels in love with them
If you're thinking of marrying someone only because they’re good looking, you shouldn’t marry
them. There needs to be more in a relationship. As the years go on, looks fade away. There needs to
be another reason to enjoy your spouse’s company. Studies prove that a successful relationship
relies heavily on love. Love is a complex mix of feelings, thoughts, and behaviors.
Every successful relationship has this mix. Even if you don't love the individual,
marrying them won't assist you in the long term. What difference does it make whether
the individual will be a good partner or not? You already don’t love them.
A strong connection relies on the presence of love. If you don't love someone,
you won’t keep them in your life for long. You need to reciprocate love. If you don’t,
the other person will be disappointed. If you recognize yourself in any of these
scenarios, you should rethink your decision. Marriage should be fun,
and above all, happy. Have I sparked your interest? Let’s keep the conversation going
with a couple more videos, shall we? Here’s what else might interest you.
Check out 8 questions to ask your partner before getting married. Or how about 7
types of touches that are powerful in marriage? Go ahead, click one. Or better yet, watch both,
and learn how to make your marriage succeed. Do you know of any more reasons why people should
think before agreeing to get married? Let us know in the comments below!